AIBU for wanting to hand in my notice?

[trampoline123]

I've recently gone back to work after mat leave, we have 2 under 2.

We both have good jobs with a decent salary but our childcare expenses are one of our salaries. I worked it out wrong before I went back and thought it would be a few hundred less a month.

I've worked out a few different scenarios and 2 work out that we are minus each month, in the current situation we are minus £250 each month!

The best option is if I give up my job and look after the kids and get a part time job. Living on my partners salary alone means we are up £100 each month.

My issue is I want to hand in my notice now as it's 3 months notice and I can't see a part time job waiting that long for someone. Partner wants me to wait until I get a new job lined up.

I get where he's coming from but AIBU for wanting to do this?

We are just accumulating more and more debt if we hold off.

[trampoline123]

We knew we'd struggle at this stage but worked out we'd just manage to scrape by, but with the cost of life going up we spending a lot more than we've got coming in.

He can't compact his hours, but can wfh one day a week but it's too hard to work and have two babies around.

I could potentially go back as I'd leave on good terms. It's a short term option and I'd definitely go back to work full time.

It doesn't help that I really hate my job so I'm looking for a reason to get out asap.

[tealandteal]

The year/s between 1 and 2/3 depending on your entitlement to funded hours are so hard and expensive. Is a career break/sabbatical an option so that you have something to go back to?

[NoSquirrels]

Have you done a 3-5 year costing, OP?

It’s a very short term problem in the earning down & potential of a life. If you’ve enjoyed your job and might enjoy it again, then it could be worth hanging in there.

Can your DH flex his hours? e.g. Can he do a 4-day week on compressed hours?

[trampoline123]

As in it doesn't make much of an impact on what we pay each month towards childcare.

[tealandteal]

What do you mean by it takes a while to accumulate? Have you considered the impact of you going part time/quitting on your pension? Is there potential for promotion at your current workplace?

[trampoline123]

We have tax free childcare not it takes a while to accumulate to anything meaningful and we thought we'd save it up so we can use the money for Christmas.

I can't do flexible working in my role sadly. I have reduced my working day by an hour but in reality it's not working.

The job just doesn't suit my lifestyle now.

[Danikm151]

Have you checked you are using all the discounts you can for childcare.
Tax free childcare will give you 20% off. Could you potentially apply for flexible working to reduce your hours at work to reduce the amount of childcare you need?