to think my BMI is unreasonable and my DP is weird?

[Ariadnee]

I weighed myself tonight, newish scales, analogue, I am 7.5 stones at 5'4.
I dont look skinny but am very slight. I eat well but healthily (salmon, veg, rice, homemade pizza) and am active with yoga and cardio for approx 40 mins per day. I feel good and my clothes haven't changed, I am a size 6-8 uk.

My family have always been small, so it isn't too odd to me but the NHS calc says I am quite underweight. Like a 17 MBI.

My Dp insists the scales are wrong and we are much bigger. Every time we weigh in. I ask why and he says we don't look as light as they say. But we have gone to chemists and Tesco to test the scales and all of them agree with our home ones.
Why would my DP insist i am larger than I am, and not be concerned?

I feel healthy and look it, so I presume things are ok, but this odd thing with him insisting our scales are out by a stone is weird to me. I don't like being so light am am happy to up my calories, but I am confused with my partner for insisting I am much heavier than I am. I feel that he isn't interested in my health if he can ignore a low weight.

OP - I suspect your DP likes you skinny and doesn't want you to put on a few pounds to get into the healthy weight category. As things are not good between you two, I think you can safely ignore his nonsense and start to slightly increase your calorie intake to try to get up to BMI 18, which i think is the start of a healthy weight.

Can I ask what dp's bmi/weight is? Could he be more focused on his weight or BMI being wrong hence the weighing on different scales and claiming yours are wrong? The only other reason for him acting like this that I can think of is that for some reason he doesn't want you to gain any weight . Anyway, I think it is a good idea from a health point of view to mention it to your gp or practice nurse just to rule out any hidden health issues that either are causing the low weight or are occurring because your weight is a little low.

I suppose a lot of models probably have not dissimilar BMIs to you so possibly he doesn’t know what a healthy weight looks like.

Does sound a bit gaslighty though.

Sorry zombie thread! Actually don’t know how I got here

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