To be fed up with all the cancelled events and miserable feeling

[supermommyof4]

After living a full long life to 96, i just feel that it shouldnt be like this. Celebrate the life she had, why does it have to be so miserable.
Cancelling everything, stopping anything in anyway fun i dont feel is a good way to celebrate the life of someone who lived a long life.
We lost our Mil last sept she was 69, she lost her husband 19 years previous. We were a bit sad but we knew she was out of pain and suffering and we proceeded to celebrate her life.
Its a natural life cycle, we live, then if we are lucky we die of old age, some are not so lucky. I think more focus should be on celebrating a life lived not mourning for weeks and cancelling any and all events.

I’m not sure the Queen would actually want all the cancellations, the horse racing especially. That was her thing! A two minute silence and singing the National Anthem would be perfect. Let’s face it, we haven’t lost a Monarch in 70 years, the protocols need to be updated.

Completely agree. Utterly ridiculous. Loads of local events for children have cancelled this weekend in my area because that's what a 96 year old would want is it? Disappointed children sat indoors rather than having fun at an outdoor event. Anyone who dares to voice a protest is screamed at my competitive grief vampires.

It's not protocols. It's organisations being terrified that they'll be shouted at by the grief vampires if they carry on so they're choosing to cancel.

I'm glad test match cricket and the great north run are both carrying on this weekend.

I don't think the Queen would have wanted all the cancellations but It's also the need to provide sufficient policing for the various events.

The state funeral and then the coronation in the future, we will have literally hundreds of heads of state, senior politicians and members of Royal families from across the globe.

All of them must be assigned police protection because their own protection officers are not allowed to carry fire arms on British soil.

The routes and venues must be checked and then guarded. And the millions of the general public who turn out will need policing and safety too. Most police forces will be contributing resources, which means they will not be available next week to police football matches and race courses. A lot of police leave has been cancelled.

It's a compromise.

Totally agree, it’s ridiculous. The whole process is completely outdated. What’s worse are the accusations of being uncaring if you dare to suggest that it’s too much. Of course it’s sad when anyone dies but many people have no interest in the royal family. A few programmes on the day of her death and then televising the funeral would be fine but cancelling everything is not. Being told that we should be in mourning because an old woman has died is bizarre. We are living in a very different society to 70 years ago!

I agree I respected the Queen and appreciate that her death means the end of an era. I am sad that she has died.
But I don't think the prolonged national mourning and 24/7 reference to her is healthy. The BBC seem to have banned all comedy programmes and the music stations are only playing sombre music. As though it is is inappropriate to smile Sports events and other events have been cancelled including a festival in Hackney resulting in the caterer having a ton of food they have bought and now can't use! There will be many small businesses in the same position. And after the previous two years on top of the energy crisis and inflation they simply can't afford it.
This atmosphere can not be good for the mental health of the country. Many people will have lost loved ones , but life has to go on. Keeping this up for the next couple of weeks is no good for anyone.

I do understand the cancellation of high profile "jolly" things this weekend like the Proms, but I think the cancellation of the U10 local football match is OTT.

I agree. I feel a bit sad about the Queen's passing. But as you say, it's the cycle of life. Comes to us all. When it's my turn to pass from this world to the next, I definitely would prefer it if people just remember the good times, and be glad I'll be at peace, even if I'm missed

I agree completely. I am all for marking the passing of the Queen, a minutes silence at the events, and/or singing the national anthem, but this mass cancellation is bonkers and unnecessary. I also think that it is unhealthy when people may be feeling grief to prevent people gathering. You only had to look at the number of people gathering outside Buckingham Palace in the rain when the Queen died to see that people want to come together at a time like this.

Have you not read about all the ‘protocols’ in the papers 🙄 That’s what I’m referring to in my last sentence.

It's a mark of respect for the life she gave in service to others, her whole life. I don't think she'd want anything cancelled but organisations feel it's appropriate.

Selfishly I wanted the whole world to stop when my mum died, although it's an inconvenience for many the nation is showing it's respect to the Queen and in solidarity for a family who have just lost their mum, grandmother.

Whatever peoples feeling on the royal family they are a family grieving for someone they loved deeply.

I totally agree, I’m sad she’s died and I want to be respectful but l’m currently sat in a trampoline park watching my kids and I’m wondering whether it’s really necessary for them to be playing somber music in here. Ed Sheeran, Lewis Capaldi and the like, it’s making me want to slit my wrists.

I completely understand events being cancelled where resources are needed elsewhere.

Cancelling kids’ football matches in towns miles away from London makes no sense.

I agree with a pp that it’s people panicking and not wanting to be seen doing the wrong thing.

We’ve moved in to Birdy’s version of The Power of Love, I think it’s time to go!

Cancelling all these things is just crazy and cowardice on the part of the organisers. Of anyone is truly grieving ???? then they can stay at home or be with other grieving people.
Luckily my local pub was one that did not cancel the live music last night -the closures are utterly bonkers.

I think it's because the official mourning protocols they have imposed are based on attitudes and behaviours that are not as important to the majority of people these days.

Totally agree. Its ridiculous that kids’ sport has been cancelled. Yet all the pubs are open as normal. Fed up of this ludicrous country we live in..

Yup!

YANBU OP. Nothing should be cancelled unless there are very clear and genuine concerns about safety (likely policing issues)

Otherwise there is no need to disrupt the lives of hundreds of thousands or even millions because one person has died. Funeral should be held on a Sunday (don’t actually know what day has been decided as I don’t follow the news now as it’s just non stop repetition) to minimise disruption as there is less stuff going on generally.

I think it reveals something about the british pysche: some people like telling others off (ie feeling superior), and most hate being told off (being show up as being in the wrong).

I just came from another thread a poster was told off for asking a question. Apparently posting a wondering is not acceptable, but posting to tell someone off for wasting your time is!

In my mind, being miserable at others for continuing as normal when the Queen has passed is the same. Being grumpy makes you superior, even if it is contradictory (surely the whole point of observing her passing is to show empathy....)

And on even more of a tangent, i certainly wasn't allowed time off work when my dad was dying (of cancer - a good 30 years younger than the queen). Why the fuss about cancelling things because someone who has gone at an age when it is not all unexpected (and 99.999% of us never had a personal relationship with)?

We’ve got another 8 days of this too 🙄

DH will be working as usual the day of the funeral. He is self employed and has already had to drop a lot of work due to his own father being ill and dying and sorting out care for his disabled mum. Plus it's his busy season and he wouldn't be able to fit in rescheduled appointments until mid November.

I was pretty flummoxed yesterday to receive an email from work to say that a presentation about financial issues due to take place next week (pensions, how to deal with the cost of living etc) was being cancelled because of the "sad news". I mean, really? How would that be remotely disrespectful. If people didn't think it was in keeping they could not attend and listen to the recording later.

Can I say I am not working until the funeral out of respect? Nope, thought not. People are taking the mickey. We had "cos covid" and now we're having "cos Queen".

YANBU at all OP

It's been 2 days. We dealt with everything being cancelled for 2 years. 2 weeks won't hurt you.