I have NC as could be very outing.
For background: my 14 yo nephew is very defiant and has been always. Many issues with him over the years including refusing to go to school, totally ignoring any boundaries, doing what he likes.
In the last week it has came to light he is spending time with a 50 odd yo woman, along with boys and girls around his ages 14 and younger. The woman is buying them cigarettes and driving them around in her car. She lives in a completely different town to nephew.
He was due to go to his dads this weekend, but didn't come home to be collected, said he'd get dropped off, then tried to say he'd come back in the morning. Dad obviously not happy and went to look. Met nephews mum in this town as well and called police when nephew was refusing to go home. Meanwhile parents of the other children began to become aware of what was going on, the kids had told them they were staying with a friend. All parents out trying to get their kids home.
Police were useless said they have no concerns over the woman, although admitted if it was a male 50 yo then the situation would be different! Resulted in 14yo assaulting his dad but police refused to do anything about it and said have two choices either goes home with mum or dad, both refused and said can't manage as he will just go back out and get picked up again. Police said can't get social involved as it's over a weekend and didn't think good idea to take him in late on a Friday night amongst other people that may be getting locked up.
Nephew finally got convinced to go home with mum, but then packed bags and left home again and is back with the woman. Police called again, won't do anything as they've no concerns over the woman and he's not a missing child. This led to nephews mum consenting for him to stay with the woman until the morning. Previous history suggests this is just a delay and the cycle will continue.
WTAF can be done?! Any advice most welcome. He won't engage with me or other family.