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Original poster

To not take DD to an activity she’ll enjoy because I want a lie in?

30 replies

Wouldyouornott · 05/09/2022 19:42

That title sounds so much more provocative than I want the thread to be, so here’s the situation.

DD is nearly 2. I work 3 days a week, we attend groups on the other two days that are in the morning and on Sundays she goes swimming.

Have seen an activity on Saturday mornings she’ll enjoy. But the thing is, I know her dad won’t take her - he isn’t a terrible parent or anything but he will faff around and dick about so much that my lie in will go. So it’s easier for me to take her. But then it means I’m up with the larks every single day

YABU - suck it up, DD will enjoy it and that’s what’s important.
YANBU - sleep.

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piglet81 · 05/09/2022 19:43

Sleep. She’s 2 - she doesn’t need to go to activities every day.

emmathedilemma · 05/09/2022 19:44

She’s nearly 2, she doesn’t need that many organised activities

Ugo · 05/09/2022 19:44

Sleep. Every time. She’s nearly 2 & won’t remember.

Flev · 05/09/2022 19:44

She's not even 2 yet - the activities you're already doing are plenty. Get some sleep - a well rested mum is far more benefit to her than another group.

Squashpocket · 05/09/2022 19:44

Don't be ridiculous, she's 2. Have a lie in. When she asks you specifically for a particular activity because she loves it and all her friends are doing it and you still prioritise your lie in, THEN you might be unreasonable. Until then have a lie in woman! You've got years of activities ahead of you.

Shinyandnew1 · 05/09/2022 19:44

Sleep-she’s 2. There are years ahead of you for clubs.

Tiani4 · 05/09/2022 19:45

Stay in bed
She's 2
She'll live

PutinIsAWarCriminal · 05/09/2022 19:46

When you say up with the larks, how early are you getting up, and how much sleep are you getting. This is more important.

ShirleyPhallus · 05/09/2022 19:47

But the thing is, I know her dad won’t take her - he isn’t a terrible parent or anything but he will faff around and dick about so much that my lie in will go. So it’s easier for me to take her. But then it means I’m up with the larks every single day

why are you facilitating his crap parenting rather than insisting he steps up?

Qnicey · 05/09/2022 19:48

Oh gosh, enjoy your lie-ins while you can. Definitely don't take her. She's not even 2, she doesn't need to do 'activities' if they don't suit you.

It's different when they're older and they want to do certain things or have to go to team trainings.

Hesma · 05/09/2022 19:48

She is 1, enjoy your sleep

Jules912 · 05/09/2022 19:49

I wouldn't, at that age she won't know what she's missing and having activities on a Saturday and Sunday means no time for family days out etc

Maray1967 · 05/09/2022 19:50

I think everyone really needs one lie in day. She won’t miss the activity at this age! She’s doing plenty already.

mountainsunsets · 05/09/2022 19:50

She's not even two yet. Don't waste your time and money.

NoHomers · 05/09/2022 19:50

Good god no.

If she was 10 and begging you to go then maybe, but even then I would be saying that her father needs to get his shit together first.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/09/2022 19:51

YANBU

You need to lie in at some point or you’ll burn out. Especially if you’re not a natural lark- if you were a lark you wouldn’t be asking the question as you’d probably be happy with an early night instead 🙄 (that face is to early nights which just stress me out!)

Shes 2 and won’t remember. Or if you think this activity is marvellous cancel one of the others so you can lie in another day.

She’ll surely benefit from having at least one non rushed morning too.

Runmybathforme · 05/09/2022 19:52

She's 1, forget about it and have your lie in
Stop enabling your DH to be an idiot.

Doingmybest12 · 05/09/2022 20:11

Have a slow morning at home and you will all benefit including your child.

Original poster
Wouldyouornott · 05/09/2022 20:15

Thanks, will hold back on it Smile

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AliceW89 · 05/09/2022 20:15

She’s 2 not 12! Just don’t take her and have your lie in! She will have absolutely no clue she is theoretically ‘missing out’.

Brendabigbaps · 05/09/2022 20:15

We’ve always made sure we have one weekend morning where we all have a lie in together, it’s my daughters (and my) favourite thing to do.
memories aren’t just made from activities

Original poster
Wouldyouornott · 05/09/2022 20:16

Unfortunately she doesn’t really do lie ins, she slept till nearly 7 the other day and I was paranoid something awful had happened to her!

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TulipCat · 05/09/2022 20:21

I thought this was going to be something like DD is 12 and has been selected for the 5.30am swim training! When they're little and you are selecting the activities, then the faff factor is always a consideration. If it's difficult or expensive to get to on a regular basis then just pick something more convenient.

LegoFiends · 05/09/2022 20:23

The activities at this age are for the parents, not the children. I’m sure you will do loads of stuff with her that she likes at different times.

notdaddycool · 05/09/2022 20:25

If it’s that good, scrap one of the others

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