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How much for a cost of hendo

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Peterrabbit23 · 10/09/2022 21:14

How much would you think is reasonable for a hendo cost. I’ve found a spa option for 130 pounds and I think it’s two much but some friends and family think it’s really reasonable I just don’t want people to spend loads of money on something they all won’t want. Should I do a poll option for my friends.

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mrsbyers · 10/09/2022 21:41

Ah hen do - I didn’t have a clue what a hendo was ! Whether it’s reasonable or not will vary by individual tbh

MyMonkiesHerCircus · 10/09/2022 21:42

What's a hendo?

AlrightAlrightAlrightMatthewMcConaughey · 10/09/2022 21:42

£130 each, at their cost?
Bit much IMO but I am tight as a ducks arse with money at the minute due to the rising costs of everything

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 10/09/2022 21:43

What do they get for 130? If it was dbb and a spa treatment and time in the pool, I'd be fine.

A day visit to a spa? Nope.

AlrightAlrightAlrightMatthewMcConaughey · 10/09/2022 21:43

The OP made a typo and didn't put a space in between two words

Let's not get all get petty about a mis-type

MyMonkiesHerCircus · 10/09/2022 21:44

Oh I see, ignore.
How long is a peice of string? Depends what you're doing, what's included and how much money your friends/family have.

Tiredmummyof3 · 10/09/2022 21:44

I've been to 2 hen dos this year and have paid lots more than that for each one. It's perfectly fine to ask people. If they love you and want to come they will do their best to afford it.

anotherpotoftea · 10/09/2022 21:46

The best hens I’ve been to have had the ability to opt into more or less of it - for example an afternoon tea, spa and stay overnight with an option to just come to afternoon tea

Leeds2 · 10/09/2022 21:47

I wouldn't go to any spa option, no matter what it cost.

If that is what the bride wants to do, I think that price is ok.

greenhousegal · 10/09/2022 21:47

Sorry OP, I know it was a typo and I do it all the time myself, but you had me looking and guessing in my head what the hell is a HENDO? Some new invention to make you look 20 years younger, a super kitchen device, what is it!

Now I know. But I have no idea about the cost of such things. I'm old now and would not get an invite anyway even if I wanted one!

Hotandbothereds · 10/09/2022 21:48

Depends what you’re getting for £130, is that including an overnight, food?

If so yeah might be worth it- just for a day at the spa, not so much.

Testina · 10/09/2022 21:50

Tiredmummyof3 · 10/09/2022 21:44

I've been to 2 hen dos this year and have paid lots more than that for each one. It's perfectly fine to ask people. If they love you and want to come they will do their best to afford it.

That’s a shitty thing to say. Being priced out of a hen do has nothing to do with how much someone cares about you. Love is not sticking over priced facials on a credit card.

SausagePourHomme · 10/09/2022 21:51

£1.70 or thereabouts

How much for a cost of hendo
Testina · 10/09/2022 21:54

I think it’s a lot of money if it doesn’t include treatments. And if it does - I thing a hen do is better actually spent WITH your guests, not in treatment rooms separately. Go out somewhere for a nice meal and plenty of time for social interaction together. People make a hen do - not facials!

IcedOatLatte · 10/09/2022 21:55

AlrightAlrightAlrightMatthewMcConaughey · 10/09/2022 21:43

The OP made a typo and didn't put a space in between two words

Let's not get all get petty about a mis-type

I don't think it's a typo as it's been done more than once, if I was using the wrong wor for something I'd rather I was put right on an anonymous forum thand have people snigger in RL

That cost would be too much for me but it totally depends on the budget and tastes of the people you're inviting

As a PP said,it's a real piece of string question. Personally I don't see what's wrong with a meal in a nice estaurant that you wouldn't otherwise go to in a private room if possible but everyone's tastes are different

MuckyPlucky · 10/09/2022 21:57

@SausagePourHomme - you took the sauce right out of my mouth there! Was just about to say that I’d been thinking this was finally a thread about the good stuff!

Tiredmummyof3 · 10/09/2022 21:57

Testina · 10/09/2022 21:50

That’s a shitty thing to say. Being priced out of a hen do has nothing to do with how much someone cares about you. Love is not sticking over priced facials on a credit card.

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I actually didn't mean it like that but can see how it's been taken. I apologise. I just meant if they can afford it they will try their best to attend. Its what you as the hen want to do. Your friends will do what you want to do

Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 10/09/2022 21:58

Surely you need to ask the people who are invited and list the other costs, travel, meals, drinks, crappy decorations.

Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 10/09/2022 22:00

SausagePourHomme · 10/09/2022 21:51

£1.70 or thereabouts

Tried tesco own. It wasn’t as good.

StopFeckingFaffing · 10/09/2022 22:04

What do you get included for the £130?

If it's literally just being at the spa for the day with no treatments, no food, no drinks then I wouldn't want to pay but if its a package which includes treatments/ products and/or food then that is obviously better value.

It would also depend how nice a spa it is

Chdjdn · 10/09/2022 22:04

Is that a spa day or an overnight? It’d be too much for me for just a day. Generally the last few years on hen dos I’ve paid £200 for accommodation, a meal out and maybe £30ish for some kind of activity and maybe a bit on top for food at self catered accommodation. Although that was before the current cost of living increases

WorkCleanRepeat · 10/09/2022 22:16

I'd be happy with £130, I usually expect a hen do to cost a couple of hundred at least.

It will depend on peoples personal circumstances though.

User354354 · 10/09/2022 22:18

2 years ago I would have said it sounds lovely. As it stands right now, that would be out of my budget and I would politely decline. Particularly if I sensed requests would come for matching slippers/robes/hen do extras

allboysherebutme · 10/09/2022 22:28

I think it's fine. Send a what's app to everyone you want to come and explain, they only have to come if they want to. Those who can afford it will come. X

BoxOfCats · 10/09/2022 22:39

Well surely the real question is how much the attendees are happy to and can afford to pay? You're asking the wrong audience.

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