Man with a baby pushing in toilet queue - AIBU?

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Yesterday I was waiting in line for the loo in a restaurant. There were two toilets, non-gendered (a man and a woman symbol on both), one had a baby change table in, the other didn’t.

I was at the front of the line, an older man behind me. Then came two more people to wait, and a man holding a baby.

The man with the baby walked to the top of the line and stood by the toilet door with the baby change inside and tried to open it. I said “oh, it’s occupied, we’re waiting,” and gestured to the growing queue.

He was perfectly nice, we all made polite eye rolling chit chat about toilet queues.

Someone came out of said toilet with the baby change facilities and the man with the baby went to walk in and glanced at me. Because, what’s the point, I wasn’t desperate I said, “you’ve got a baby to change? Sure, go ahead,” (he was going to go ahead anyway).

It wasn’t a big wait for the next loo. But I couldn’t help but think that it was kind of rude. It felt like such a show off dad thing to do!

AIBU?

Like I said, no real stakes here, just found it mildly annoying and can’t decide if that’s petty of me!

Its rude. With a small child would definitely not bat an eye if they asked to go first in case of an accident but with a baby - its already had an accident and they can wait a little longer.

This.

Me too!
He's one of those men! Teach him to wait

Why is it rude of op to not offer for him to go in front?

I agree with this completely!

I have....many times.

That would have pissed me off to be honest . however what can you do ? You’d have been roasted if you said get on the queue! No win situation

I have never ever seen a woman do this.

so many didn't know how to queue; they just kind of pushed in

@IloveJudgeJudy, what did the other men do? Were these men allowed to push in?

He was a knob, you were very polite (and a bit bullied). Sure the baby needs changing and babies usually get priority but how does he know you don’t have IBS and urgently need to go? At the very least he should have asked you, it isn’t hard to do.

Bet you £100 he wouldn’t have queue-jumped a man. Many men just look at a queue of women, see it as irrelevant to them, and charge to the front, there’s been threads about that behaviour before. Like the dad who overtakes all the mums at pickup queue everyday and shouts at them if they object.

@IloveJudgeJudy
the men that didn’t know how to queue!? Bless them (sarcastic tone at them not you)
in these enlightened times of toilets increasingly open to all, men may find they have to learn quickly how to queue. I wonder if they have the same struggle say at the bank or the bookies or (insert other ‘manly’ location)?

You do wonder how men manage to hold down jobs.

If he just pushed in without asking then he would have been rude but you offered so he obviously accepted.

However, it didn’t sound like an emergency so there’s no reason he couldn’t have waited.

If it was an emergency then he should have politely address the whole queue and asked if anyone minded him jumping ahead.

Yes!! He had exactly this energy!!

CF dad alert!

When I need a public toilet, I generally need to go quite quickly. If he’d tried to push in front of me, I’d have pointed out the queue and made him wait.

A normal nappy change is hardly an emergency. <eye roll>

Also (missing the point entirely) that restaurant needs more toilets. That’s a lot of people to be queuing for the facilities.

Do these people not observe what others do? So entitled and self absorbed.

There are a lot of assumptions being made about this man we've never met, seems a bit unfair. You let him go and also its sometimes hard to tell whether it is a poonami. Sometimes it's best to think kindly of someone even if they seem a bit rude in the moment, easy to be stressed with a baby in tow, he might of been in a rush to get somewhere maybe?