To be fed up with all the cancelled events and miserable feeling

[supermommyof4]

After living a full long life to 96, i just feel that it shouldnt be like this. Celebrate the life she had, why does it have to be so miserable.
Cancelling everything, stopping anything in anyway fun i dont feel is a good way to celebrate the life of someone who lived a long life.
We lost our Mil last sept she was 69, she lost her husband 19 years previous. We were a bit sad but we knew she was out of pain and suffering and we proceeded to celebrate her life.
Its a natural life cycle, we live, then if we are lucky we die of old age, some are not so lucky. I think more focus should be on celebrating a life lived not mourning for weeks and cancelling any and all events.

What a ridiculous minimising position to take. It's unnecessary. If you personally want to "grieve" then sit in your damn house and do it. Don't enforce it on other people.

No. The Queen served for 70 years and was working two days before she died. I think 10 days of reflection and acknowledging her passing is not too much to ask, no one's children will suffer for the sake of a missed footy match. It is incomparable to anyones old granny dying, she was our monarch and to some people that still means a huge amount, and to those others surely they can respect the role she held.

Exactly. Don't impose your views on everyone else. You do you and we will do us.

Unfortunately, people like @takemetomybeach have imposed their views on the rest of us and so we are all suffering.

I am now mourning the cancelled events. I have already forgotten about the Queen dying.

If you want to mourn, fine, do it. But don't force others to take part in what has become one big PR exercise

It's ENTIRELY understandable that everyone feels low and blue and sad, but I agree that cancelling everything is just stupid and annoying and pointless. It's helping no-one and is just pissing millions of people off. The Queen would not have wanted this. A nice send off yeah, but not every damn thing cancelled.

Im sure if anyone had asked rhe queen if she wanted activities that people enjoy all being cancelled after her death she'd have been the first to say "of course not"

Its nothing to do with respect. Trying to say it is is actually embarrassing.

Exactly that, it feels like one big PR exercise. Not something the royals themselves would condone.

More minimising. Children have suffered enough over the last 2 years. That they should continue to have their events and sports cancelled because a very old lady they don't know has died is beyond ridiculous. You have no right whatsoever to force grief on people. Let alone children.

It's not just fun events that have been cancelled. In my team we've had to cancel a large conference for 300 people that was being organised for next week to work on how to improve services for people with a particular illness. It has been 6 months in the planning. A whole,work stream of service improvement has been planned around it and we have lost £thousands because the venue and caterers etc are all wanting full payment as it is such last minute. I can't blame them. We now won't have time to complete this work before the funding runs out next March as the conference was timed in order to kick off 6 months of constant improvement (that really needs to happen btw as this is a service that has been underfunded and neglected for years). The work is estimated to save the lives of thousands of people with the condition and improve the quality of life for hundreds of thousands more this winter.
And we're not even allowed to do it virtually.
Losing this work stream - if the money disappears as it usually does in March - will cost the NHS in my region £millions in hospital admissions and primary care attendances.

These aren't people with access to the best healthcare and who are already fucked due to the rising energy bills.

But hey, the country must come to a stand still because a 96 year old woman has died. 🤷🏻‍♀️

If I should go before the rest of you
Break not a flower, nor inscribe a stone,
Nor when I’m gone speak in a Sunday voice
But be the usual selves that I have known.
Weep if you must,
Parting is hell,
But life goes on,
So sing as well.

Joyce Grenfell

This little verse says it all for me….

I'm concerned that the important hospital appointment I've waited ages for will be cancelled as it's the day of the funeral. When I rang on Friday to check I was told they didn't know yet and I would have to ring back next week.

I think many have learned from not displaying "we😍😍😍 nhs" or giving "😍😍😍😍nhs" discounts over last few years and being properly attacked for it publicly that they just go with the flow of cancellations

I think it is completely baffling that anyone feels 'low and blue and sad' and I can assure WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps that certainly not everyone does. I'm interested in the event because of its historical significance, but I'm not in the least sad at the death of a very old woman whom I'd never met. She had a rich and wonderful life and died in comfort with a large and devoted family nearby.

Cancellations are nonsense. Surely Last Night of the Proms is an extremely patriotic event with all its flag waving and Rule Britannia? Couldn't they just have had a minute's silence and then dedicated the performance to Her Maj's memory? I mean, surely no ordinary person is really sitting at home actually mourning even if some people do feel a bit sad.

This!!!!!!!
Well said!

Yanbu.
Sick of hearing wind beneath my wings and other nauseating music whilst I'm driving.
The queen was great and we all respect the fact she has died but it's going ott

Reflecting on what? The royal family have done nothing for me.

When Prince died I was gutted. I had seen in him in concert multiple times, and love his music. If I had wanted a day off work to grieve everyone would have thought I was ridiculous.

I went to park run this morning. We had a minutes silence which was 100% observed and runners generally wore dark colours. It brought people together who otherwise might be lonely etc. Park run certainly made the right decision to leave it up-to local teams to decide if their event should be cancelled.

It is possible to ignore people on social media.

And dealing with some whinging should be prioritised above causing people financial loss. The cancellation of the conference mentioned by an OP is utterly ludicrous! How can anyone justify that?

a PP not the OP

How do you know? It might hurt someone's finances and it could even hurt their health if hospitals cancel procedures.

Know your audience......I dont say anything to anyone and dont offer an opinion...I only state that a funeral is a private family issue.....already received some stroppy messages from a couple we know who held hands, cried and prayed all night....not replying to any more of their odd messages.....maybe they were drunk....!!

It's the grief olympics, much like how people competed about who was doing lockdown the best

I understand the need for a couple of sombre days, but it is starting to get a bit OTT in the sense that things are being cancelled well into next week.

If only it were like this. Business and organisations are scared of looking insensitive or offending anyone in any way. The company that I work for is awful for it as well. "Fuck people's financial loss, we can't have anyone whinging about us on Facebook" 🙄

@@Iliveonahill no one minute's silence for our parkrun. Run director explained we were on a busy path and they didn't want to block it for longer than necessary.