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Was this irresponsible?

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Changeableweather · 11/09/2022 08:50

Got a few raised eyebrows last night and a slightly pearl-clutchy comment, and want to sense-check the situation...

DD1 is nearly 3 and an excellent sleeper, DD2 is 7m and is fairly good, but pretty much exclusively needs to be fed back to sleep in the night.

We went out to a party, literally 15 doors down, and left the girls with over-the-road's 13yr old daughter. Her mum and dad were home, 30secs away, and we were 1min down the road.

At one point, DD2 woke up, so the sitter called me, I ran home, fed her, resettled her, and went back to the party. Raised eyebrows and clutchy comment on our return.

I genuinely hadn't thought anything about the situation was out of order, I felt completely comfortable with it, and was babysitting myself at a similar age, but pretty much everyone else at the party had left their kids with grandparents, no one else had a teen babysitter, and everyone seemed pretty shocked I'd left a baby who was likely to wake and need me.

Combination of slight next day booze blues and the standard fear that other people will think I'm a bad mum is making me worried we were irresponsible.

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scrivette · 11/09/2022 11:54

I don't think it's a problem if you trust the 13 year old to call you if the baby wakes (which you did).

At 14 I was babysitting a 9,8 and 12 week old baby that did wake and had to be settled with a bottle.

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