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To think partner was wrong to wake me up for being noisy

45 replies

Sleepypiggy · 10/09/2022 04:33

I’m 36 weeks pregnant and struggling with all the things that come in these last weeks. I get nauseous in the evenings and breathing is getting increasingly difficult. Anyway DP has just elbowed me awake for ‘breathing loudly’. This happened once before and he left quietly and took up on the sofa. AIBU to think he should have done this again tonight? I gave him earplugs last time this happened. He could have put them in and got himself back to sleep. Now I’m laid on the sofa feeling massive and annoyed knowing I will struggle to get back off, if at all. Surely I’m justified to feel this pissed off?

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Aubriella · 10/09/2022 04:38

YANBU. Why did you come down to the sofa? You need the bed more. Go and reclaim the bed OP Flowers

Marluuu · 10/09/2022 04:39

Yes, definitely justified, I’d tell him my opinion in the morning! I hope you can get back to sleep!

Anon778833 · 10/09/2022 04:39

Wow, what a selfish arsehole he is. He should 100% be on the bloody sofa, not you!! Having been 36 weeks pregnant myself, four times I really feel for you.

Clymene · 10/09/2022 04:44

This doesn't bode well for the future. Is he always a selfish unloving arsehole or is this new behaviour?

championshipwinner · 10/09/2022 05:01

My husband is (obviously) 0 weeks pregnant and 0% sick or nauseous or anything, he doesn’t struggle to sleep and he sounds like Darth Vader has caught a cold and simultaneously been transformed into a very old and broken freight train which is speeding and blasting its horn intermittently and I wouldn’t wake him up.

Despairingof · 10/09/2022 05:12

Go back to bed and get your husband to sleep on the sofa

Maymaymay · 10/09/2022 05:42

I'm 37 weeks and so uncomfortable i cannot imagine trying to sleep on a sofa. Go back to bed. If he wants to he can go to the sofa and when he has a near fully grown baby in his belly he can have priority.

OldTinHat · 10/09/2022 05:54

I remember this exact situation! Trying to doze on the settee at 4am because I'd been kicked out of bed for being noisy and massively pregnant.

Almost 24yrs later, I'm star fishing, listening to an audio book, scrolling through MN in my own bed..because I divorced the dickhead when that pregnant bump turned 5yo!

neverbeenskiing · 10/09/2022 05:57

I can't believe he let you sleep on the sofa! Selfish twat.

Cas112 · 10/09/2022 06:00

Yes it is very selfish of him

MrsMontyD · 10/09/2022 06:14

He's a Twat.

allinatizzy · 10/09/2022 06:24

Kicking a pregnant woman out of her bed is atrocious behaviour! He should be ashamed.

Twinsmummy1812 · 10/09/2022 06:25

Sounds like you need to hire a pregnancy belly or strap a few melons to him and see how he would cope. I can’t believe he would kick you out of your bed. I’m actually really shocked by it.

WoodlandMummy · 10/09/2022 06:44

fuck me.what a selfish prick. DH snores and I do sometimes gently ask him to get into a non snoring position, which he does graciously every time. However, I’m 33 weeks and he would never, ever, ever wake me up if I was being noisy due to my pregnancy! If he did, I’d wonder what aliens have done with real, respectful and loving DH.

Your ‘D’ P is an arsehole. I feel v sorry for you.

Unanananana · 10/09/2022 06:47

He's in for a shock when the baby arrives.

Isaidnoalready · 10/09/2022 06:51

What is he going to do kick the baby out? They can get pretty noisy

BeeDavis · 10/09/2022 07:05

How’s he going to cope with baby waking through the night 🫠

nachoavocado · 10/09/2022 07:08

championshipwinner · 10/09/2022 05:01

My husband is (obviously) 0 weeks pregnant and 0% sick or nauseous or anything, he doesn’t struggle to sleep and he sounds like Darth Vader has caught a cold and simultaneously been transformed into a very old and broken freight train which is speeding and blasting its horn intermittently and I wouldn’t wake him up.

Really?! I'd wake him up!

OP YANBU. He should have moved.

bloomety · 10/09/2022 07:10

But did he not just wake you up so you’d stop snoring? I do that to my DH all the time. I don’t expect him to go sleep somewhere else when I wake him up, just move to another position so he’ll stop snoring.

Safari234 · 10/09/2022 07:11

Does he not understand bump is literally squashing your lungs. Of course your breathing changes. He's an arsehole and got alot more coming. Newborn Baby's are noisy sleepers BTW. Don't you dare let him kick you and baby our so he can get his precious sleep.

KiraKiraHikaru · 10/09/2022 07:16

Did he kick you out of bed or did you strop off to the sofa? (Which I did many times when pregnant!)

Oysterbabe · 10/09/2022 07:19

I'm sorry that you married an arsehole. Will he be throwing the baby out of the room too?

elliss1 · 10/09/2022 07:28

He doesnt need to wake you. Just ruffle your pillow under your head and you will reposition yourself naturally in your sleep to a different position. It works everytime, years of night nursing in busy multi patient bay wards. Person asleep doesn't need to be distributed and rest of patients can sleep.

Sunnyqueen · 10/09/2022 07:28

Do not put yourself on the sofa ever again. Have you asked him what's she going to do when the baby comes?

shivawn · 10/09/2022 07:34

bloomety · 10/09/2022 07:10

But did he not just wake you up so you’d stop snoring? I do that to my DH all the time. I don’t expect him to go sleep somewhere else when I wake him up, just move to another position so he’ll stop snoring.

Same! My husband and I will both nudge each other if one of us is being noisy and then we just roll over and sleep the other way.