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Who is being unreasonable?

38 replies

nightowl7 · 10/09/2022 18:33

We have just had a new fridge so arranged for the council to collect the old one and paid £10. Their email clearly stated that in order for them to collect it, the fridge needed to be visible on the drive. We have a skip on the drive which was in front of the fridge, so I told DH to move the fridge from behind the skip so that it was visible for the council. I went off to work and expected DH to move the fridge as he was WFH that day.

I got home from work only to see that DH had not moved the fridge and as a result, it had not been collected. I had an email from the council stating that they were unable to collect the fridge as it was not visible and we would have to pay another £10 if we want them to come back. Attached to the email was also a picture of our drive showing that there was "no fridge" on our drive. I was annoyed as the fridge has been on our drive for quite a few weeks and frankly I'm sick of looking at it. I asked DH why he had not moved the fridge and he seems to think that whoever came to collect it should have knocked on the door if they couldn't see it and now wants to raise a complaint with the council. I told him that their email clearly said we need to put the fridge in a visible place and if he had simply followed the instructions, they would have collected it. He is having none of it and is refusing to pay another £10.

Who is being unreasonable?

OP posts:
TestingTestingWonTooFree · 10/09/2022 18:34

DH is BU.

TheDressinggownofdoom · 10/09/2022 18:36

Your DH is BU for not following simple instructions.

Sparklfairy · 10/09/2022 18:38

If the email clearly said what to do and he didn't do it then he won't get anywhere, but let him make a fool of himself if he really wants.

Quveas · 10/09/2022 18:39

He is. Council employees are not allowed to go hunting for stuff on people's property because if they take the wrong stuff, they get in trouble. It's your responsibility to do as asked. It isn't a huge ask. Your DH is being ridiculous

MaryHoldTheCandleSteadyWhileIShaveTheChickensLeg · 10/09/2022 18:40

DH is being unreasonable.

I'm impressed you've had it outside for weeks. They last about 3 seconds around here before the scrap collectors bundle them into a shopping trolley 😄

ClocksGoingBackwards · 10/09/2022 18:40

You really don’t need to ask this question. The person who had a job to do and didn’t bother IBU.

Sunnyqueen · 10/09/2022 18:40

DH is. I have had to do this with both a huge smeg style fridge and a corner sofa, I've had to move them on my own, down the front steps to the end of the drive. Would have been easier for me to just leave them at the bottom of the steps but if I'd have done that they wouldn't have been collected.

CactusFlowers · 10/09/2022 18:41

It’s definitely his fault.

EL8888 · 10/09/2022 18:42

DH -the instructions were very clear and he didn’t follow them

Hotandbothereds · 10/09/2022 18:44

Your DH is wrong and lazy, he should’ve followed the very simple instructions he was given, let him deal with it going forwards - there’s nothing for him to complain about.

UrghBlahBlahBleugh · 10/09/2022 18:45

Your DH was lazy and is BU
This rule is across the board with all councils.

It is a health and safety thing, stops them having to lug heavy shit too far over many properties all day long. They have long days and don't have the time to be faffing about knocking on people's doors to ask where they've left their stuff when clearly asked to leave it visible.

NiceTwin · 10/09/2022 18:46

Not you!

Time to move it yourself if it is beyond your dh.

BlancmanegeBunny · 10/09/2022 19:02

Your DH is being very unreasonable and will look like a prat if he complains!

ManateeFair · 10/09/2022 19:03

DH is BU

Aquamarine1029 · 10/09/2022 19:04

Your husband is a dipshit. Pay the tenner and move the fridge yourself.

carefullycourageous · 10/09/2022 19:10

Your Dh is being unreasonable and is a proper wally.

rwalker · 10/09/2022 19:18

Why didn’t you move it yourself there’s not a lot of weight in a fridge

CryCeratops · 10/09/2022 19:35

DH is, the council gave clear instructions.

Although the fridge must be well hidden to have stayed on your driveway so long!

We put our broken dishwasher on our driveway last year. It was visible from the road. It was there for less than 24 hours before a scrap man was knocking on our door asking if he could take it away.

(We had been planning on arranging one of those council collections that you mention, but we hadn’t got round to it by then)

girlmom21 · 10/09/2022 19:36

Yeah DH is clearly at fault.

gamerchick · 10/09/2022 19:40

Fridges are dangerous aside from anything else. A bairn climbs inside and the doe shuts, that's one suffocated kid. Plus they don't weigh that much when empty, you could have moved it yourself. The door has been taken off if it's sat on the drive for weeks though right?

But yes, your bloke is a prick. Would have been worse here, council charge 40 quid for fridges.

SianNotAMan · 10/09/2022 19:45

No room for “two sides” on this one, you are right.

You’d understood the instructions, asked him to move it, he had agreed to, and then made a unilateral change without consulting you.

Can it not just go in the skip?

Soubriquet · 10/09/2022 19:46

Dh is unreasonable

it says it must be visible. It would have taken him 5 mins to move it

itsjustnotok · 10/09/2022 19:55

Your DH is clearly in the wrong. He also doesn’t realise how lucky he is…£10!!! It’s £40 from our council!

Original poster
nightowl7 · 10/09/2022 22:01

Showed DH all these replies... he just sat there quietly Grin

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Wisteriaroundthedoor · 10/09/2022 22:02

Your husband is being a twat. Does he often fail to follow instructions then refuse to take personal responsibility?