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AIBU? moonpig a card to a neighbour to tell them to shut up?

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ServerSurfer · 06/09/2022 07:23

Every morning at 5:45am exactly; they leave their house and make a racket with their car. It wakes me up every morning and I cannot get back to sleep.


  1. wear earplugs
  2. close the window and sweat to death (we don't have the heating on, im just a hot mess)
  3. ignore and go on feeling knackered
  4. moonpig a card to politely ask them to be a bit more quiet when leaving their house so early?

    I didn't include the option where I go and discuss this like adults, because, I'm too much of a wimp for that.

    WWYD? Grin
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Christonabike37 · 06/09/2022 07:26

A friend got reported to the council by a neighbour for his cars noise. He has had the exhaust changed though so it makes a racket. He got a letter from council but it doesn't say which neighbour. Could try that. They'll actually pay attention to it.

I think you can find out who moonpiged you a card if you try.

PAFMO · 06/09/2022 07:26

So they have an early start and use their car to get to work?

ClottedCreamAndStrawberries · 06/09/2022 07:26

Just be warned that if the neighbour is pissed off enough then MoonPig can give out details of the sender (it’s on the website)

I know you don’t want to talk to them so I won’t suggest that. However, they sound like inconsiderate arseholes so I doubt any of the other options would work anyway.

Brefugee · 06/09/2022 07:27

it depends what it is. Are they banging all the doors and singing "good Morning" at the top of the lungs while their car engine warms up?
is it a loudly creaky gate? Loud exhaust?

Some things you have to suck up. Others you can ask them to cut it out/down

ReneBumsWombats · 06/09/2022 07:28

Assuming they are going to work, what do you want them to do?

TakeYourFinalPosition · 06/09/2022 07:29

Are they doing something they could do quieter, or is just them moving about etc that is waking you up?

knackeredagain · 06/09/2022 07:30

What sort of noise are we talking? I’m not entirely sure how you shut a car up.

DillonPanthersTexas · 06/09/2022 07:31

Make a racket how, gunning the engine? Slamming doors?

My neighbour used to have a habit of starting the engine and leaving it to idle for about half an hour while they went back inside to have breakfast. I knocked on the door and politely spelt out that it was unreasonably disturbing the street, they were a bit taken back but the next day she only started the car when she was about to head off to work. Just talk to them?

J0y · 06/09/2022 07:31

The back door slam that goes on through the night next door, I get it. Yanbu.
let us know if it works.

Sirzy · 06/09/2022 07:31

Whatever the situation tne card would be ridiculously passive aggressive.

unless they are shouting and slamming doors you need to just accept its part of life

Hotandbothereds · 06/09/2022 07:33

What are they actually doing? Revving the engine, slamming doors and shouting, or just starting their car to go to work?

The moon pig idea will backfire!

A580Hojas · 06/09/2022 07:35

I'm woken up every morning by my neighbours children running shouting and yelling in their parent's bedroom which has a wooden floor. I've resorted to ear plugs.

Talipesmum · 06/09/2022 07:35

Why would you moonpig the card and not just put a note in the post yourself?

Onlyforcake · 06/09/2022 07:36

Are you my neighbour? My husband goes to work fairly early (5.45 is the later end of normal) and his stupid work vehicle is woefully loud. Not really sure what can be done about it.

bodie1890 · 06/09/2022 07:39

I didn't include the option where I go and discuss this like adults, because, I'm too much of a wimp for that

Unfortunately that is exactly what you need to do.

Moonpig? What? At least just put a note through their letterbox and sign your name. It's not an unreasonable thing to raise.

MikeWozniaksMoustache · 06/09/2022 07:49

Why wouldn’t a note through the door be the other option if you’re too pathetic to talk to them?

You’ve not said exactly what they’re doing. But if it’s just simply leaving the house and going to work you need to pop your little earplugs in. I’m not sure why you’d allow yourself to be “feeling knackard” when you have earplugs already and it would literally stop the issue but… people like a drama.

LittleBearPad · 06/09/2022 07:50

You could talk to them

LMCOA · 06/09/2022 07:52

Pull up your big kid pants and go and talk to them like a grown up.

MikeWozniaksMohawk · 06/09/2022 07:54

Have nothing to add. Just want to say hi to @MikeWozniaksMoustache and compliment the excellent name

houseargh · 06/09/2022 07:55

When I was a kid we once received an anonymous note from a neighbor about our puppy making noise (we weren't putting him out to bark or anything, he was just a puppy, so not completely silent all the time). It was a really horrible feeling. You should feel ashamed of yourself for even considering it. As PP have said, if it's regular car noise you suck it up, obviously. If it's unnecessarily noisy you go talk to them. Some people. Honestly.

Shoxfordian · 06/09/2022 07:55

What kind of racket? If it’s just driving off then there’s not much you can do about that

WaltzingWaters · 06/09/2022 07:59

Depends if they’ve had a noisy exhaust fitted/extremely revving the engine to make themselves heard or if they just have a bit of a noisy vehicle that sounds a little extra noisy at that time of morning. It’s hard to tell if they’re actually doing anything wrong without knowing.
if they’re just going to work you suck it up and put earplugs in. If they’re trying to be boy racers, you tell them to shut it/complain to the council.


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EnjoythemoneyJane · 06/09/2022 08:08

Moonpig?! To the house next door?! You can’t even put a handwritten note through? Christ, that’s peak conflict avoidance which seems likely to end up having the opposite effect. It’s all so weirdly impersonal and PA! I can’t actually speak to you but I can go to all the trouble of writing and sending a third party message of complaint which if I ever see you in person I can then pretend never happened …

Also, what exactly do you expect them to do, OP? They’re going to work. Do you imagine they can silently roll their car away until it’s out of earshot? Honestly, the only realistic way to deal with this is to just have a conversation with them. Only you can decide whether that’s worse for you to bear than the other options.

HairyMothballs · 06/09/2022 08:11

If starting the car is the only thing you're neighbour is doing that annoys you, I think you're lucky. In the past, we've had neighbours who rang a drug den (we didn't know at the time), had noisy dogs, noisy kids, played loud music, and one who played the drums at 11pm.

Wear earplugs

carefullycourageous · 06/09/2022 08:21

We need more details about 'make a racket' as that could be something or nothing.

But no, I wouldn't Moonpig a card, that's weird. Either speak to them (assertive), or hide (passive). Don't be passive aggressive.

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