So my friend’s husband who I have known for about 15 years and also consider a friend has recently told me he has feelings for me. To be clear, he’s not “in love” with me and doesn’t want to leave his wife. He literally told me he fancies the pants off me and thinks we should have an affair. I’m happily married with children and our families have been close for years although we now only see each other a few times a year as they moved to the suburbs.
I know this should be easy to shut down but I cannot stop thinking about him and the possibility of some illicit fun. I’d never thought of him like that precisely because I am married and so is he. But now that he’s opened that door I cannot get him out of my head.
What I’m after, as daft as it sounds, is any tips or tricks for getting him out of my head!! I wish he’d never said anything and I would have happily been going about my daily life. Don’t shout at me as I haven’t done anything and wouldn’t. I just want to stop thinking about it as it’s giving my anxiety!
Do I need to meditate, try hypnosis, etc??