Re : Parties

[Hintofreality]

AIBU to think that if you want a big family party, and you live in a semi detached property, you hire a hall rather than subjecting your neighbours to hours of ear splitting kid’s screeching?

So, given the OP refuses to say whether this is a regular occurrence or a one-off, we can all assume it’s a one-off.

Therefore, YABU.

It really isn't their fault that you had a stressful week. The noise may be annoying, but an occasional party is reasonable. Headphones on, and relax.

For a one-off party?

Of course you can have it at home.

People are becoming absolutely intolerant of anything.

You're completely unreasonable. They are having a one off party at their house.

Having mine at home and won't be keeping the kids quiet. It's one day ffs and it's kids having fun. I can see why it's an awful sound to someone who is generally miserable tho

If the party started at 8am, or went on til 10/11pm, then YANBU

However, for a one off party, in the day, with kids having fun in the garden, YABU. It's not their fault you've had a rough week, they're perfectly entitled to have a party in their own house and garden

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Apologies, I was occupied getting my Children ready for school.

It’s irrelevant whether it is a one off or regular occurrence. it was an entire Sunday afternoon and evening of screaming, shrieking, shouting and kids fighting from around 50 people crammed in to a semi.

it’s rude and disrespectful to your neighbours to subject them to that level of noise and to intrude on to their family time.

AIBU to think if you want a huge party you hire a suitable venue?

50 people, 15/20 kids in a semi ? Nah.
Better to hire the local village/church hall and let them make as much noise as they want....

It absolutely does make a difference if it's a one off or not.

I used to live next door to someone who was so quiet but once or twice a year they hosted a full on party along with DJ in the back garden. Yea it was loud and there were kids playing etc but it finished at 11pm and it wasn't every weekend. I don't get the problem at all if I'm honest. You just sound as if you were being grumpy after your stressful week. Lighten up.

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I had a family party for my 40th. We live in a street where gardens are small and back to back. Some were outside some inside. I wouldn’t hire a hall for a few people. Don’t understand some on mumsnet that think we can’t make noise in our own houses or be in our gardens. As long as it’s not antisocial hours or ridiculous behaviour it’s fine.

Kids make noise. It wasn’t two am. The people hosting could of had a stressful week and were enjoying themselves.

@Mybeautifulfriend22 I wouldn’t hire a hall for a few people.

Agreed.
But it wasn't a "few people" was it?
It was 50 adults and 15/20 children.

You don’t get to tell us what’s ‘relevant’ or not.

You have asked us if YABU.

We are telling you that because it’s a one-off, you are.

If you don’t think YABU, then what the hell are you doing wasting everyone’s time?

We had 100 teenagers in the garden of our terraced house for an 18th, complete with a full PA system.
My elderly neighbours all dropped in gifts for the birthday girl and said how lovely it was to see young people enjoying themselves again.

YABU. And I say this as someone who, mostly due to extreme laziness, always held birthday parties at the church hall (cba to clean my house both before and after the chaos!) Children's parties ARE chaos, they aren't 'a nice afternoon tea and pass the parcel' and that's what makes them wonderful.

You say it doesn't matter if it's a one-off or a regular thing, but it really does. Because normal people do have a couple of parties a year, and as neighbours we accept that. If it were every weekend, I could at least sympathise with you.

However many times you ask this, OP, the answer will still be YABU.

It is perfectly OK to have a one-off party of that size in your own semi-detached home during the day.

Yes, it was noisy and annoying for you on that one day. But that doesn’t change the fact that YABU.

The only thing that's relevant IS if it was a one off or regular!

One off fine, every week not fine. Why ask on AIBU if you think you're right regardless?

It sounds like a one off if you think it's the kind of thing they could hire a party hall for so I think yabu to not tolerate one day of excessive noise.

In that case,

Yes, yabu.

@Hintofreality if it’s a one-off during the day I’d suck it up. If it was late as happened round here recently (incredible noise plus parents picking up) I’d be a bit peed off.

I’m not sure that not liking hours of screeching is being a fun sponge. It sounds fucking annoying but that is part and parcel of living immediately next to someone. It’s a big reason why I would only consider detached houses with a land buffer. I understand that’s not always possible though.

That said, if they can make noise then so can you. My husband’s got a friend that’s had a similar issue and he addressed it by blasting death metal through some speakers.

Neighbours of mine have a karaoke garden party once a year. It can be heard by roughly 50 houses. If they all did it, we'd have children screeching out of tune EVERY weekend.

No, it's not irrelevant.
It's a one of family party FFS. Fair enough if this was happening every few weeks. You're a total SNOB, get over yourself.