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I am so bored of this life, I could just fucking scream

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mycatisannoying · 04/09/2022 19:05

An evening of chores awaits and I can't be arsed with a single one of them. Back to work tomorrow.
I wish I could just leave the kids, the pets, the chores, the ex husband ... and just piss off abroad on my own.
Maybe I'm a little depressed.
Does anyone else have the Sunday night blues?
I should add that I won't do the above, but it's a sense of love and duty that keeps me in my life, rather than any great desire to be.

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alwaysmovingforwards · 04/09/2022 19:07

Everyone has the urge to just run off sometimes, you're not alone.

Merlott · 04/09/2022 19:09

Don't spend your evening doing chores then.

After a week of not dusting it doesn't get any worse for 6 months.

Eating beans on toast 5 nights a week is fine. Mix it up by getting the ones with little sausages in. Add some Worcester or cheese on top. Yogurt and fruit for pudding.

Stop ironing.

Change beds every 2 weeks. No one dies from grubby bed sheets.

Spend less time looking at screens and more time outdoors looking at trees.

fruitbrewhaha · 04/09/2022 19:10

Yeah, somewhere sunny would be nice. DO you have anywhere in mind OP? I'd like a beach and good food.

Its tough at the moment. It's all doom and gloom everyday on the news. I feel like the next few years are going to be difficult for a lot of people.

Thepeopleversuswork · 04/09/2022 19:11

I wouldn't describe it as blues exactly but I do find Sunday evening chores a PITA.

It's the kind of thing that's tolerable if you feel you have other stuff in your life to keep you happy and excited but otherwise it can just come to symbolise boredom.

Are you generally content with your life or is it something else which could be making you want to scream?

Frances0911 · 04/09/2022 19:13

I seriously struggle loading and unloading the dishwasher, let anything else!

ShopoholicIn · 04/09/2022 19:13

Me.. nothing is working out atmo... so frustrated. DH will not realise how stressful it is. In the same situation he will be very sensible n pragmatic about it not emotional like me, hence can't see my pov.. but I am tired mentally, physically n emotionally.

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mycatisannoying · 04/09/2022 19:18

Thanks folks. I just sometimes feel like I'm living the wrong life, and would have been happier on my own.
Earlier this evening, I accidentally fell asleep on my 16 year old's bed. She came in and told me to get out. And then sprayed deodorant as if I was a bad smell that needed to be erased!
I sometimes feel as if I want to go away and not come back.

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ChickenRat · 04/09/2022 19:21

I hear you. This evening I handed the screaming baby and her bottle to DH and fucked off out of the house for that run I've been trying to find time for all week.

I may have also a screamed at him about how he gets to spend every evening gardening while I'm dealing with the kids single-handedly just like I do all day, and I may have cried.

It was needed

Hope you get some time and space for yourself soon OP

Lovelycupofcoffee · 04/09/2022 19:40

Same here the thought of work again tomorrow fills me with dread. My teenage son has just lost his job and is dropping hints about being skint 😡 So weve just fallen out as I’ve said in between college he can get a job . He then muttered something about me offering him a loan 😂 He never asks his dad it always me …

AceofPentacles · 04/09/2022 19:40

Definitely had enough here. Working six days a week at the moment and starting a huge project on Thursday, just moved house and can't get the place clean or tidy plus a million things on the to do list like changing details with the bank and car. So fucking boring!

And to top it off DS 11 is starting secondary tomorrow but has been absolutely vile to me all holidays so I feel like letting him sleep in while I just bugger off to work. You are not alone

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 04/09/2022 19:41

After a week that was slightly more troubling than most, I hear you. I have so much to do and I want to run. Far far away.

I keep thinking of Shirley Valentine (senza f plan diet!)

“I’ve led such a little life
And even that’ll be over pretty soon
I have allowed myself to lead this little life when inside me there was so much more

And it’s all gone unused. And now it never will be.
Why do we get all this life if we don’t ever use it?
Why do we get all these feelings and dreams and hopes of we don’t ever use them? That’s where Shirley Valentine disappeared to.

She got lost in all this unused life.”

I often feel like Shurl. I didn’t always live a little life. I was not Shirley the brave but Sheldon the brave. Sheldon The magnificent. But the last 20 odd years or so have been to me a little life and a stifled one at that.

A lovely mn friend kept me ticking this week and reminded me to take time to grab a moment to enjoy life. The sky. A tree. A memory of treasured unfancy childhood moments. And I have grabbed. Hard. (🌈 🦓 x)

My jobs can wait today. So can my little life.

Tonight I’m going to binge the IT crowd and be Sheldon the giggly. Sheldon the full of chocolate. Sheldon the mug of baileys quaffer.

Find a little something that makes you happy today and cling to it. Tomorrow can be a brighter day OP. ☺️

dropthevipers · 04/09/2022 19:42

mycatisannoying · 04/09/2022 19:18

Thanks folks. I just sometimes feel like I'm living the wrong life, and would have been happier on my own.
Earlier this evening, I accidentally fell asleep on my 16 year old's bed. She came in and told me to get out. And then sprayed deodorant as if I was a bad smell that needed to be erased!
I sometimes feel as if I want to go away and not come back.

Part of your answer right there. Dd does her own laundry starting now.

Bookridden · 04/09/2022 19:44

As soon as I read the post in which you mentioned having a 16 yo, I knew I understood. Something about parenting teenagers really drains your life force and enthusiasm in a big way. You are ready for your life to be about you again, but they loom over it all with their moods and needs. So very boring. Everyone seems to say that it gets better... one day.

LaughingCat · 04/09/2022 19:46

We all feel this way sometimes - like we’re playing a part that’s expected of us rather than the life we sometimes dream of.

Can you carve out some time for yourself - just something that is all yours that doesn’t involve the family, hubby or anyone that you might gave to be responsible for?

I run. Like, 100 miles at a time. Every couple of months, I have three days in the middle of nowhere where there’s no dishes, no laundry, no-one asking what’s for dinner, no bosses, no bills, no deadlines, no sulky attitude, no shopping lists…just me and the countryside.

Every three years, I bugger off to Romania with friends to fight in the mountains for a week. Similar reasons.

These let me recharge my batteries, and actually help me appreciate the humdrum and mundane more. Not saying your escapes would be the same as mine but…could you take some regular time to yourself?

LaughingCat · 04/09/2022 19:48

Ahhhh…just saw the ex-h bit…maybe not, then, unless you share custody.

Putting myself in MN jail for not reading your post properly.

Ontobetterthings · 04/09/2022 19:49

Sounds like Sunday sads

mathanxiety · 04/09/2022 20:21

@mycatisannoying
Your DD needs to apologise and if I were you I would do very little for her for the foreseeable. Her gesture was rude and hurtful and deliberate.

If any of the chores you're facing have anything to do with her, I would tell her you're not doing them and I would tell her why.

She needs to step up, and so do your other kids if you have any, do chores, and show respect for you.

Nobody can feel good about her life when her own child treats her like dirt.

IrishladyNE · 04/09/2022 20:30

mycatisannoying · 04/09/2022 19:05

An evening of chores awaits and I can't be arsed with a single one of them. Back to work tomorrow.
I wish I could just leave the kids, the pets, the chores, the ex husband ... and just piss off abroad on my own.
Maybe I'm a little depressed.
Does anyone else have the Sunday night blues?
I should add that I won't do the above, but it's a sense of love and duty that keeps me in my life, rather than any great desire to be.

I felt like this last weekend but I was fine after a couple of days. Sometimes I feel that my life is nothing but a series of chores. When I’m upbeat and have energy I’m happy.

You do sound depressed try to include some exercise even if it’s just walking. It really helps me.

IrishladyNE · 04/09/2022 20:37

mycatisannoying · 04/09/2022 19:18

Thanks folks. I just sometimes feel like I'm living the wrong life, and would have been happier on my own.
Earlier this evening, I accidentally fell asleep on my 16 year old's bed. She came in and told me to get out. And then sprayed deodorant as if I was a bad smell that needed to be erased!
I sometimes feel as if I want to go away and not come back.

I wouldn’t let that get you down to much. I was very particular about my bedroom as a teen. I’d walk behind my mother because I didn’t want to be seen with her. She was stunning too. I was an absolute shit.
In fact my child is not even 9 yet and she kicks me out of her room.

Apprehensive about teenage years as she already argues that black is white and is so opinionated 🥴

Katsufatsu · 04/09/2022 20:53

LaughingCat · 04/09/2022 19:46

We all feel this way sometimes - like we’re playing a part that’s expected of us rather than the life we sometimes dream of.

Can you carve out some time for yourself - just something that is all yours that doesn’t involve the family, hubby or anyone that you might gave to be responsible for?

I run. Like, 100 miles at a time. Every couple of months, I have three days in the middle of nowhere where there’s no dishes, no laundry, no-one asking what’s for dinner, no bosses, no bills, no deadlines, no sulky attitude, no shopping lists…just me and the countryside.

Every three years, I bugger off to Romania with friends to fight in the mountains for a week. Similar reasons.

These let me recharge my batteries, and actually help me appreciate the humdrum and mundane more. Not saying your escapes would be the same as mine but…could you take some regular time to yourself?

You fight in the mountains? I need to know a bit more about that...

TyrionsBitOnTheSide · 04/09/2022 20:56

I always have the feeling of Groundhog Day on a Sunday as you know next week will just be a repeat of last week and last week was a repeat of the week before and two weeks from now will be a repeat of next week it’s mind numbing we’re watching motor homes

Hibye23289 · 04/09/2022 20:56

Sorry you feel this way if it cheers you up slightly I read that as you had an evening of choirs!! Thought you were a vicar and off to church!

SafeMove · 04/09/2022 21:08

It's living with teenagers. I had one drop the vegan Spag Bol I slaved over, all over the stairs tonight. She's not even mine. They are disdainful drainers. It must get better.

Sunnytwobridges · 04/09/2022 21:17

Yes I feel like that too. Every day is the same chores and work. I really felt that way when my dd was young but it was better when she became a teen and less dependent on me.

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mycatisannoying · 04/09/2022 21:19

Hibye23289 · 04/09/2022 20:56

Sorry you feel this way if it cheers you up slightly I read that as you had an evening of choirs!! Thought you were a vicar and off to church!

Even that would be more exciting than my life GrinGrinGrin

Thanks everyone. You're ace.

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