Being bisexual in a straight relationship

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Do you anyone who is in a relationship with someone who is bisexual?

Would it bother you?

I am bisexual female. Men I have been or dated and disclosed same sex relationships to had no problem with it.

Of course not

If they were monogamous and had been tested then yes no problem at all.

Do you insist all your partners get std tested?

Married to a bisexual, together 12 years, no issue. I think this is likely only a big issue for people who are very insecure - who no doubt may also have issues accepting the past life/partners of non-bisexual people too.

Yes I know quite a few including me. My boyfriend is bi too. I don’t see why it would be an issue unless you have bigoted views like bi people are more likely to cheat or a man who fancies/has slept with men is “less masculine”.

What is it about this that bothers you OP, what would your concerns be?

Bi in a 'straight' relationship,have also been with other bi people. When i meet people who are uncomfortable with it they seem to fall into three camps:

1. They have very limited exposure to LGB people in general so while they might be in support for gay rights their gut reaction is 'ooh, thats unusual and unfamiliar'. I actually find that they just have a few questions that they've been afraid to ask. I dont mind these people too much to be honest.
2. Think that all bisexual people are promiscuous and/or cheaters (these people never seem to have a real world example of this...) i do mind these people because they generally have zero critical thinking skills and havn't bothered to examine this ridiculous belief they have in the slightest.
3. They are okay with bisexual women but bisexual men cross a line somehow.

I can't see why it would be a problem?

I worry about this narrative that it shouldn’t be a problem and if it is a problem, then you’re being a bit of a bigot. It is going to be a problem for some people, in the same way that a potential partner having slept with hundreds of people, or nobody at all, or being blonde, or being a Tory voter, or being unemployed or having a particular medical condition, or being a particular body type, or religious views or being an extrovert might also be a problem. And there’s nothing wrong with that. None of us have any right to be judging someone because there’s something about you that makes them not want to have a relationship and/or sexual contact with you.

I do want to make it very clear that I do not believe that bisexuals are any more or less likely to cheat than any other person of any other sexuality. I’m just concerned about an increasing trend of people demanding that others defend their decision not to fancy someone and then telling them that their reasons aren’t good enough.

I don't really care who or what someone finds attractive provided they're monogamous. If my DP was bisexual it wouldn't bother me.

If it bothers you, that's fine; just don't date bisexual people. And if you're bisexual, be clear about that from the start, because you presumably wouldn't want a relationship with someone who was put off by your sexuality.

I am a bisexual female, married to a man (9 years this year). He has no issues with this. He was the first person I came out as bisexual to before we started a relationship together (because we were very close friends for years). He's straight.
Biggest ally in the world. Our DD is also bisexual. Doesn't bother him or me in the slightest. Neither one is likely to chest because of our sexuality, it's about trust and happiness, is it not?

*cheat

You don't??? I thought that was the standard before ditching condoms etc.

I'm married to the opposite sex and I am bisexual. Does it bother either of us?

No, why would it? We are committed to each other. I don't crave intimacy with the same sex any more than I crave it with the opposite sex.

Why do people assume bisexual = unable to be in a committed relationship ?

No.

Men who have sex with men are on average much more promiscuous and high risk for HIV and hepatitis B than straight men/women and gay women. HIV status is part of the basic bio information on Grindr. So because the population is higher risk I would take more precautions and expect them to as well.

Why do you ask?

New name, not been back - screenshots optional.

This ^^
For me personally, I would also want to know that my partner was bisexual from the outset. I don’t like it when people conceal their sexual past.

nobody is allowed to have a problem with it without being accused of being bigoted.

The way I see it is like this:

Gay men are attracted to men. Gay women are attracted to women. Bisexual men and women are attracted to men and women.

So why can’t heterosexuals be attracted to heterosexual men/women.

It’s entirely possible to not be against bisexuality while at the same time being attracted to heterosexual men/women.

But heterosexuality appears to have been thrown under the bus in the name of all other sexualities, and we are the only ones not permitted a preference.

I could care less whether someone is gay, bi, trans, whatever you are.

But I’m not attracted to women, I’m not attracted to men who are attracted to women, and I’m not attracted to men who are biologically women.

It has nothing to do with thinking someone is going to cheat, it has everything to do with my own sexual preferences, and I am just as entitled to those as anyone else.

Oh no those poor persecuted straight people.

If you're not attracted to women or men who are attracted to women, your options may be limited.

Someone can be bisexual without having ever had sex with someone of the same sex.