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To put the heating on?

46 replies

prettylittlethingss · 11/09/2022 06:22

It's currently 12 degrees. I'm up with the baby and he's in a vest and babygrow and he's freezing. Meant to be 18 degrees by 9am but right now he's shivering.
I know DP will go mad at me for putting on the heating on a day meant to be 18 degrees, but AIBU to put it on for an hour- and say it's okay for him fast asleep under the duvet, and if he thinks I'm out of order he should get up and keep the baby warm ?

OP posts:
TabithaTittlemouse · 11/09/2022 06:23

Does the baby not have blankets or a sleeping bag?

MistyGreenAndBlue · 11/09/2022 06:24

Put it on. I would.

Dontsparethehorses · 11/09/2022 06:25

I’d add a cardigan/ another layer first. Think how much colder it’s going to get??!

lifesnotfair321 · 11/09/2022 06:28

I mean he's 11 months and currently walking around playing with toys so a sleeping bags or blanket it's pretty pointless.
I know it's going to get colder I'm not sure how well cope tbh! We bought the house early this year and are on a fixed energy rate (for now). But it's an old Victorian house and so so cold.

Funkyblues101 · 11/09/2022 06:29

lifesnotfair321 · 11/09/2022 06:28

I mean he's 11 months and currently walking around playing with toys so a sleeping bags or blanket it's pretty pointless.
I know it's going to get colder I'm not sure how well cope tbh! We bought the house early this year and are on a fixed energy rate (for now). But it's an old Victorian house and so so cold.

Put a jumper on him but the baby will get used to living in a cold house and be fine. Also teach him to run around to warm up. You however...

lifesnotfair321 · 11/09/2022 06:30

Maybe I need to run around to keep warm too Grin

A580Hojas · 11/09/2022 06:32

Can't you put a jumper on baby? Do you really mean he's freezing or are his hands just a bit cold?

Assuming you're up for the day you could get him properly dressed and wash his hands and face with warm water which will warm him up.

sidewayswalking · 11/09/2022 06:33

Your DP will go mad at you for putting the heating on?

This isn't a question of whether you need the heating on or can find an alternative way to keep baby warm. You can't live in a relationship where you are not able to make basic decisions without fear of the other person going mad at you.

CaptainBeakyandhisband · 11/09/2022 06:33

We live in an older colder house and my kids genuinely don’t seem to be bothered by the cold. They’re pretty good at snuggling under blankets when watching telly but they are definitely not worried about getting cold.

I think it’s still too mild for heating tbh, hoping we might get to mid October before that’s necessary. It’s bound to be warmer than 12 inside the house right now.

A580Hojas · 11/09/2022 06:34

You namechanged for this??

mistermagpie · 11/09/2022 06:34

12 degrees isn't cold really, what are you going to do in the winter? Unless you can afford to have the heating on all the time you might need to come up with something better as a solution.

My kids had the fleecy baby grows when the were small and dressing gowns when they were walking. Get an Oodie or similar for yourself. I'm up with two of my kids just now who are just in their pyjamas and they seem happy enough.

LadyCatStark · 11/09/2022 06:37

How would he know if he’s asleep?

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 11/09/2022 06:40

sidewayswalking · 11/09/2022 06:33

Your DP will go mad at you for putting the heating on?

This isn't a question of whether you need the heating on or can find an alternative way to keep baby warm. You can't live in a relationship where you are not able to make basic decisions without fear of the other person going mad at you.

It's a 'phrase' are you unfamiliar with it.

if they can't afford to have the heating on, they can't afford to have the heating on.

a vest & babygrow isn't enough clothing when it's 13°, the baby (& probably the OP) need/s more clothing in before the heating!

@prettylittlethingss @lifesnotfair321

put a onesie over the baby grow or whatever warm clothing the baby has. A baby grow isn't warm enough clothing for Autumn & Winter.

do you understand a fix is only a fix per unit used& not a fix on how much you pay for 'all you can use' ??

NCHammer2022 · 11/09/2022 06:42

Do you mean it’s 12 degrees in your house? If not, get some more layers on the baby and yourself and you’ll both be fine. A vest and babygro isn’t exactly a lot of layers.

justfiveminutes · 11/09/2022 06:43

If your baby is happily playing, it doesn't sound as if he feels uncomfortably cold. I'd add another layer.

Presumably your dh won't be 'going mad' because he's cruel and abusive, but because he's worried about money and paying the bills this winter, and because you've made an agreement regarding when to put the heating on.

If you've added a layer of clothing and tried a blanket, I don't think he can complain really but, until you've tried those things first, it does seem unnecessarily spendy.

lurker69 · 11/09/2022 06:45

I wouldn't be putting the heating on this early in the year, why haven't you just put more clothes on him?

Mindymomo · 11/09/2022 06:47

The trouble is we’ve had it too good weather wise this summer. I put the heating on in the week, we came back soaked from a dog walk, just had it on for 30 minutes or so, just to warm us up and dry clothes. I try and get to 1 October before putting heating on, but no harm testing the heating now and then, so might as well be early mornings.

MinervaTerrathorn · 11/09/2022 06:47

Is it 12 degrees in your house? If so, you are not unreasonable to put heating on for an hour to warm the house up with a baby. 16 or higher and I wouldn't put it on, house will warm up during the day.

rwalker · 11/09/2022 06:48

12 degrees u need to layer up . TBH I’d go mad not because I’m a twat but because we simply can’t afford it and there’s no need when u can layer up.
realistically your going to have to workout how much u can afford and use the heating accordingly
You don’t NEED the heating on you WANT the heating on

MinervaTerrathorn · 11/09/2022 06:50

Do you not have warmer clothes for your baby?

Cervinia · 11/09/2022 06:50

Where do you live? I’m in Yorkshire and my thermostat says 19, and the French windows are wide open downstairs so the cats can do their morning wee run. The thermostat is upstairs though tbf.

i would definitely put him a jumper and socks on. He will get used to it, I’m the age where we didn’t get central heating until I was 17. You’re probably soft, just like I’ve got, but my DC don’t put the heating in their houses, after being students and living in freezing houses and being too tight or skint to heat them they’ve both acclimatised. Asha e their partners who were also students.

TwinkleChristmas · 11/09/2022 06:52

Put a fleece jumper and some joggers over the baby grow

KangarooKenny · 11/09/2022 06:52

Out more clothes on your baby.

Mummyoflittledragon · 11/09/2022 07:09

It gets down to about 15 overnight in our house over the winter. Too cold for me to be up and about in but fine for the middle of the night. Your baby is asleep, which means he’s comfortable enough and relatively robust this by 11 months. Put him in a gro bag tonight if the temp is set to dip.

For the day, an extra layer should suffice.

Caspianberg · 11/09/2022 07:11

Well if it’s that cold indoors I would put heating on. It seems very cold indoors though already, are you sure it’s not 12 outside but still 18-20 inside?

but yes a vest and babygrow aren’t very warm. For an 11 month old I would swap to long sleeve vest and babygrow, plus thick socks over the top for bed. But once awake I would just change straight away into warmer clothing. They need new nappy as soon as awake so just as easy to full change into thick leggings, long sleep vest, long sleeve top, cardigan/ jumper. Thick socks or slippers.