To think that this was very wrong of her?

[FattyAirways]

I mother and I were away on a break along with my stepfather. I don't get on great with either but after my mother had been ill, I thought I'd make the effort.

One night we had an argument about something. She's very hot headed and they both stormed off to bed and had very loud sex. I could hear everything, including the slapping 🤐and it's really affected me to the point that whenever I have sex or think about sex, I think of my mother. It's really awful. She's been horrible throughout my life. How can I get over myself?

Think about her in a Ronald MacDonald costume. She does things her way, you do thing your way.

Why on earth did you stay to listen?
You could have taken a walk, put music/ headphones on, turned the volume up on the tv …..

practically though, the more sex you have the more you will get over this.

lol really? Surely you didn’t just stay and listen.

really

Another controversial thread OP? 😴

This honestly happened. It was very late at night so I couldn't go anywhere. We were staying in the middle of nowhere.

Omg... If ever there was a time to have gone out and DONE ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING ELSE, that was most definitely it!

I also have trauma from childhood abuse, so please be kind.

The "slapping" wtf?

OP said it was nighttime and they were all on holiday so obviously in the same accommodation.

Your mother is a selfish person OP, go as low contact with her as you can get away with.

People with nice “motherly” mums will never understand what it’s like to have your kind of mother. Protect yourself 💐

I would've gone out and sat beneath a tree or slept in a pig sty lol

But my question was, was she wrong to have done this? I think she was an absolute twat! Am I justified in thinking this?

Dunno, maybe she didn't realise how loud they were being?

Would it make you feel better if they were faking it just to have annoyed you? If so, imagine that. You'll never know if they really were or not. Don't let them affect you. Go NC. Improve your life without them.

Apologies OP, I hadn't seen your message. Yes, she was of course out of order!

was a grow woman wrong for having sex with her husband on holiday?

no

Im not buying it 😂. Your 24 according to your post yesterday about flying. I doubt very much your mother (regardless of your relationship with her) would storm of and immediately have loud sex with her daughter next door who would then stay and hear the whole thing. You would have left if it happened or made it known you can hear her. No 24 year old would just quietly sit and listen to this.

I'm a size 24 if you can be bothered to read that thread correctly.

Ah sorry. But still my point stands. You would not just sit there and listen. Personally find that very weird.

I mean if you were 6 and in the same room then yes it’s wrong.

But if your a grown woman, in a separate room with fully functioning legs than enable you to walk away then YABU to have been lurking around listening!

When I lived with my mum and her partner early in my 20s I told them I could hear them having sex one night and the reply I got was that she doesn't give a shit and to fuck off.

Well - most of us use a bit of discretion about where and how loudly we have sex, taking into account the feelings of others who may be in the same house. She sounds like a bit of a silly woman.

Oh, and it's you're as in you are. Not your.

If they are the kind of people to tell you to fuck off I have no idea why you went on holiday . Stop trying to make the effort.
I personally would of banged on the door and made it clear you can hear . Most people would be mortified that someone could hear but if they don’t care then do not go on holiday with them again and say why .

Do your legs work OP?

Any reason why you couldn’t have walked out of the accommodation and sat down somewhere else.

Or turned music up loudly?

No she shouldn’t have done it, but come on! Help yourself