I am so bored of this life, I could just fucking scream

[mycatisannoying]

An evening of chores awaits and I can't be arsed with a single one of them. Back to work tomorrow.
I wish I could just leave the kids, the pets, the chores, the ex husband ... and just piss off abroad on my own.
Maybe I'm a little depressed.
Does anyone else have the Sunday night blues?
I should add that I won't do the above, but it's a sense of love and duty that keeps me in my life, rather than any great desire to be.

[IrishladyNE]

I used to sometimes feel like that when my LO was a toddler and she went to bed. In summer I would hear people having bbqs and laughing. I’m still single and if my dad goes to her dads for the wkd I get out walking or arrange dinner with friends.

Honestly there are worse things than being alone, living with my ex was bloody awful and don’t believe all the lovey dovey shit you see on social media either. Most of it is lies.

[MsFannySqueers]

Hope you feel better soon OP💐. I vote for fighting in the Romanian mountains alongside @LaughingCat.

[Bathbomb99]

Totally relate at times OP. Single mum here and not had a break from the kids all summer. Constant. Unrelenting. Close to a breakdown! School cannot come soon enough. I adore them but Christ, I need a break from them.

[neverbeenskiing]

I think it's normal to look back and think 'what if I'd chosen a different sort of life?' from time to time. Sometimes I just feel an overwhelming urge to be alone and when I can't I fantasise about being single and childfree, I can picture every detail of my lovely, chic apartment that is full of breakable, non-child friendly things and no plastic tat or lego for me to accidentally step on. But rationally I know that the only reason it seems perfect is because it's just a fantasy. If I had chosen that sort of life I'd probably be fantasising about being married with kids.

[TheScenicWay]

I hate Sunday evenings. Get organised so all your chores are finished on Saturday or Sunday morning.
We spend Sunday evenings watching a film with dessert. Much more relaxing.

[Mooshamoo]

I don't think being alone is the answer to happiness. I'm 38, I live alone - no husband or kids.

Im not happy either. I don't like my life. I'm depressed and bored all the time. My Life is shit. Being totally alone is not easy.

[Dibbydoos]

@Merlott

Don't spend your evening doing chores then.

After a week of not dusting it doesn't get any worse for 6 months.

Eating beans on toast 5 nights a week is fine. Mix it up by getting the ones with little sausages in. Add some Worcester or cheese on top. Yogurt and fruit for pudding.

Stop ironing.

Change beds every 2 weeks. No one dies from grubby bed sheets.

Spend less time looking at screens and more time outdoors looking at trees.

@Merlott you're a genius!!!

[itsnotmeitisactuallyyou]

I dream of doing a Shirley Valentine every day.

[Peterbear]

Merlott I love your advice- so funny but also true- please write a book /blog.

[ScurryfungeMaster]

It's the constant monotony of it all isn't it? Doing a job that you know will just need doing again tomorrow, it's mind numbing sometimes. I don't think it helps that everything we read at the moment seems seems so bleak, and I think that's adding to the feeling of just wanting to get away from it all.

I've had an awful year and an even worse week, getting out of the house for a walk has helped but those Sunday blues are crap.

If I was you I'd do the bare minimum and then try to carve out some time for yourself to do something you enjoy, even if it's just a good book and a nice cuppa 💐

[Dacquoise]

Sounds like you need to find some things to do that bring you joy, little escape routes just for you. Doing the same stuff (usually for other people) over and over can feel like a life sentence.

[Hankunamatata]

Mate has right idea. She always goes out with kids sunday afternoon, eats dinner out then movie and bed.

[mycatisannoying]

@Hibye23289

Sorry you feel this way if it cheers you up slightly I read that as you had an evening of choirs!! Thought you were a vicar and off to church!

Even that would be more exciting than my life

Thanks everyone. You're ace.

[Sunnytwobridges]

Yes I feel like that too. Every day is the same chores and work. I really felt that way when my dd was young but it was better when she became a teen and less dependent on me.

[SafeMove]

It's living with teenagers. I had one drop the vegan Spag Bol I slaved over, all over the stairs tonight. She's not even mine. They are disdainful drainers. It must get better.

[Hibye23289]

Sorry you feel this way if it cheers you up slightly I read that as you had an evening of choirs!! Thought you were a vicar and off to church!

[TyrionsBitOnTheSide]

I always have the feeling of Groundhog Day on a Sunday as you know next week will just be a repeat of last week and last week was a repeat of the week before and two weeks from now will be a repeat of next week it’s mind numbing we’re watching motor homes

[Katsufatsu]

@LaughingCat

We all feel this way sometimes - like we’re playing a part that’s expected of us rather than the life we sometimes dream of.

Can you carve out some time for yourself - just something that is all yours that doesn’t involve the family, hubby or anyone that you might gave to be responsible for?

I run. Like, 100 miles at a time. Every couple of months, I have three days in the middle of nowhere where there’s no dishes, no laundry, no-one asking what’s for dinner, no bosses, no bills, no deadlines, no sulky attitude, no shopping lists…just me and the countryside.

Every three years, I bugger off to Romania with friends to fight in the mountains for a week. Similar reasons.

These let me recharge my batteries, and actually help me appreciate the humdrum and mundane more. Not saying your escapes would be the same as mine but…could you take some regular time to yourself?

You fight in the mountains? I need to know a bit more about that...

[IrishladyNE]

@mycatisannoying

Thanks folks. I just sometimes feel like I'm living the wrong life, and would have been happier on my own.
Earlier this evening, I accidentally fell asleep on my 16 year old's bed. She came in and told me to get out. And then sprayed deodorant as if I was a bad smell that needed to be erased!
I sometimes feel as if I want to go away and not come back.

I wouldn’t let that get you down to much. I was very particular about my bedroom as a teen. I’d walk behind my mother because I didn’t want to be seen with her. She was stunning too. I was an absolute shit.
In fact my child is not even 9 yet and she kicks me out of her room.

Apprehensive about teenage years as she already argues that black is white and is so opinionated 🥴

[IrishladyNE]

@mycatisannoying

An evening of chores awaits and I can't be arsed with a single one of them. Back to work tomorrow.
I wish I could just leave the kids, the pets, the chores, the ex husband ... and just piss off abroad on my own.
Maybe I'm a little depressed.
Does anyone else have the Sunday night blues?
I should add that I won't do the above, but it's a sense of love and duty that keeps me in my life, rather than any great desire to be.

I felt like this last weekend but I was fine after a couple of days. Sometimes I feel that my life is nothing but a series of chores. When I’m upbeat and have energy I’m happy.

You do sound depressed try to include some exercise even if it’s just walking. It really helps me.

[mathanxiety]

@mycatisannoying
Your DD needs to apologise and if I were you I would do very little for her for the foreseeable. Her gesture was rude and hurtful and deliberate.

If any of the chores you're facing have anything to do with her, I would tell her you're not doing them and I would tell her why.

She needs to step up, and so do your other kids if you have any, do chores, and show respect for you.

Nobody can feel good about her life when her own child treats her like dirt.

[Ontobetterthings]

Sounds like Sunday sads

[LaughingCat]

Ahhhh…just saw the ex-h bit…maybe not, then, unless you share custody.

Putting myself in MN jail for not reading your post properly.

[LaughingCat]

We all feel this way sometimes - like we’re playing a part that’s expected of us rather than the life we sometimes dream of.

Can you carve out some time for yourself - just something that is all yours that doesn’t involve the family, hubby or anyone that you might gave to be responsible for?

I run. Like, 100 miles at a time. Every couple of months, I have three days in the middle of nowhere where there’s no dishes, no laundry, no-one asking what’s for dinner, no bosses, no bills, no deadlines, no sulky attitude, no shopping lists…just me and the countryside.

Every three years, I bugger off to Romania with friends to fight in the mountains for a week. Similar reasons.

These let me recharge my batteries, and actually help me appreciate the humdrum and mundane more. Not saying your escapes would be the same as mine but…could you take some regular time to yourself?

[Bookridden]

As soon as I read the post in which you mentioned having a 16 yo, I knew I understood. Something about parenting teenagers really drains your life force and enthusiasm in a big way. You are ready for your life to be about you again, but they loom over it all with their moods and needs. So very boring. Everyone seems to say that it gets better... one day.