To resent my parents choice of name for me?

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This is a rant - apologies.

I’ve always hated my name.

No one can pronounce it. Not even my father or siblings. It was always read out incorrectly at school and the other kids would laugh at me. It gives me major anxiety having to introduce myself.

I use my middle name professionally but it doesn’t feel like “my” name. I feel so angry with my parents sometimes for burdening me with this name.

Parents - please think before giving your kid a weird or “unique” name! It could really mess them up…

@mam0918 I didn’t quote any stats. You did (1 in 250, circle of 150). And if you do that without a citing a source, then it’s random. Do you know what ‘quoting stats’ means? As you don’t appear to.

Unless you’re Jubilee Tissues, I didn’t tell you to check anything. We hadn’t communicated at all until you tag/quoted me above.

I live in London. It wouldn’t matter if I lived in Leeds, your assumption that I wouldn’t know anyone named Mohammed would still indicate your reflexive assumptions around race. And Elizabeth would still be a common
name.

"Unless you’re Jubilee Tissues, I didn’t tell you to check anything."

Keep me out of it sweetheart, remember, it's just a name and the poster is right. Hardly anyone will know 6 Elizabeth's, never mind 6 children in the same social circle. That's all anyone is saying. Seriously, calm down.

@JubileeTissues I didn’t even tag you. So, you’re sock puppeting, now? All in defence of Elizabeth? Sweet Jesus. Yes, I’ll do my best to calm down. 😂

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Sorry what? Sock puppeting?

I'm reading replies to threads I'm on and this is at the top, you don't need to tag me.

No popcorn necessary, it's not that exciting. Although is a false accusation of sock puppeting the same as troll hunting?

Also, you're the one having arguments with several posters about stats and all sorts and then accusing someone of sock puppeting on a baby name thread. Very strange indeed.

I'll hide the thread then you can get on with your day unless anyone else appears you fancy having a pop at!

live in London. It wouldn’t matter if I lived in Leeds, your assumption that I wouldn’t know anyone named Mohammed would still indicate your reflexive assumptions around race. And Elizabeth would still be a common name

to be fair if we’re talking about how common names are then the name Mohammed is associated with a minority religion (6.3%) in the U.K .So assuming a majority 93% of the population probably wouldn’t give their child that name. It’s more an assumption that you don’t live in a city which I agree is fairly presumptive.

I get what you mean. I have always disliked my name, for the opposite eason to you, it is old fashioned, plain and boring.
When I left home at 18 I lacked the confidence to use my middle name or choose a new one I liked. Now I feel its too late.

Ironically my mother uses her middle name because she hates her first name.

I don't live in a city and know several Muhammads/Mohammeds/Mohameds, and Elizabeths.

I didnt 'assume' by the way I ASKED... do you know how questions work?

It is exceptionally bizaare that you know excess amounts of Elizabeths AND Mohammads, neither are comments on race but rather the fact you must live in a very bizaare place to have you circle heavily infultraited by both when relative to the 'name list rank' NEITHER are that common amoung the amount of general population and spaced fairly distantly location, class and culture wise.

I know several Kevins, Garys and Waynes (as mentioned before) I do not know many Victorias, Charlottes and Alexandras not saying either doesnt exist or wasnt statistically common when I was born but the cross over of 'social pockets' is not common, certainly not common enough to know several of all 6.

Apparently that’s exceptionally bizarre. The circles don’t overlap and people who know Mohammeds don’t know Elizabeths. THE CIRCLES DO NOT OVERLAP.

And that’s not a comment on race, apparently.

This thread is hilarious. Parochial mindsets hoicking up their collective pants.

I know a few Mohammads and a few Elizabeths too. Your choice of the word is ‘infiltrated’ is bizarre to say the least.

@Cherchezlaspice , maybe I live in Bizarretown but have a 2nd home in Bizarre-on-Sea.

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I think it depends on when you have come across a name before. I used to work in healthcare and I once went and called for a patient called Siobhan.

The patient and her mother looked at each other in shock, I thought I'd screwed up. Nope, just the first person not to say See-o-ban.

Doing supply teaching I have often said, "If I get your name wrong taking the register, please let me know."

I've come across a Sian pronounced Cyan, Iona is a 50/50 if it is Yonna or Eye-o-na, in my accent.

It is more difficult to pronounce some names and I sometimes have to have more than one try. And I do try.

I hear you OP.
My parents allowed my 6 year old sister to choose my name, as she didn't want to have a baby sister.

It is exceptionally bizaare that you know excess amounts of Elizabeths AND Mohammads, neither are comments on race but rather the fact you must live in a very bizaare place to have you circle heavily infultraited by both when relative to the 'name list rank' NEITHER are that common amoung the amount of general population and spaced fairly distantly location, class and culture wise.

@mam0918 'Infiltrated.' 😮 Mohammed is very common as a name (obviously it'd depend on the demographics of your area how often you come across a Mohammed.) It doesn't show as being as popular as it is on graphs/stats, precisely because it can be spelt in several different ways.

The comment by a pp about Siân being oddly spelt was bordering on offensive

There was a thread on here a while back, where every English person insisted that Sian was pronounced Sharn (with an R).

It became extremely tedious, and, yes, offensive.

This morning on another thread , I answered a 'How do you pronounce it' and they piled on to argue that i was wrong.
They obviously don't speak Welsh or they'd realise that they were talking bol*ocks.

FWIW, Siân isn't Sharn or Shahn, and Siôn isn't pronounced Shaun. Nearly, but not quite

Dons tin hat and ducks

i have a very unusual name - both first name & surname and I love it. It has been pronounced wrong all my life. I have been asked for my name, not my company name. I have have had umpteen nicknames, I have often been addressed by my surname, I have been ‘corrected’ on my pronunciation of my name.. I wouldn’t change it for the world. I am a very ordinary person with a brilliant, unusual name that I share with very few people and I love it. It’s an icebreaker at social events and while people will forget my face and probably my personality, they always remember that they met me!

Weird. My grandmother was welsh-speaking and always said Sharn for Sian?? (My great-grandmother was a Tegwen, my great aunt Eirel . My gran was Catherine.😉)

I think that u must be unique. You should embrace it however I don't live in your shoes.

change it if you don't want to be referred to that name .
no point being angry and resenting your parents. What's done is done. I resent mine for things they haven't done and won't do but at the end of the day, it's not gonna make my life any easier so I'm trying to not resent them

I was born in wales, love so many of the welsh names and can pronounce most of them. But empathise with you as I know some are hard for non-welsh speakers to pronounce. From someone who has a boring name, I just wish mine was a bit more exciting, I feel common 😂

It's Myfanwy isn't it? 😁

Has to be a teasing thread because if you’d hated your name so much, you’d have changed it legally by now.

Besides, your first name is too odd but your middle name is too classically ‘boring and dull’ (in your words)?

Just no pleasing you so you got a YABU from me.

Only around five people other than my mum have ever pronounced my real name properly from the get go but I’ve never really cared. Even as a kid, I had way more serious things to worry about. Either deal with it or change it, you drama queen 😂.