Before first date? ❤️

[Datingadviceplease]

Dating advice please

I matched with a guy online last week
I am a doctor and he is a nurse - both 30s
We spoke a bit Wednesday and Thursday with date arranged Sunday
His chat was nice and he was trying to be flirty

He has not messaged me since - is that OK? I guess he probably assumes as date arranged no point in endless ‘checking in’. I am very sceptical about OLD given the horror stories on here and with friends.

Try Hinge. Don't take it personal that's the drawback either online dating... a lot of people are not serious.

@Ivegottherona that was Hinge

Ahhh sorry. I have been on 2 really lovely dates with someone from Hinge recently but I must admit it is a bit of a process. Good luck!

Thing is, you never know. Many conversations start of exactly the same way, flirty, fun and you're thinking great, and they lead to talking about a date. IME of hundreds of 'matches', this exact same conversation can be any one of the following..

1. Man has zero intention of ever meeting up for whatever reason.
2. Man is excited about meeting up but wants to save conversation to date
3. Man has been on OLD for a while and knows not to get remotely excited about a date because women also do 1&2, so he therefore carries on with his life and slots you in around this.

He would not have responded to walk date suggestion I agree

Onwards and upwards

Google the Principle of Least Interest. Understanding the power differential in any relationship gives you a feeling of control. I'm also OLD and am trying to treat it as a game and play in the same way as (some) men. It's made it more fun and less disheartening! (Basically swipe right more than left and decide how you feel when/if you match. And greet each match with a "hi gorgeous". And take turns in messaging, don't make any effort to keep a dying conversation going, as I would do in a real life situation)