To hate it when woman call babies MY baby, as opposed to OURs...

[Spankybug]

This grates me everytime I hear this with couples, babies are not one partners individually!! What does everyone think...

It really depends on the context though. There’s many situations where saying ‘our baby’ instead of ‘my baby’ would sound a bit odd

I hate the phrase 'we're pregnant' more!

We’re pregnant makes me wanna 🤮 😂

id say my baby / my son etc 🤷🏻‍♀️ In certain contexts it’s say “our” but often it would sound odd to use our

Meh you’re overthinking it. There’s lots of shared things that people refer to as “my xyz” my house, my sons, my street, my school.

Meh. Agree that 'we're pregnant' is much worse.

I grew up in the north west (near Manchester) and everybody in the family was 'our' suchabody eg "mam, is that our Nathan that fell off the swing?" *

*Names have been changed

Ds2 "dad" and I use that term loosely hardly sees and doesnt pay a penny. This has been the case for the last 10 years since ds2 was a toddler. So hell yes hes MY son.

If I'm by myself it would be weird to say "our son" because there is no "we" standing here just "me"

What bothers me more is ex reference to "the boys" or granny's "the bab" (which fucking bab? I have three TWO are related to YOU) clearly all the agonising over a fucking name and compromise over names so no one was bloody offended was pointless because they are either "boys" or a "BAB"

Depends on the context surely. If their dad isn't there saying "this is our son" sounds weird.

That and he's done practically fuck all for them for 10 years. So they are mine. Mostly anyway.

Im really picky and pedantic most of the time but "my baby" instead of our baby really doesnt bother me.
"We are pregnant" - grim.

Might be annoying for one parent to say my baby to the other parent. But otherwise perfectly normal. Our would be reallt weird if partner not there.

You're overthinking it.

I call DC "my son/daughter" and DH does the same. If its relevant to the conversation then we'll use the word "our". If they've missed behaved then they're referred to as "your son/your daughter".

Yes !! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Is it just with babies that it bothers you? Or do you expect people to say our son or our daughter for their whole life? What about parents? I say 'my mother' despite sharing her with 5 other siblings. Should I be saying our mother?

Both of these

If she's without her partner and in conversation with someone else, saying 'our son' would sound weird frankly, and bit Smug 'I very much have a partner and am not a single parent' Married.

I agree with everyone else that 'we're pregnant' is so vomtastic.

But my children ARE mine. They are also DP's, so he gets to say 'my' too. Christ, you mustn't have much going on at the minute OP, if you've time to hate something so trivial.

My child is mine when he's behaving nicely, otherwise he's DH's.

YABU.

baby is simultaneously “my baby” and “our baby”

What a strange thing to get upset about.

100%

Using "our" rather then "my" really only makes sense of both parents are standing next to each other at the time. But it seems to be a very small thing to get worked up about.

Yep what is the context? DS’s other parent saying it to me - yep annoying, DS is mine too.

Me saying it to eg DS’s teacher - totally fine, referring to the people present in the room he isn’t her child, he is mine.

This related

YABVU. They are my babies. I grew them from tiny cells. I pushed them out of my vagina. I breastfed them. I endured pregnancy, childbirth and difficulties establishing breastfeeding for them. Of course they're my babies. They're DH's too but he didn't physically create and sustain them as babies in the way I did. That might be an unpopular opinion but I don't care.

I do feel more inclined to think of them as "our children" as they get older, less physically dependent on me, and our parenting role is more equal. But I don't think saying "my child" instead of "our child" would particularly negate DH's role. It's just I'm a bit more possessive when they're actual babies

It is my baby as well as our baby though, both are right and context is everything

Totally depends on the context obviously, our baby is also my baby… not the same as ‘we’re pregnant’ at all, that one is clearly stupid because the man cannot be pregnant. But you are just being oddly picky with this one!