To think that this was very wrong of her?

[FattyAirways]

I mother and I were away on a break along with my stepfather. I don't get on great with either but after my mother had been ill, I thought I'd make the effort.

One night we had an argument about something. She's very hot headed and they both stormed off to bed and had very loud sex. I could hear everything, including the slapping 🤐and it's really affected me to the point that whenever I have sex or think about sex, I think of my mother. It's really awful. She's been horrible throughout my life. How can I get over myself?

I'd have rather sat in the dark outside scrolling through mumsnet than stayed in that room. Yanbu.

Didn't you have headphones? Not inconsiderate of her to have sex whilst on holiday. If she's that horrible, don't go on holiday with her again.

First a thread positively inviting fat shaming and now a survivor of childhood abuse with a sexually inappropriate mother and stepfather?

Riiiiiight.

Op I think you should ask mumsnet to move this to relationships. People can be complete cunts on AIBU sometimes.

I imagine they were more likely to be acting this than doing it, just because they knew it would upset and disturb you. Hopefully you can reframe it in your mind as two idiots hopping up and down on a bed making stupid noises. Some parents are just shit at the job, and don’t deserve you giving them extra chances to be the caring person you wish they were.

please stop making an effort for a woman who doesn’t do the same for you by the sounds of it. Good luck op.

When I lived with my mum and her partner early in my 20s I told them I could hear them having sex one night and the reply I got was that she doesn't give a shit and to fuck off.

It does sound as if it was deliberate then or she just doesn't care.

As a pp posted, most of us would be aware of surroundings & keep it down!

Perhaps time to stop making an effort with her.

She doesn't seem to care about you.

It's really fucking horrible that you don't believe me. Some posters on here are just awful. Yes I am fat, yes I have trauma from my childhood. It's probably more common than you think. I feel bad for your kids as you have so little belief or empathy.

It was deliberate after argument to get to me. That's exactly what she's like.

OP
yes, it was wrong of her/ them. However, most here are surprised that you didn’t help yourself a bit in this instance.

Look at it as a lesson well learned.
Don’t go on holiday with them, and take ownership over your ears

How on God's earth can you tell whether your mum was having 'deliberate' sex to get at you?