My sister is unfailingly helpful and really does her bit for family. However, like all of us, she can be a bit odd.
Imo she’s got fixed ideas about how people ought to behave and any deviation from that is met with shock and disbelief. Recent things I’ve done that she’s been shocked about; not taken a book on a long flight (planned to read articles on my phone, watch onboard tv, and nap), ordered Thai after said long flight instead of shopping for food and cooking, killing an ant in my car “but you can’t do that. We are kind to animals”. I don’t care if people eat meat, but I haven’t for over 30 years. She eats meat, so I found that schoolmarmish telling off a bit peculiar. I said “you eat meat” & she said “sometimes, but I’d never kill an ant”. (I’m not saying I have a great excuse for it, but ants creep me right out and I don’t think they feel pain or process emotions in the same way animals do).
Am I being unreasonable to find it a bit annoying that a middle-aged woman can’t imagine someone has different habits than she does. She’s also shocked that I like wind, watching telly, and occasionally wearing high heels: ie, am a different person to her.
AIBU?
My sister can be a bit odd
Ritascornershop · 11/09/2022 23:45
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLChocolatelabradorsarethebest · 12/09/2022 09:00
My DF is like this and it gets exhausting in every conversation, even the smallest things.
But judging by the threads on here I’m sure your DS is a prolific mumsnetter! The amount of people who ‘simply cannot understand why neighbour/DH/Friend does x and not y’ never ceases to amaze me. Maybe it’s because different people like / do different things?!
Choconut · 12/09/2022 11:05
Isn't it just a case of her having different views to you and expressing them? All sounds very minor.
Choconut · 12/09/2022 11:05
Isn't it just a case of her having different views to you and expressing them? All sounds very minor.
INeverSawAPurpleCow · 12/09/2022 12:05
I think it's insecurity. My brother gives me endless nasty little put-downs because, for example, I drink bottled beer and don't do expensive holidays overseas. I have explained to him more than once that I simply have different tastes from him but he continues to make snide comments and smirk when I do something he considers to have lower status than his own choices. Fact is, I could afford the things he chooses but I don't want to. I think that's what bothers him most of all. It's almost FOMO - what if my choices are better than his? For me, they are. I don't give an arse what he prefers, though.
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