AIBU for wanting to hand in my notice?
trampoline123 · 01/09/2022 15:44
I've recently gone back to work after mat leave, we have 2 under 2.
We both have good jobs with a decent salary but our childcare expenses are one of our salaries. I worked it out wrong before I went back and thought it would be a few hundred less a month.
I've worked out a few different scenarios and 2 work out that we are minus each month, in the current situation we are minus £250 each month!
The best option is if I give up my job and look after the kids and get a part time job. Living on my partners salary alone means we are up £100 each month.
My issue is I want to hand in my notice now as it's 3 months notice and I can't see a part time job waiting that long for someone. Partner wants me to wait until I get a new job lined up.
I get where he's coming from but AIBU for wanting to do this?
We are just accumulating more and more debt if we hold off.
Danikm151 · 01/09/2022 15:50
Have you checked you are using all the discounts you can for childcare.
Tax free childcare will give you 20% off. Could you potentially apply for flexible working to reduce your hours at work to reduce the amount of childcare you need?
trampoline123 · 01/09/2022 15:53
We have tax free childcare not it takes a while to accumulate to anything meaningful and we thought we'd save it up so we can use the money for Christmas.
I can't do flexible working in my role sadly. I have reduced my working day by an hour but in reality it's not working.
The job just doesn't suit my lifestyle now.
tealandteal · 01/09/2022 16:04
What do you mean by it takes a while to accumulate? Have you considered the impact of you going part time/quitting on your pension? Is there potential for promotion at your current workplace?
trampoline123 · 01/09/2022 16:07
As in it doesn't make much of an impact on what we pay each month towards childcare.
NoSquirrels · 01/09/2022 16:07
Have you done a 3-5 year costing, OP?
It’s a very short term problem in the earning down & potential of a life. If you’ve enjoyed your job and might enjoy it again, then it could be worth hanging in there.
Can your DH flex his hours? e.g. Can he do a 4-day week on compressed hours?
tealandteal · 01/09/2022 16:10
The year/s between 1 and 2/3 depending on your entitlement to funded hours are so hard and expensive. Is a career break/sabbatical an option so that you have something to go back to?
trampoline123 · 01/09/2022 16:16
We knew we'd struggle at this stage but worked out we'd just manage to scrape by, but with the cost of life going up we spending a lot more than we've got coming in.
He can't compact his hours, but can wfh one day a week but it's too hard to work and have two babies around.
I could potentially go back as I'd leave on good terms. It's a short term option and I'd definitely go back to work full time.
It doesn't help that I really hate my job so I'm looking for a reason to get out asap.
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