Me and dh ( both 41) have had some debts for a while now. I admit that I allow dh to deal with the money stuff and he will periodically balance transfer the credit card debt etc. He also manages the payments.
I noticed he has been looking stressed recently and in a couple of occasions has tried to raise the issue of the debt. I admit that ok not great at these conversations and can get a bit shitty
2 days ago he had a big emotional breakdown- crying etc. very out of character. It turns out that our debt is about 15k more that I thought.,he said that he’s struggling with the emotional burden of it, and feels like it’s all in his shoulders.
i didn’t respond brilliantly and was a bit shitty with him. I guess I felt/feel key down as I trusted him to deal with it. He says he is hurt and feels like I’m blaming him, and that he has tried to talk to me but feels that I’m dismissive, or argumentative.
not sure how to feel. He is a good man and I have zero concerns that the debt is linked to anything dodgy. I know why were in debt. AIBU to feel annoyed at him?