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To not want them using my Netflix?

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Wellwellwel · 01/09/2022 18:07

I know this is a complete first world problem but WIBU to kick my husband's ex off my Netflix?

I have a Netflix account, one I had from even before I met DH, I pay for it myself (we don't completely share finances). There if a profile on there that my step son uses which is absolutely fine. He's young so it's a kids profile. However I've noticed there is another profile with his name on that's an adults profile and it's been watching things that obviously aren't him. When we asked he said mummy and her partner that one.

AIBU to think she's a cheeky sod and to change my password and boot them off? Step son rarely uses it these days, I don't think he's been on it at either house this year tbh.

Admittedly I don't like my husband's ex because she's a pain in the backside in a lot of ways and enjoys being difficult for the sake of it so no I don't want to be paying for a service for her and her partner to use. Obviously wasn't bothered about DSS using it, but not her.

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Eeksteek · 01/09/2022 18:51

Yep, change it. She’s hardly going to challenge you, is she? And if she does, you’ve downgraded to two users to go down to £10.99. You and DH. DSS shares yours.

and def do the signing out profile thing. We still have five profiles, even though I’ve downgraded. I don’t know why (it doesn’t matter to us. Mum was using it, but when Netflix said they were cracking down I cut her off, and downgraded to two screens. But the profiles are still there, and usable) you might even be able to delete them. (I haven’t tried)

Blossomtoes · 01/09/2022 18:51

say you’ve reported it to the police as the log in IP wasn’t yours and they said they’d try to trace it…

Great idea. Anyone would believe that when the police don’t even turn out for burglaries. 🙄

BuggerationFlavouredCrisps · 01/09/2022 18:51

Oo that's very cheeky if they haven't actually asked to share it.

Change the password and if it's mentioned, tell them you've been hacked.

buzzbuzzybuzz · 01/09/2022 18:57

We had similar so just changed the settings. Also be mindful and put a pin on your profiles and check for downloads.. DH's ex was getting the DSC to download things to watch at hers at one point. I was not happy.

buzzbuzzybuzz · 01/09/2022 18:58

PS. Bonus points if you can do it when they are part way through a series

Indigokitten · 01/09/2022 18:58

Lurkerlot · 01/09/2022 18:48

Use a net browser to log onto your account, ensure your mobile is listed as the account recovery password. Set a parental control PIN, on the original SS account, and set age appropriate content, on second account do the same. On second account add a screen limitation time, to say, half an hour. This ensures 1. They get most of the way through watching a programme, when it turns itself off. 2. That you have been responsible and introduced screen time and age appropriate restrictions.

This way, they know you have seen the second account, and they will have to contact you, to get any of it lifted, thereby admitting they have been using it.

Absolutely this 👆

autumnleavesbythewindow · 01/09/2022 19:03

Eeksteek · 01/09/2022 18:51

Yep, change it. She’s hardly going to challenge you, is she? And if she does, you’ve downgraded to two users to go down to £10.99. You and DH. DSS shares yours.

and def do the signing out profile thing. We still have five profiles, even though I’ve downgraded. I don’t know why (it doesn’t matter to us. Mum was using it, but when Netflix said they were cracking down I cut her off, and downgraded to two screens. But the profiles are still there, and usable) you might even be able to delete them. (I haven’t tried)

Yes ours is the same, you can still have 4 or 5 profiles that remember your faves and progress (not sure of limit we have 5 I think) but only watch however many of them simultaneously that your package allows.

autumnleavesbythewindow · 01/09/2022 19:04

Lurkerlot · 01/09/2022 18:48

Use a net browser to log onto your account, ensure your mobile is listed as the account recovery password. Set a parental control PIN, on the original SS account, and set age appropriate content, on second account do the same. On second account add a screen limitation time, to say, half an hour. This ensures 1. They get most of the way through watching a programme, when it turns itself off. 2. That you have been responsible and introduced screen time and age appropriate restrictions.

This way, they know you have seen the second account, and they will have to contact you, to get any of it lifted, thereby admitting they have been using it.

This is my favourite suggestion. So much better than just changing the password.

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 01/09/2022 19:06

Cheeky.
change password.

Mindymomo · 01/09/2022 19:09

My son shared our Netflix account with a friend of his, they fell out, but when I checked a couple of months later, his friend was still using it and was halfway through a very long series, so I changed the password. Of course, he couldn’t do anything as they weren’t speaking.

Llioed · 01/09/2022 19:20

That’s really cheeky of them!! Change the password, and have it only at your house.

Whoopsies · 01/09/2022 19:28

Make sure you change the password and sign out of all devices. You can just change the password but you stay logged in on devices you've already used!

harriethoyle · 01/09/2022 19:29

My DH ex did this on my account via the kids... we put a pin on all profiles and limited the kids to age appropriate which at the time was 12 and under 😆

allinatizzy · 01/09/2022 19:53

If DSS isn't even using it, I'd just change the password/log out other devices/etc.

And of course it's not unreasonable to not want to pay for some adult you don't even like to have Netflix! Let them pay for their own entertainment!!

Brigante9 · 01/09/2022 19:56

CFs! Change the password.

TheGirlWhoLived · 01/09/2022 19:56

Could it also be that he wanted to watch something that wasn’t in the kids section 🤷🏼‍♀️

it’s just free tv- if it doesn’t hurt you or cost you anything then I can’t see I’d bother about it. Sometimes letting things go is easier than letting them live rent free in your head!

Minikievs · 01/09/2022 19:59

I would boot them off absolutely no question. I am petty as fuck though. This would give me the rage

PlentyOFool · 01/09/2022 19:59

Lurkerlot · 01/09/2022 18:48

Use a net browser to log onto your account, ensure your mobile is listed as the account recovery password. Set a parental control PIN, on the original SS account, and set age appropriate content, on second account do the same. On second account add a screen limitation time, to say, half an hour. This ensures 1. They get most of the way through watching a programme, when it turns itself off. 2. That you have been responsible and introduced screen time and age appropriate restrictions.

This way, they know you have seen the second account, and they will have to contact you, to get any of it lifted, thereby admitting they have been using it.

Christ, but you're an evil genius Lurker 😂

Dadaya · 01/09/2022 20:07

Just delete the ex’s profile? Put a pin on your profiles so nobody else can watch them. Then go into Netflix settings and make sure you’ve set a pin to prevent anyone creating any new profiles. The only profile they’ll be able to watch is SS’s kids profile.

OnTheBrinkOfChange · 01/09/2022 20:10

@Lurkerlot You are amazingly clever!

Tonkerbea · 01/09/2022 20:13

@Lurkerlot 👏

ivykaty44 · 01/09/2022 20:14

just change the password

if stepson says anything to you

just say

you don't want other people using your account and if he wants to watch something you're more than happy to log him on

no need to lie or be unkind, using someone else's account isn't a socially acceptable thing to do unless its offered in any case

AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 01/09/2022 20:16

I ant understand why you even need to ask. Of course you change the password

Mammyloveswine · 01/09/2022 20:16

Ive just cancelled mine...was sick of getting notifications saying too many people were using it!

One cheeky fucker shared mine with all her mates after I lent her my log on when she had covid!

GiltEdges · 01/09/2022 20:17

Delete the profile. See if it reappears.