Leather jackets and jeans on little ones-huge row

[Theninetieswereacrazydream]

My mum, sister and I were shopping and my sister said how cute mini leather jackets were on toddlers/little ones, especially with jeans and boots…mum agreed, I pulled a face and said I didn’t like it…huge row and I was called a snob. Am I a snob for simply not liking something? The same way they might not like a flowery dress on my Dd? Isn’t it just opinion and I can say mine 🙈I just don’t like that look! 🤷🏻‍♀️
They then started to say that I put a denim jacket on Dd (I sometimes do in summer over a dress in the evening if it’s cooler at night) not the same as a black leather jacket 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

If you have a 'huge row' so easily I suggest you limit contact. It is far from normal behaviour.

Exactly this. Get a grip.

I’m with you op - I think they just look uncomfortable for small children.

I couldn't give a monkies how others dress their children tbh and wouldn't have the energy to argue about it. I'm sure some people don't like my tastes either. However, dressing young children in cute clothes is part of the fun of having them until they get old enough to make their own choices (and you have to literally battle with them to put on smart clothes for a wedding)

The only person that looked classy in a leather jacket was my late friend Doug.

spunds to you too! you crabbit rabbit.

Totally. I can't believe you thought it was worth posting about.

Nobody is unreasonable to have a personal opinion on clothes. Personally I think a leather jacket usually looks really stiff and uncomfortable on a toddler - but I think the same about toddlers in smart shirts and bowties at weddings, or cumbersome dresses.

The fact that this conversation degenerated into 'a huge row' suggests to me that there is a lot more going on than a difference of opinion about clothes, though! Do you have previous form for 'pulling a face' at your family's personal taste/choices? Was it more about the way you said it, rather than what you said?

Basically, I think if you just breezily said 'Oh, I prefer them in cute little dresses, myself! But you'd probably guessed that from the kinds of things I put DD in' then fine, but if you 'pulled a face' and said 'Eww, no, it's tacky and naff' that's obviously quite different.

I would agree - I used to work on a childrenswear department, at one point they had leather jackets for toddlers - £40 for something impractical that they would grow out of in five minutes?

But I only ever dressed DS in babygros when he was a baby. Never went for the 'cute' little outfits. Easy for me and comfortable for him was what I went by. And mainly jogging bottoms and t-shirts and a toddler, again easy and comfortable.

My daughter had a cute pleather jacket - it was very practical as it was warm but not too warm, waterproof and wipe clean! She looked great in it.
This isn't something that I'd get worked up about - lots of different opinions out there thank goodness otherwise we'd all look the same!

I used to be very against small children in jeans as too tight and restrictive. Then I was given a second hand pair in a really soft denim looking fabric in a loose and baggy design. DC wore those loads. So there's jeans and jeans. But I still don't like the stiff ones.

Huge row?? Bit mental. Everyone's needs to calm down. Your preference is your preference. End of story.

Have confidence in your style choices and don't judge them for theirs !

Yanbu for your opinion up she probably looks very sweet.
Yabu for using dead animal skin to clothe your child though.

What a ridiculous thing to have a huge row about.

FWIW I don't like leather jackets or tight fitting jeans on young children either, they're not practical or comfortable. Has nothing to do with snobbery.

How was it a 'huge row' if the worst you were called was a snob?! That sounds more like a minor disagreement. You don't like certain clothes, they think you're being snobby (and possibly hypocritical). Both sides probably raised voices and created unnecessary drama but it's hardly a huge row.

What a fun trip.

Huge row 🤣 Get over yourselves!

I expect the issue here that you came across as judgemental rather than just having a personal taste. Especially as they said you were snobby.

You might say you don’t like white fabrics on your toddlers - too much washing. Or you don’t like restrictive dresses on girls in the park, for practicality. You might even dislike “adult” looks because you think there are limited years for cute “child” looks.

But let’s face it, you were probably just criticising the look because you thought it “common” or “chavvy” (I don’t use that word, but it conveys what I expect you think). Like criticising Disney and character T shirts 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ah Mumsnet, where no one ever has a hair out place never mind an argument over something silly.
What a privilege it is to be in such wonderful company.

I won’t allow my daughter who’s 9 a leather jacket, let alone a toddler, it’s an adult look.

That being said, I’m currently in a marriage where a comment like that (or like anything) can turn into a huge row, and that is exhausting and what children need protecting from.

in summary, I’d rather she wore a leather all in one jump suit, with a leather hood and leather wellies, every day to school, than have her hear me arguing over something so minimal, ever again.

we were given a 'metal' vest for our ds1 and I rather liked it (not a leather jacket I know) but anyone else would be absolutely free to not like it.

I mean if my friend said ‘ooh isn’t that a nice top’ I’d probably just say ‘aw yeah cute.’ Why pull a face? They’re not asking you to wear it. I do wonder how some people cope when they face an actual issue in life.

Comfort over fashion at that age. My 7yo quite likes the rock chick look and wears leather jacket, gelled hair, boots and a punky skirt. I still disapprove but hey ho.