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To wish I could have a permanent job?

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Bedknobsandbroomsticks2 · 09/09/2022 19:39

I've made mistakes with jobs in the past, for instance my first 2 jobs after graduating were 0 hours contracts, and eventually I couldn't live on them financially so left each one after around a year respectively.
I left one job after 1.5 years after constantly being overlooked for a promotion and people with less experience etc. Getting promoted right in front of me. Despite having also been there 1.5 years.
I left a job after a similar amount of time due to a bullying manager. I had applied for roles in other depts but not been successful.
I left another role after a year due to being put on informal capability procedures (school role).
One job I had for 4 months, but in those 4 months I worked in 3 different settings.
Once I moved as the manager was a total bully, the second I moved as I had a service user who was violent, but they kept that quiet and then he punched me in the face out of nowhere, and also ran off and bit a 2 year old child whilst in my presence (i am not blaming the service user) I just can't believe they didn't mention the complex needs at all. It's not something I am comfortable or experienced with. The next place, I was the only quiet person amongst a group of self-proclaimed 'crazy and loud' women. They were nice, but I knew I'd find it very difficult as an introvert.
I'm currently with 4 different agencies and flit between different roles with them. I've been doing this now for 1.5 years, and even within this time I've walked out of places after a week as there was a very bitchy staff atmosphere, or the role wasn't at all what I'd thought it would be etc.

Anyway I manage my hours, I always get plenty of work and I think my pay is correct for what I do.
However I've never held down a permanent job for over 2 years and I'm 31. Some friends make jokes about it but inside I'm ashamed. I shouldn't be, being an agency worker is very flexible and I've worked in so many different settings right now. Sometimes I do wish I could be in one place permanently where I could progress.
I'm on around 23k a year I believe, whilst by no means a very poor salary it is still quite low compared to what most people my age are earning.
I'm qualified as a teacher, I have a degree and I'm multilingual. However I've done a lot of supply and I simply cannot manage behaviour, it's the reason I don't want to go for a full time teaching post.
I'm also scared of bullying again after having experienced it in a few places. I have reported, told people not to speak to me like that etc. But these people are everywhere. In a temp job it's fine, you don't have to ever see them again but when its your manager it's different.
I just don't know what to do. I do recognize that I've given up on roles far too soon in the past.

OP posts:
Fairislefandango · 10/09/2022 16:00

I'm not so sure that behaviour will necessarily be any better in some private schools until you're established.

I agree. I said upthread that private schools aren't immune to behaviour problems.

SianNotAMan · 10/09/2022 16:04

Thé hit that stood out for me in your first post was “constantly” being overlooked for promotions in your first year and a half. You’d barely got your feet under the table at that point, so not being promoted is really not surprising. You had no reason to expect one, and how many must you have been applying for to be “constantly” overlooked?

It sounds like you must have been applying for a lot, surely there was at most one or two that you were qualified and experienced enough for in that time.

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