AIBU for wanting to hand in my notice?

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I've recently gone back to work after mat leave, we have 2 under 2.

We both have good jobs with a decent salary but our childcare expenses are one of our salaries. I worked it out wrong before I went back and thought it would be a few hundred less a month.

I've worked out a few different scenarios and 2 work out that we are minus each month, in the current situation we are minus £250 each month!

The best option is if I give up my job and look after the kids and get a part time job. Living on my partners salary alone means we are up £100 each month.

My issue is I want to hand in my notice now as it's 3 months notice and I can't see a part time job waiting that long for someone. Partner wants me to wait until I get a new job lined up.

I get where he's coming from but AIBU for wanting to do this?

We are just accumulating more and more debt if we hold off.

Have you checked you are using all the discounts you can for childcare.
Tax free childcare will give you 20% off. Could you potentially apply for flexible working to reduce your hours at work to reduce the amount of childcare you need?

We have tax free childcare not it takes a while to accumulate to anything meaningful and we thought we'd save it up so we can use the money for Christmas.

I can't do flexible working in my role sadly. I have reduced my working day by an hour but in reality it's not working.

The job just doesn't suit my lifestyle now.

What do you mean by it takes a while to accumulate? Have you considered the impact of you going part time/quitting on your pension? Is there potential for promotion at your current workplace?

As in it doesn't make much of an impact on what we pay each month towards childcare.

Have you done a 3-5 year costing, OP?

It’s a very short term problem in the earning down & potential of a life. If you’ve enjoyed your job and might enjoy it again, then it could be worth hanging in there.

Can your DH flex his hours? e.g. Can he do a 4-day week on compressed hours?

The year/s between 1 and 2/3 depending on your entitlement to funded hours are so hard and expensive. Is a career break/sabbatical an option so that you have something to go back to?

We knew we'd struggle at this stage but worked out we'd just manage to scrape by, but with the cost of life going up we spending a lot more than we've got coming in.

He can't compact his hours, but can wfh one day a week but it's too hard to work and have two babies around.

I could potentially go back as I'd leave on good terms. It's a short term option and I'd definitely go back to work full time.

It doesn't help that I really hate my job so I'm looking for a reason to get out asap.