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To not want them using my Netflix?

88 replies

Wellwellwel · 01/09/2022 18:07

I know this is a complete first world problem but WIBU to kick my husband's ex off my Netflix?

I have a Netflix account, one I had from even before I met DH, I pay for it myself (we don't completely share finances). There if a profile on there that my step son uses which is absolutely fine. He's young so it's a kids profile. However I've noticed there is another profile with his name on that's an adults profile and it's been watching things that obviously aren't him. When we asked he said mummy and her partner that one.

AIBU to think she's a cheeky sod and to change my password and boot them off? Step son rarely uses it these days, I don't think he's been on it at either house this year tbh.

Admittedly I don't like my husband's ex because she's a pain in the backside in a lot of ways and enjoys being difficult for the sake of it so no I don't want to be paying for a service for her and her partner to use. Obviously wasn't bothered about DSS using it, but not her.

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CactusBlossom · 01/09/2022 20:17

Lurkerlot · 01/09/2022 18:48

Use a net browser to log onto your account, ensure your mobile is listed as the account recovery password. Set a parental control PIN, on the original SS account, and set age appropriate content, on second account do the same. On second account add a screen limitation time, to say, half an hour. This ensures 1. They get most of the way through watching a programme, when it turns itself off. 2. That you have been responsible and introduced screen time and age appropriate restrictions.

This way, they know you have seen the second account, and they will have to contact you, to get any of it lifted, thereby admitting they have been using it.

@Lurkerlot Oooh, very stylish! 👏🏻

@TheGirlWhoLived but it's not free!

My suggestion would be to cancel the payment for a month (i.e. no service for that month) and say nothing. A month later, set up a new subscription with only the people you want to have access. I'm not a Netflix user myself, so I don't know whether you have an annual or a monthly subscription, or whether you would lose out by doing this. Definitely CF for doing this without your knowledge or permission. Alternatively, invoice them!

Triptinratbat · 01/09/2022 20:18

@Wellwellwel

Add an additional PIN for all content or certainly anything over 12 or 5 years of Age rating

Doremisofarsogood · 01/09/2022 20:19

This happened to us, with DSS having the password to our Netflix for his TV when he's here. Icons appeared with random user names when he wasn't here....I changed the password and nothing was ever mentioned, we deleted the random profiles. Cheeky fuckers!

Ohahjustalittlebit · 01/09/2022 20:19

Delete them and change the password. IF anyone queries it you are cutting costs and now down to the cheapest package which is one user.

My brothers ex kept his password for years and he did not know. She changed her account to a picture of the settings cog wheel and named it settings and he genuinely thought it was a settings feature on netflix should he ever have an issue. Was a fairly genius idea so must have been someone elses cos shes not that clever.

lickenchugget · 01/09/2022 20:19

As PP have said, just change your password and sign out of all devices.

Cheeky fucker of the finest order.

hauntedvagina · 01/09/2022 20:23

Yes, change the password, but not for a couple of weeks.

Have some fun with this. Find what they're in the middle of watching and fast forward it by ten, fifteen minutes, a full episode if you're really going for it.

Justanotherwinter · 01/09/2022 20:32

Make sure you wait till they’re halfway through a series before you do anything

ZandathePanda · 01/09/2022 20:34

You could go into their account and add some ‘interesting’ movies too. It means the ‘recommended for you’ gets annoying.
Dd watched a few seconds of all the Adam Sandler movies on her sister’s account to get her back for something. 😁

Original poster
Wellwellwel · 01/09/2022 20:35

I'm loving the ideas of when and how to do it 😂

They are in the middle of a very popular series. Might skip it to the last few minutes so when they hit resume they'll see the end. Woops spoilers.

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napody · 01/09/2022 20:41

I love LurkerLot's suggestion but not sure I fully understand- couldn't Mr and Mrs CF just start using your profile if they have access? I mean it would be spectacularly rude but making your own profile on someone else's account without asking is already that!

Upwiththelark76 · 01/09/2022 20:43

Boot her off ! The cheek

Boxowine · 01/09/2022 20:47

YANBU and you don't owe any one an explanation or story. Or apology.

userxx · 01/09/2022 20:49

Justanotherwinter · 01/09/2022 20:32

Make sure you wait till they’re halfway through a series before you do anything

Brilliant.

AlwaysLatte · 01/09/2022 20:49

Just change the password. If your son wants to use it he'll let you know!

Ohahjustalittlebit · 01/09/2022 20:52

50 shades of grey is on netflix...

napody · 01/09/2022 20:58

Triptinratbat · 01/09/2022 20:18

@Wellwellwel

Add an additional PIN for all content or certainly anything over 12 or 5 years of Age rating

Ooh this sounds like a plan.... love the evil minds at work

Bitterbean · 01/09/2022 21:00

Very cheeky of them! But you don't need to change your password to boot them off. You can just log into your account on a computer and look for the different users(which will include you, your DSS, them etc) , and boot them off that way. Maybe do it at 9:30pm when they are likely to be using it... Grin

BigMamaFratelli · 01/09/2022 21:03

God yes, boot the CFs off!!

DPs ex was using my Spotify for a bit and thought I was most unreasonable for asking she go mooch off someone else 🙄

balalake · 01/09/2022 21:04

Do you condone stealing? Of course not, so YANBU to change the password.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 01/09/2022 21:05

My God she’s a cheeky fucker!

Definitely boot her off.

happinessischocolate · 01/09/2022 21:25

I liove the fast forward to nearly the end of the series suggestions, and then followed later by the time restrictions and then later the age restrictions and then if you can be bothered by then log out of all devices 😁

bowchicawowwow · 01/09/2022 21:29

Change the ex wife profile picture to the smoking horse one and set the name to 'CF' then reset all the series Grin

Leave it a few days for effect then change the password.

Chohlin654 · 01/09/2022 21:53

Log into the profile she uses and skip a few episodes of the series she is watching. The n change the profile pic and name. See if anything gets said.
Then I'd scale back to one person profile and change the password

SmellsLikeMiddleAgeSpirit · 01/09/2022 21:58

They are in the middle of a very popular series. Might skip it to the last few minutes so when they hit resume they'll see the end. Woops spoilers.

Love it! Do that... or at the very least sign out of all devices and change password. Cheeky heckers.

lioncitygirl · 01/09/2022 22:06

Change the password.