24 Yr old ss - maintenance

[ChateauQueen]

Name change for post. 24 Yr ss mostly lives with mum - roughly 2 days a week with dh and I. Had a few pt jobs while at uni - none longer than 3 months. Doesn't like working Christmas and holidays. Just been backpacking round Asia for 6 months (funded by money given by us and mum's family) DH has continued to pay maintenance during this time, and has said he will do until dss is settled with a job. We have 3 older kids between us and 2 younger together. We both work and I also look after 2 grandkids 3 days a week for my dd and my other dss. Aibu to think he shouldn't be paying maintenance for a 24 Yr old?!?

Are his friends similar ages and similarly unemployed?

Laughing at posters who think that because OP provides childcare for her grandkids that she should give him money to the same value. You must be out of your minds.

I'm 37 but when I (hopefully) have grandkids, I wouldn't want them to be in a nursery or childcare either. It doesn't mean that I have to give money to a child of mine who didn't have kids to make up for it!!

Some of those children are her step-grandchildren though, so presumably her DH is happy about it as it benefits his son.

If there is joint money, it has to be an equal say on what it gets spent on, regardless of who brings in the most. Even if it's agreeing to share what's left to spend on whatever the like. It's not actually joint money otherwise.

Everything about this post is weird!

I certainly don't think that the OP should give the monetary value of the childcare. But the man child is not the only person receiving a lot of help from OP and her husband.

😂