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To rehome my puppy or stick it out

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Boujisboo · 08/09/2022 09:00

I got a second puppy (already have a 2 year old)
I absolutely adore him to pieces but he’s very hard and different to my first. He isn’t taking to toilet training well, he’s eating his own poo, plus I’m working And have recently broken my hand which makes it harder. He’s 16 weeks and lovely but I’m finding myself getting angry with him for doing puppy things because it’s so hard with my hand.
mow my 2 year old is starting to just puss in then house too!
my ds will be distraught and probably never forgive me but I just don’t know if I can do it anymore even though I know I’ll miss him terribly

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romdowa · 09/09/2022 21:47

I've a 15 week old cockerpoo and I'm right there with you. Between the toilet training being impossible and the nipping, we are tearing our hair out and have threatened to rehome ddog several times an hour 🤣

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Boujisboo · 09/09/2022 22:43

He just did a poo outside (took am hour) but he didn’t even try and eat it! I’m so so so happy and proud of him! The fact he didn’t try and eat it is amazing to me he was so happy with himself too

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Boujisboo · 09/09/2022 22:45

romdowa · 09/09/2022 21:47

i sympathise! So badly. I think it’s ok to vent it’s what’s bloody got me through.

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autienotnaughty · 09/09/2022 22:57

The 'teen' months are tough!! My lab ate his poo 🤢 he grew out of that after a few months but I also made sure his food was good quality. He's 18m now and still mouthing/chewing tho he has improved.

Flat04 · 10/09/2022 16:22

I'm sorry things are difficult. We have a 3 year old dog and 4.5 month puppy who's actually a really easy puppy, but the relentlessness of even easy puppies is hard work. I feel like I've barely been able to relax for a second since we brought her home, and I have a husband and teens to share the burden and no broken hand, so I can totally understand why you're at the end of your rope. I think it's great that you recognise you're overwhelmed and are reaching out for suggestions. You're doing amazingly at taking the advice on board, but one thing that jumped out at me is this.

iv brought a little puppy pad thing for indoors for when I’m at work (I work school hours but lots of working home so rarely left with my other dog for more than 2 hours) iv decided to put their toys and things in the kitchen which is small when im gone,

I honestly think leaving a 16 week-old puppy alone for 2 hours if not in a crate is almost guaranteeing much harder work for yourself. If you can't be right there with him, I think he needs to be confined to a very small space, and preferably sleeping. Otherwise he has way too much freedom to form bad habits, which can be very hard to break. If you're going to be out, I think you need to make sure he's been tired out, give him a frozen kong and put him in a crate or pen. I'm another person who believes puppy pads are confusing, especially if he's already developed the habit of going in the house.

Good luck OP. Keep at it and won't be long before you all have a great companion!

Frances658 · 10/09/2022 17:57

Yes I agree with the PPs, I'd just bite the bullet and crate train him. I think it will really help with the toilet training, they don't like to go in their "den". I don't think a pen will help very much with that, there's too much space, he'll just decide that one end of it is his toilet, and it will be more difficult for him to understand that he can't go to the toilet inside. I agree with @Flat04 , I'd get a crate that's just big enough for him to stretch out in. It will encourage him to sleep (my puppy sleeps much better when he's actually shut in his crate, he's far less distracted), and puppies are supposed to sleep for most of the day.

Frances658 · 10/09/2022 18:01

And as lots of people get a crate for their puppies, which they then grow out of, there must be loads knocking about 2nd hand.

hedgehogscrossing · 10/09/2022 18:24

You could try crate training now, I don't think its too late. Our 13 week terrier cross actually likes her crate, she knows that mid morning she goes in and naps for at least an hour and a half. It means I can get on with stuff and I know she's safe. I actually wanted to have her sleep on my bed now she's a bit bigger but she jumps off and goes in crate. Maybe try literally 2/3 min with a treat and build up. I leave toys in there if I am downstairs but take everything out at night.

Flat04 · 10/09/2022 19:11

I saw that you mentioned struggling financially, so I can understand not feeling in a position to shell out for a crate. Can you make the pen more crate-like by sectioning it off so he doesn't have the run of the whole thing?

GetThatHelmetOn · 27/12/2022 09:16

Moneymoneymoney1979 · 08/09/2022 09:09

Still early days for toilet training. Eating poo indicates boredom, something lacking nutritionally or an unclean breeder.

… or pup “hidding” it’s sins to avoid being told off.

Get these 2 books:

How to house break your dog in a week
The Gina Ford guide to potty training.

The first one, I swear by it, have trained several dogs including problematic rescues and different ages and they all were clean in less than a week.

The second one, as controversial as Gina Ford might be, she is certainly right on how to identify when your kid is ready for the potty.

Whatever you do, don’t try both at the same time. Start with the dog to remove a lot of the stress quickly and then try again with your child.

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