To tell my husband when he stinks?

[Serialcatmum]

Ive been married about 5 years. I adore him. He’s so much fun to be around, we spend lots of time together and do really fab activities together.

When I met my husband he was around 7 stone lighter, we have both gradually put weight on. He has always been very active, running, cycling, water sports, long hikes etc. but I never noticed him really smelling.

Recently the smell has been so bad I’ve had to start telling him. We were in Spain recently and I could see a family sit down next to us and then look around, I saw them register my smelly husband and a small child was holding their nose and then they moved away.

He is very clean. He showers everyday and puts fresh clothes on daily. His clothes are washed in a special washing liquid that is supposed to remove strong sport/ sweaty clothes, they are dried on the washing line. But he still stinks.

Yesterday he hung some shorts in the bedroom, he’s worn these shirts for a few hours that morning and they STUNK. It made my whole bedroom smell. I wasn’t happy. I told him them smell. He shrugged and said he didn’t know where to move them but he seemed annoyed with me. He said he couldn’t smell anything and I honestly jusy lost my temper and told him that they stink of horrible old farm yards and that I wasn’t having my whole bedroom smell like that. He was upset and told me it wasn’t very kind..

so, aibu to tell my husband that he/ his clothes stink?!

And any suggestions since he’s actually regular washing and putting in clean (yet smelly within 10 minutes) clothes every day?

He needs to use a soap and a cloth/sponge to clean his arm pits etc. Just using his hands isn’t enough.

the weight fluctuations are incredible.

You say the bedsheets don't smell, so he needs to shower twice a day - last thing at night and first thing in the morning. One shower a day clearly isn't cutting it anymore.

Good quality anti-perspirant (NOT a regular deodorant). I have a physical job and horse-ride and I find the SURE 48 hour stuff really good, but I obviously use it more often than every two days - I use it every morning before work and after every shower.

Washing clothes at 30 degrees doesn't always work when it comes to getting rid of smells - 40 degrees is better, at least occasionally if you don't want to do it every time. He also needs to use a biological washing powder (not liquid).

How are clothes dried? Are they 100% dry before they're put away? I would hang stuff out on the line to help them smell fresh and to make sure they're completely dry. Damp clothes plus sweat would be a horrible combination.

He does need a GP check too, but unfortunately if he's put on a lot of weight (and seven stone is a LOT), it's common for body odour/smell to be a side affect of that unfortunately.