Being bisexual in a straight relationship

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Do you anyone who is in a relationship with someone who is bisexual?

Would it bother you?

I have bisexual friends in relationships with people of the opposite sex (and some in same sex relationships too)

Why would it bother anybody?

I am bisexual in a straight relationship. I am also monogamous so regardless who I am attracted to I am no more likely to cheat than a straight person.

I'm bisexual and was in a straight passing (because despite the appearances at the time I'm still not straight) for over a decade and it wasn't a problem.

Lots of other things were but who I happen to fancy was never one of them

Hth

Dd is - i can't imagine why it would bother anyone, unless for dismantling-the-hetero-patriarchy reasons. In which case, yanbu but yabn (you are being niche)

@LoveBugBride has put it perfectly

Lots of bisexuals (both male and female) I know are in opposite sex relationships. I honestly can see no reason why the straight partner would be bothered unless they had some kind of issue with bisexuality in which case I don't think any sensible person should want to be in a relationship with them.

There are far worse things to be in a relationship than bisexual.

Its an old fashioned view that bisexuals are greedy and you have twice as much chance of being cheated on. But as we know from mumsnet even the most unsuspected straight people are having it off anyone and everyone.

I don't understand what there is to be bothered about?

My husband is bisexual. His previous relationship before he got together with me was with a man. We've been together for 12 years and as far as I'm concerned, we're completely ordinary and there's nothing particularly interesting to report!

Me! Though it’s cheating a bit because we are an exclusive polyamory relationship. There’s 3 of us. Two women and one man

My DH is bisexual and like @LoveBugBride monogamous. We've been together more than 30 years. I can't see why it would be a problem? But then, I also have no problem with him having close friends of either sex

I'm bisexual in an opposite sex relationship. It's not an issue for my husband and has never been for anyone I've ever been in a relationship with.

I've encountered some odd (and offensive) attitudes from people I haven't been in a relationship with though. The worst was 'if you're married to a man then you can't be bisexual unless you also sleep with women outside your marriage. Do you?' I think some people, completely wrongly, equate bisexuality with being incapable of being monogamous. But the fact that I am also sexually attracted to women doesn't mean I'm any more likely to have an affair with a woman than I would be with a man.

Both my partner and I are bisexual - m&f. Been together exclusively for 5 years. It's simply not an issue.

I've never really put a label on it but I'd be classed as bisexual as I've been with women in the past. I've been married to my DH for 8 years.

One of my (male) exes was bi aswell. He'd had most of his sexual encounters with men which I actually found quite interesting. He was a lot more "colourful" in the bedroom.

Why would it be an issue? I'm bisexual, never been an issue for my partners.

Married to one for 25 years, he spent the whole time trying to line up other men (and women) to sleep with.

Men are more likely to cheat than women and bi men are much more likely to cheat than straight men according to research by the US National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior - Among male-identified participants only, about 8% of heterosexual men, 14% of gay men, 34% of bisexual men, and 6% of “other” men reported nonconsensual nonmonogamy, (ie cheating on partners).

I wouldn't go out with a bi man again, seeing the stats and after my own experience it's just not worth the increased risk IMO.

I'm female, and my DH and I are both bisexual. We've been together 13 years, married for 3, and have two DC together. It just doesn't come up very often at all. I guess occasionally one of us will say that a celebrity of the same sex as us is attractive, or we'll mention a same-sex ex, but otherwise we may as well be in a completely straight relationship.

My ex was bisexual. She did cheat on me but that was nothing to do with the fact she was bi! It really doesn’t make a difference. It wouldn’t put me off being with someone who was bi again.

DD is bi and has been with her (male), DP for 8 years now. She adores him. He knows she is bi and has no issues with it at all.

When you Google you need to read the whole thing. The study is shaky at best and hasn’t been replicated.

While these results come from a large nationally representative sample of adult Americans (2,270 participants), it is important to note that LGBTQ+ participants represented just 5% of the sample. Also, reported rates of infidelity in this study among heterosexuals are quite a bit lower than I’ve seen in other research, and the measurement of infidelity here was a little unusual in that it asked whether either partner had cheated (not whether you personally have done so). I would therefore be cautious in generalizing the findings broadly until they are replicated in other national studies.

The stats don’t say who is doing the cheating though. The nonconsensual nonmonogamy %s include responses from both those cheated on and cheating.

“In a multiple-choice survey item, participants in relationships were asked to describe their partnerships as “entirely monogamous” (meaning you and your partner have agreed to be sexual only with each other and have indeed only been sexual with each other to your knowledge), “supposedly monogamous” (meaning you and your partner agreed to be sexual only with each other and one or both of you have engaged in sexual activities with other people but did not tell the other person or hid it from the other person; aka one of you “cheated” or had an affair), “open” (meaning that you and your partner have agreed that one or both of you can engage in sexual activities with other people), “not discussed,” or “something else.” Those who selected “something else” were provided with an option to describe their partnerships in greater detail, in an open answer format.Participants who selected the first three options were clas-sified as being in monogamous, nonconsensually nonmonogamous (NCNM), and open relationships, respectively. Those who selected “not discussed” were dropped.”

Oh and to answer your question OP, I couldn't be less bothered about DD's sexuality if I tried.

This really - if you're monogamous then it's not really an issue.

I do know many. Doesn’t bother me at all.

Bisexuality isn’t the issue. Fidelity is. If there is no cheating then it’s no different to any monogamous relationship of whatever sexuality.