If you can't have it all at the same time, what is the thing you're currently missing out on?

[MacNCheeeeese]

I read on here often that you can have it all but not at the same time. So I just wondered what part of it "all" it is that people are currently missing out on in their lives?

I've just retired early so no more saving.
Lots of free time but it's running out. I feel like I have 16 years to enjoy life with DH and see the world. Then we'll be 70 if we make it that far

Career. I compromised on mine so DH could do better in his, because he earned way more. Resigned to it but will never be happy about it.

I don't have a partner but that's choice.

A career that doesn't make me long for death.

Health

I can't have my husband and my home town. I'm desperately miserable living away from my home country / family and friends but if I move and go back home my husband and I will break up as he can't / wont move. It's a really depressing situation to be in and I wish we had stayed long distance :-(

Interests/a hobby.

In between work, looking after children, exercise, a rare night out with friends etc I just don't have any headspace or energy for a hobby but I would really like one. At the moment I go to the gym two or three times a week and try to read a couple of pages of a book at bedtime and that is it outside of work/kids/collapsing on the sofa and watching crap on TV in the evening.

I'm hoping as DDs get older it will get easier.

Nothing! I have a good job that I enjoy, two lovely daughters I get plenty of time with, a husband who I adore and who adores me, a good home, and supportive family, and everything I could possibly need.

Sleep and pringles.

I've just gone back to work as a teaching assistant after the summer, so that's generally a shock to the system for the first few weeks, plus being up at all hours trying to watch the US open. I've now been awake for 13 hours, and bedtime is at least three hours away. (But it's all self-inflicted so according to my family I can't complain!)

And Asda are out of stock of bloody pringles for the second week running!

A career. I don't necessarily feel bothered about this as Ive loved being a sahm and wouldn't do anything differently but now they're getting older I feel at a loose end and haven't a clue what to do next. I'm bored!

A few things! Sleep - to some extent. Money - to a significant extent and that is partly through some choices I've made that I do own and accept. Mental wellbeing to some extent, but I've worked hard on this and things are much better than they were. Travel - because of said lack of money. A house the size we'd like, in the area we'd like - because of money. Sex life - because of the aforementioned lack of sleep. A career - but again this is partly due to choices I have made myself.

And even with all that - we still feel that we can't have more than the 2 children we currently have, even though we want more. Because despite all our sacrifices - well, mainly mine - to faciliate family life - it's still not enough to let us have any more. Mostly because of the lack of money.

Career. I had to change direction when I had children as it wasn't family friendly. So now I have an admin job instead.

Social life.

Work

I run my own business and work from home which is amazing for
A) children
B) exercise
C) healthy eating
D) keeping on top of chores / house

But only because I've had a shitty year and have hardly any work

If I'm busy, the above list is much smaller!

A job I enjoy

Me - there's no time for me!

I work more than full-time hours on our business so I have a career. I work mainly from home so I'm around for the children a lot and try to be as present as I possibly can be, but the candle is burnt at both ends and is decidedly soggy in the middle too. There's no time for me, other than to sleep.

My husband.

A libido (bloody peri-menopause).

Career progression. I’d like to work more hours but DH already works long hours.

Money and figure.

Rest and relaxation.

my career is going well but taking up too much time and energy. What’s left is given to my child, husband and home.

im struggling though and knackered. I plan to work less in the next few months.

I’d love a new car. My old banger is alright, it’s lasted me well but I’d bloody love a new car. One day!

Youth.

Security - DH has chosen this year to retrain and go self employed, I wish we’d have had the means to do it 10 years ago.
He’s had to have 6 months without income and the course has cost the best part of £10k to retrain and his final exam keeps being put back as all the Gas training regs have been changed this year so he’s had to do lots more exam work 🙄 We have enough in the bank to live until February without touching savings but it looks like he won’t be qualified and able to work until late October at the earliest. It’s a bit of a worry to go self employed with everything that’s going on right now.

Sleep and a tidy house

My work life balance is weighted too much towards work, my diet is shit and I don’t exercise.

Previously when the dses were younger I was working part time and exercising loads. My hours increased as dses needed less support and I damaged my knees running.

Now I earn a lot more but the balance isn’t right.