AIBU?
Aibu to hesitate on puppy
MagsR2356 · 02/09/2022 16:03
I’m due a baby in 8 weeks and physically still fine and able , however we’ve been asked by a family member to have a puppy that they can no longer keep - apparently thier dd is allergic and husband is allergic and can’t keep it.
i do love dogs and we have two friendly older ones and managed fine with them.
older kids help and enjoy the pets and we all love outdoors walking and outside activities.
but puppies are hard work and it’s a while since I had one!
We used to foster many age dogs and some puppies were easier than others.
however a new born into the mix!? Too much to handle?!
what do you think? Aibu to think it’s too much right now and would be stressful and unfair.
or am I over thinking it? And 8 weeks to train and settle it in is enough time?
I feel my memory has failed me in terms of puppy training and newborn exhaustion - I seemed to have blocked it all from my memories!
Am I being unreasonable?
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Soubriquet · 02/09/2022 16:04
I wouldn’t. You’re going to have your hands full with a newborn. House training a puppy would be too much on top
LaundryBin · 02/09/2022 16:06
Say no! Puppies are a huge pain in the arse even when you’ve actively chosen to have one.
ShitABrick22 · 02/09/2022 16:07
I got a puppy when I was 6 months pregnant and it was the best thing I ever did. He was no trouble at all, I’d go for little walks with the baby in the sling and the puppy running around. It was so nice to have them growing up together. I think you’re definitely overthinking it.
Itwasntright · 02/09/2022 16:09
There's no way that a puppy will enhance your life with a newborn. Don't take it.
VickyEadieofThigh · 02/09/2022 16:11
Can I ask what breed/type of puppy and how old? Is it house-trained already? Who does the dog walking in your family and how often? Can they manage 3 dogs at once?
MaryHoldTheCandleSteadyWhileIShaveTheChickensLeg · 02/09/2022 16:12
Ridiculous idea
Some puppies can take 18+ months to settle and train.
MaryHoldTheCandleSteadyWhileIShaveTheChickensLeg · 02/09/2022 16:14
ShitABrick22 · 02/09/2022 16:07
I got a puppy when I was 6 months pregnant and it was the best thing I ever did. He was no trouble at all, I’d go for little walks with the baby in the sling and the puppy running around. It was so nice to have them growing up together. I think you’re definitely overthinking it.
I think you’re definitely overthinking it.
I think you under thought it and got lucky.
That's not a risk I think the OP should take or the poor puppy could end up being re-homed a 3rd time.
Work2live · 02/09/2022 16:44
Have you actually met the puppy? Do you know its temperament etc?
I wouldn’t completely discount the idea if you’re open to it, but some pups are SO much easier than others.
MaryHoldTheCandleSteadyWhileIShaveTheChickensLeg · 02/09/2022 16:46
Work2live · 02/09/2022 16:44
Have you actually met the puppy? Do you know its temperament etc?
I wouldn’t completely discount the idea if you’re open to it, but some pups are SO much easier than others.
I wouldn’t completely discount the idea if you’re open to it, but some pups are SO much easier than others.
As are newborn babies, which is why I think the risk is too big to take.
MaryDerry · 02/09/2022 16:47
You'd be bonkers to take on a puppy who has left their birth home, gone to another and now on the move again - they are likely to need alot of resettling time and attention. Wouldn't be fair on the puppy or you, the baby and rest of your family.
mountainsunsets · 02/09/2022 16:47
ShitABrick22 · 02/09/2022 16:07
I got a puppy when I was 6 months pregnant and it was the best thing I ever did. He was no trouble at all, I’d go for little walks with the baby in the sling and the puppy running around. It was so nice to have them growing up together. I think you’re definitely overthinking it.
It's more that you under-thought it and got lucky.
Work2live · 02/09/2022 16:48
MaryHoldTheCandleSteadyWhileIShaveTheChickensLeg · 02/09/2022 16:46
I wouldn’t completely discount the idea if you’re open to it, but some pups are SO much easier than others.
As are newborn babies, which is why I think the risk is too big to take.
Work2live · 02/09/2022 16:44
Have you actually met the puppy? Do you know its temperament etc?
I wouldn’t completely discount the idea if you’re open to it, but some pups are SO much easier than others.
Omg really?????? That’s news to me.
🙄
MaryHoldTheCandleSteadyWhileIShaveTheChickensLeg · 02/09/2022 17:10
Weird reply @Work2live but errrrr ok 
Jjones8 · 02/09/2022 17:29
Say “no, we are just about to have a baby and it’s too much”.
Roselilly36 · 02/09/2022 17:34
Absolutely ridiculous to ask a pregnant mum to take on a puppy. Don’t do it.
ManateeFair · 02/09/2022 17:38
I’d take the puppy but only if they agreed to take the baby.
TheNoodlesIncident · 02/09/2022 17:44
I wouldn't take on a puppy at any transition to a new life stage, tbh. And a new baby is probably one of the toughest. Still, you have older children who should be able to help you out with both the new baby and the existing mature dogs... but no, I don't think so. Basically because if it all goes pear-shaped, the poor pup will be moved on again, which isn't ideal.
Incidentally, isn't "we are allergic to it" a euphemism for "it's too much trouble and we want rid"? I've seen that loads of times on rehoming sites. What breed is it?
Milkand2sugarsplease · 02/09/2022 17:55
We got our pup at 16w when DS was 16w and it has worked out brilliantly, (both 15m now) however I'm fully aware that pup has been a dream of a pup and it could have worked out so differently.
There is no way I would have considered it before baby was 12w. I don't think we'd have set a great routine for the pup if we'd have got him when DS was younger than 12w as nighttime's were all over the place and pup would have got used to us being around at all hours rather than learning to settle overnight.
mountainsunsets · 02/09/2022 17:57
ManateeFair · 02/09/2022 17:38
I’d take the puppy but only if they agreed to take the baby.
😂😂
Stichintimesavesstapling · 02/09/2022 18:00
Imagine every baby item you have been chewed, the floor covered in dog poo and wee and being kept awake all night by a tag team of baby crying and dog barking every night for a year.
That's probably worst case but when you're thinking about lives (animal and human) then you need to think worst case.
Hothammock · 02/09/2022 18:03
No no no
Not good for you
Tell 'em you've thought it thru
Not good for the baby
It's not even a maybe
It's not good for the puppy
Don't be sappy
No one will be happy
The pup will eat any nappy
No no no
Hothammock · 02/09/2022 18:04
Also, you are only considering this due to baby hormones. And you will soon have your real baby, no need to fill the bridge with a puppy baby.
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