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CF child keeps coming round to play on xbox

62 replies

Fififelix · 08/09/2022 16:47

I have an Xbox series X it's my game console and I sometimes play on it after DD goes to bed. DD has little interest playing it. I let the neighbours child have a go one day on the weekend he keeps knocking round everyday to play on it. I'm having a really stressful time at the moment he doesn't seem to get the hint. How do I tell this child he's not coming to play on my Xbox everyday ?

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Jellybean23 · 08/09/2022 17:11

Surely you are the adult here, this is ridiculous when adults can't turn away a child. You say no, it's my xbox and I let you play on it once as a treat but that was the only time. Children need to be told plain and simple but kindly. Then they understand. Don't prevaricate and make one off excuses or he'll keep coming back.

Beautiful3 · 08/09/2022 17:13

Yes, explain that the x box isn't for children to play on.

WalkingOnTheCracks · 08/09/2022 17:24

As another poster says, he’s not a CF - he’s a child who wants to play with your toy.

So tell him he can’t. He might be disgruntled, but he’ll get it.

But don’t lie to the kid.

God, why do people keep suggesting you tell him it’s broken, or stolen, or only works when the invisible Flatscreen Fairy is visiting? Any kid with any nous would go away not only disgruntled but also of the view that you’re a lying, patronising, lily-livered arse

SpeckofDustUponMySoul · 08/09/2022 17:27

Be the adult that too are and say "no" to the child, who is not a CF. 😎

Original poster
Fififelix · 08/09/2022 17:27

I don't mind him playing on it occasionally at the weekend absolutely not weekdays when I've got home from work and I'm busy. I will be clear with him and just say no my DD seems to understand hints.

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SpeckofDustUponMySoul · 08/09/2022 17:28

Be the adult that too are and say "no" to the child, who is not a CF. 😎

FOJN · 08/09/2022 17:31

This child is not being a cheeky fucker at all. I cannot understand why you would expect a child to understand you are having a stressful time right now and take the hint.

Hopeandlove · 08/09/2022 17:32

ChippingLeCrue · 08/09/2022 16:55

Why not just be honest? No you cannot play on the xbox. He clearly isn't coming round to play with your DD is he?

No I’m sorry you will have to get your own

Original poster
Fififelix · 08/09/2022 17:33

He rarely knocks on for DD maybe 1 day a week at the weekend. He's now knocking on everyday not to play with DD but to play on my Xbox which is cheeky.

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IncompleteSenten · 08/09/2022 17:33

You can't come every day, child. You can come for an hour on X day. Do not knock on other days or I won't let you play it at all.

Original poster
Fififelix · 08/09/2022 17:33

DD plays on her tablet while the child plays the Xbox 🤣

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Connie2468 · 08/09/2022 17:35

How do I tell this child he's not coming to play on my Xbox everyday?

This is going to sound crazy, but how about 'you can't come and play on my xbox everyday'

blockpavingismynightmare · 08/09/2022 17:35

Another CF thread. Yawn

Connie2468 · 08/09/2022 17:36

"Don't knock again, DD will call for you when she wants to invite you over to play with her"

Rainbowshine · 08/09/2022 17:38

Child: can I play on your xbox?

You: No I don’t want anyone else to use my Xbox, you need to get your own if you want to play games. I have work to do so bye now.

Close door.

It’s that simple. Yes he won’t like it but it’s not depriving him of anything totally vital and he needs to learn that he can’t expect to use other peoples things all the time.

Testina · 08/09/2022 17:47

Fififelix · 08/09/2022 17:33

He rarely knocks on for DD maybe 1 day a week at the weekend. He's now knocking on everyday not to play with DD but to play on my Xbox which is cheeky.

It’s not cheeky at all!
He’s a child, he’s just asking for what he wants - learn from him!
Your view on this is completely screwed.
What “hint” did you give him? 🤨

WallaceinAnderland · 08/09/2022 17:48

Haha an adult who can't say no to child coming into her house to use her things. What a world we live in!

Jedsnewstar · 08/09/2022 17:48

FOJN · 08/09/2022 17:31

This child is not being a cheeky fucker at all. I cannot understand why you would expect a child to understand you are having a stressful time right now and take the hint.

This.

Hesma · 08/09/2022 17:49

Say no and tell his parents to stop letting him round

misskatamari · 08/09/2022 17:50

I voted yabu, purely because you surely just say no! You’re a grown adult. No sorry random kid, it’s not convenient, bye. On repeat.

BabyDreamers · 08/09/2022 17:53

That's so rude. Tell the child it's broken.

Jellybean23 · 08/09/2022 18:06

Please don't prolong the agony by saying you don't mind him coming around sometimes but not week nights. That is just crazy. And you really WILL mind him coming around at weekends, let's be honest.

IfCanCanICan · 08/09/2022 18:07

Poor kid, being branded a cheeky fucker for asking if he can do what you let him do...

He's just a child. Be kind but explicit - 'Aah, you know, it was a bit of a treat letting you play the other day, but it's not something you can do every day I'm afraid. Sorry sweetheart. Bye then, we'll see you soon.'

MsBullseye · 08/09/2022 18:11

Tell him that you've had to sell it to cover the huge electric bill that he racked up the last time he used it

Joke btw...

just say 'it's fucked mate'

Riverlee · 08/09/2022 18:12

Be proactive. Say no, but suggest a time on Saturday or Sunday. Control the narrative.