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Original poster

What should I do? I really messed up

47 replies

ohmygoddoipray · 09/09/2022 21:17

I am a postgraduate student, single mum, working 3 jobs. One of my jobs is a youth worker which I do 3 times per week, the other is a delivery driver for a local takeaway once a week and the other I do delivery driving for a healthy meal company every Saturday morning.

For the healthy meal company I have done every Saturday morning since January with two occasions when I could do it (once I had covid so no notice and second time it was my 30th and gave them plenty of notice).

I have to travel 36 miles to collect the meals, once I have them I am given 45 p per mile and £10 an hour. So 36 miles of my travel isn't paid which is my own fault since I took the job knowing this.

I sat and worked out my schedule this week including course stuff and I think it's going to be too much to take a chunk of time out of every Saturday so decided to quit. I feel awful since the lady that organises everything is absolutely lovely.

I decided that I would give my notice period (no contract whatsoever but want to be decent) in a few weeks. However tonight I have had too much to drink, my friend has been over and the drinks have flowed.

I'm now very nervous about driving tomorrow, if I was to be caught over the limit then my whole career would be out the window not even thinking about my safety and other road users safety.

I have had a quite a bit to drink and doing the online calculator I wouldn't be clear until later tomorrow.

WIBU to just quit first thing tomorrow? I don't need q reference etc but it seems. Really icky thing to do leaving her in the lurch like that. What else can I do though? I can't drive. I've definitely fucked up.

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missbipolar · 09/09/2022 21:19

Ring in sick? And then resign during the week offering a week or 2 notice?

Brimbleton · 09/09/2022 21:20

Just say you’re ill, with something like D&V that you wouldn’t be able to leave the house for, then quit as planned in a few weeks. I think the white lie is better than quitting so suddenly.

Original poster
ohmygoddoipray · 09/09/2022 21:24

I know but calling in sick really leaves her in the shit as well. Feel so bad

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nachoavocado · 09/09/2022 21:26

You have no option but to leave her in the lurch.

Jindle1 · 09/09/2022 21:27

If you call in sick, as least you're not leaving her in the lurch next week.

To be honest, it comes across as you just want to sack it in and have decided tonight you can't be arsed doing the notice

Original poster
ohmygoddoipray · 09/09/2022 21:29

Jindle1 · 09/09/2022 21:27

If you call in sick, as least you're not leaving her in the lurch next week.

To be honest, it comes across as you just want to sack it in and have decided tonight you can't be arsed doing the notice

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Oysterbabe · 09/09/2022 21:30

How much have you had and when do you need to drive?

Jindle1 · 09/09/2022 21:30

ohmygoddoipray · 09/09/2022 21:29

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Then at least own it. Personally, I'd aim to give more notice than 12 months but hey.

Jindle1 · 09/09/2022 21:30

*hours

nachoavocado · 09/09/2022 21:30

ohmygoddoipray · 09/09/2022 21:29

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Right in that case fine. Give her a ring tomorrow and say you got pissed last night so can't drive and have decided it's best you quit would she like you to work next weekend or not.

nachoavocado · 09/09/2022 21:31

Jindle1 · 09/09/2022 21:30

Then at least own it. Personally, I'd aim to give more notice than 12 months but hey.

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I agree. You need to own it. Tell her you got hammered and so are quitting as you know that's not on.

FairyLightAddict · 09/09/2022 21:32

I'm confused. It's 9.32pm. If you stop drinking now, won't you be fine by the morning? 🤷‍♀️

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ohmygoddoipray · 09/09/2022 21:32

Oysterbabe · 09/09/2022 21:30

How much have you had and when do you need to drive?

Had two bottles of wine and I need to drive at 8 am

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nachoavocado · 09/09/2022 21:33

ohmygoddoipray · 09/09/2022 21:32

Had two bottles of wine and I need to drive at 8 am

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You can't.

Jindle1 · 09/09/2022 21:34

Are you very young OP? This all seems very immature.

RoomOfRequirement · 09/09/2022 21:34

ohmygoddoipray · 09/09/2022 21:29

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Grow up!

Thatiswild · 09/09/2022 21:38

When did you start drinking two bottles of wine? How can you write if you’ve had two bottles of wine? I’m impressed!

andweallsingalong · 09/09/2022 21:38

How much has your friend had to drink? Can they drive you? I wouldn't give no notice if there is any way around it, but wouldn't drink drive.

Thatiswild · 09/09/2022 21:38

Don’t risk driving over the limit, for everyone else’s sake. Do you have anyone would could drive for you while you do it?

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ohmygoddoipray · 09/09/2022 21:41

Thatiswild · 09/09/2022 21:38

Don’t risk driving over the limit, for everyone else’s sake. Do you have anyone would could drive for you while you do it?

Started drinking at 3pm, no one else can drive me at all.

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LIZS · 09/09/2022 21:42

Can you afford to lose your licence or worse? No. You have to call and cancel. How much does 36 miles cost you and how many hours do you take?

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ohmygoddoipray · 09/09/2022 21:49

LIZS · 09/09/2022 21:42

Can you afford to lose your licence or worse? No. You have to call and cancel. How much does 36 miles cost you and how many hours do you take?

Nope, absolutely can't. I lost my license 11 years ago for the exact same thing so no, I don't fancy doing that again. 36 x 0.45 = 16.20

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BrokenMatress · 09/09/2022 21:50

You have posted about this job before

Pumperthepumper · 09/09/2022 21:51

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LIZS · 09/09/2022 21:53

How many hours are you paid? It won't cost you 45p pm, that is just the maximum you can claim back according to IR.