To be annoyed by this 1am call

[memorial]

DD1 is almost 21 at uni about 4hrs away. Gone back early to move into new house.
Is a real party girl but mostly sensible.
Went out last night with her friends.
Call from her 1am (for context I am a night owl so she knows i would likely still be up).
However of course I panic thinking something has happened.
She is very drunk and seems to have had an argument with her friends (over something completely ridiculous) and walked off by herself.
She is now alone, drunk, at 1am in not the safest city.
I tell her to stop being an idiot and go back to her friends. She knows better has been drummed into her since a teen to never go off alone or let anyone else do so.
Luckily her friends are all lovely and sensible and went to find her. She sends me a pic of them all safe in their house about half hour later.
She knows I worry because she is out and drinks a lot and as all 20yr olds feels invincible.
Of course i didn't sleep well and am still annoyed this morning.

I guess part of my annoyance is I can't go and rescue her (4 hrs away)!

YABU. Better she calls you, no? And you even got a picture half an hour later showing they were all safe so you weren't worried sick all night.

I completely understand your annoyance and get what you are saying, you aren't annoyed at her or the call. Just that she's got herself into a silly situation and the frustration comes from not being able to go rescue her due to the distance.

My eldest dd is incredibly sensible but there were times when she was away at uni when she called me in a right state about something silly as she has anxiety. Of course I tried to calm her and reassure her down the phone but not being able to be there and help made me very frustrated at times.