Female friends

[Rachellilllian]

My boyfriend has multiple female friends, we don’t live together as we both have children in different area to each other. A few weeks ago he had a female friend around to his house, got drunk she went in hot tub and he didn’t msg me till she had gone. I was really upset and we discussed it and he said he hadn’t seen it from my pov, he was sorry and should always raise any concerns. This wknd he has asked me when we can see each other this week, then tells me he can’t do a certain night as he is meeting a different female friend for a drink. I have meet neither of these women.
I told him this has made me uncomfortable and he has said so I’m not allowed female friends and now won’t communicate with me about it. I just don’t know what to do or think?

Do you think he has to avoid friends you have not yet met, because he needs you to assess them & decide whether to allow him permission to socialise with them?

What other aspects of his life are you looking to control?

His best female mate has stopped hanging out with him because she dislikes how he treats women.

He "messed you about" (cheated?) early in your relationship.

You are constantly worried he is going to cheat mess about on you again.

Why are you with him? WHY?

He sounds like a player.

Get rid.

I have several male friends. If one came round to sit in a hot tub with me, I would expect DH to be pissed off. With a female friend, I'd think it was fine but with a male friend it would seem like crossing a bounday. Not sure why.

Thank u

I don't think this is the relationship for you. You aren't keen on his lifestyle , it isn't working for you. That is fine. Don't waste any more time on him..

no I don’t think it is, he went out last night and I just felt worried. It’s not normal to feel like that and it’s not in my character to be like this. Sadly he triggered me with previous behaviours and I can’t keep going I’m exhausted.