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Original poster

To be concerned with my neighbours potentially being a drug dealer

31 replies

cJenn · 07/09/2022 20:13

I really don’t want to sound like a nosy neighbour but my NDN has been acting very strangely and I am legitimately worried that he’s dealing drugs. I do live in what many would class as a ‘rough’ area..

So the first give away is he went from some beat up 2001 plate Renault Clio to a brand new BMW in all black with tint on the windows. Must have cost an absolute bomb! He stays at home most days and I don’t know what he does for work but definitely not the kind of work where he’d be able to afford that kind of car!

He has a lot of visitors. None of them stay very long from what I can tell. There’s always someone coming or going.

He is very secretive and barely talks. I often say hello and try to initiate conversation but he never wants to hang around and have a conversation.

I just get a really weird vibe from him and don’t know how or if to proceed!

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BlooberryBiskits · 07/09/2022 20:29

You can anonymously report these details to Crime stoppers : if you say you suspect dealing then the police are quite likely to act

hopefully you are just one of many neighbours so you would not be suspected of reporting

Original poster
cJenn · 07/09/2022 20:31

Surely I need some kind of evidence before reporting though?

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LadybirdsAreNeverHappy · 07/09/2022 20:35

I don’t think there’s any point reporting it to the police. They can’t do anything based on your word that he upgraded his car and has lots of visitors to his home. People have basic rights. None of this behaviour indicates that he’s broken any laws. Plus they have no way of knowing you’re not a crack pot or have some grudge against him. Maybe wait to report it once you’ve seen evidence of an actual crime.

ComtesseDeSpair · 07/09/2022 20:36

You can “report” somebody simply because you think they have shifty eyes, regardless of any evidence; the lack of evidence just means the police are less likely to take it seriously and act. Telling them that you know for sure he definitely doesn’t do the sort of job which would afford him his new car, then in the next breath saying that you never have a conversation probably isn’t going to win them around.

Alliswells · 07/09/2022 20:38

There are lots of well paid jobs working from home perhaps that's how he could afford the new car.

You've had quite the leap to jump to him being a drug dealer. Not everyone wants to stand chatting to their neighbour ... Hardly makes him secretive does it?

I don't think you've much to go on to report it to the police tbh and you would do well to just steer clear

ComtesseDeSpair · 07/09/2022 20:39

And if if it makes you feel better, drug dealers generally don’t shit where they eat: they don’t want a load of potentially high people or people in withdrawal arriving and drawing attention to their home so they generally hire a delivery driver to dispatch what they sell. He very likely just has a lot of visitors.

Fennellathewitch · 07/09/2022 20:40

Wind your neck in, if you live in a rough area this should be second nature. Unless he's causing a nuisance and upsetting you.

EmeraldShamrock1 · 07/09/2022 20:41

He could be an influencer or on only fans, bitcoin trading, plenty of people are making money from him or he could be dealing.

Without evidence I'd keep my nose off.

Also stop curtain twitching unless you are in a position to move as when/if he gets raided he'll blame you.

noclothesinbed · 07/09/2022 20:46

If I were you I would mind my own business. I definitely would not be getting involved In this

Sunnyqueen · 07/09/2022 20:51

Have you been reading the daily mails guide to drug dealers? its very stereotypical and not a brilliant reflection on actual reality.

If you do decide to snitch him up keep in mind 2 possibilities that do happen to neighbours when they report. He becomes fairly certain it was you and that brings a whole heap of shit to your door. The other possibility is he thinks it was someone else, retaliates and before you know it your ndn is involved in a war.
If its not directly impacting you in anyway I would just leave it.

StoneofDestiny · 07/09/2022 20:54

If you are worried report on Crimestoppers anonymously and leave it up to them to see if anything needs investigating.

5128gap · 07/09/2022 20:54

My neighbour was a drug dealer. Friendly and chatty. No odd vibes. No one coming to the house either. A lot of people's neighbours are, especially in deprived areas. Unless you feel threatened I'd leave it alone. There's not enough resources to follow up people's vague suspisions about their neighbours BMWs.

Funnyboutnuffin · 07/09/2022 20:57

My old ndn was a drug dealer. Phone calls and visitors all day and night, shiny new motorbikes despite being on disability for a bad back. Not a dig at those on benefits.

He was nice as pie to us but in the local community he had a hard man reputation.

I had a new roof and the roofer could see what looked like drugs stored in his roof through the party wall gaps. Next day the Police raided his house, I didn’t report him, presume the roofer did.

He swiftly moved on then. I’d report anonymously if you do it.

Silvercurtains · 07/09/2022 20:58

I suspect my ndn has been dealing for a couple of years and I haven’t reported him because he’s a good neighbour. He’s mostly quiet, discreet, his visitors are quiet, there’s never been any people out of their face hanging around outside. If this isn’t any impacting your life in any negative way, I think you’d best leave it well alone. If you report him and he thinks you did it, your life could be made difficult. What outcome are you hoping for?

BrownOrangeRed · 07/09/2022 21:05

You don't know what he does yet assume because he's at home all day it can't be a high paying job? Maybe he does online trading, started a tech company, works for any other company but from home, maybe he makes adult content for online. Did you consider any of those before assuming he's a drug dealer. Maybe leave the bloke alone and take up knitting or something.

SmileyClare · 07/09/2022 21:08

Evidence so far gathered from behind your net curtains;

  1. new car, could be on finance?
  2. single man with lots of visitors
  3. he doesn’t want to have a conversation when you approach him
Its almost like an episode of Breaking Bad 😂
Original poster
cJenn · 07/09/2022 21:17

SmileyClare · 07/09/2022 21:08

Evidence so far gathered from behind your net curtains;

  1. new car, could be on finance?
  2. single man with lots of visitors
  3. he doesn’t want to have a conversation when you approach him
Its almost like an episode of Breaking Bad 😂

Thats not quite it, there is more stuff! For example when I see him he’s often carrying around a massive gym back but I don’t believe he goes to the gym!

I just have a weird feeling about him!

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SunnyD44 · 07/09/2022 21:18

I can’t see his any of this points to being a drug dealer?!

I especially don’t get the part of him being quiet and not wanting to have a conversation with you.
He can’t be a very good drug dealer if he has no social skills.

SunnyD44 · 07/09/2022 21:19

Why don’t you believe he goes to the gym?

And no one is going to carry around a massive gym bag full of drugs!!

I think you’ve been watching too many films OP.

whatyousayin · 07/09/2022 21:24

Just report him, it would be anonymous and give you peace of mind you did take action. Even if you live in a rough area you don't have to have drug dealers on your doorstep.

Mabelstearooms · 07/09/2022 21:25

May I suggest a new hobby. Maybe a team sport or something.

strugglingmum82 · 07/09/2022 21:27

Dealers tend to not have clients visiting. If he does then he is incredibly thick

Peonypetalperfume · 07/09/2022 21:29

Someone who lives opposite us has just been released after serving time for dealing. He definitely did it on his own doorstep and there were so many people who turned up it was ridiculous. They were so obvious. However we didn’t report anything as I was worried about reprisals. Clearly someone did or the police were onto him 🤷‍♀️. I’m still glad we didn’t.

SmileyClare · 07/09/2022 21:30

Hmm massive bag .. sorry op but 😂

Try approaching him in disguise next time to strike up a conversation about the bag?

It seems a little malicious to report with your current lack of evidence.

CuntyMcBollocks · 07/09/2022 21:30

I don't think you have a basis to say that he is a drug dealer imo. It seems like you are seeing what you want to see. How can you say that you don't know what he does for work, but then say that it isn't anything that will enable him to afford a nice car? My DH inherited a decent amount of money when his dad and grandma passed away, and he went from driving a nondescript old Ford to a shiny new Audi. It might be totally innocent.