My partner forgot my birthday

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I've nc'd for this as I'm so embarrassed. My partner has forgotten my 25th birthday today. I confronted him about an hour ago and said have you forgotten and he was very apologetic and sorry. Said he's never missed a birthday before with previous partners (he's older than me and has had lots of girlfriends) and that's what hurts the most I think- the fact that it's just me he's ever forgot. He says it's no reflection of how he feels for me, that he loves me etc. We're shy of one year together so last year he gave me birthday gifts early September as we hadn't physically met by my birthday. I didn't even want gifts per se, just a thoughtful card and a 'happy birthday'. We live together, I reminded him last week but he's still forgot. I don't know what to make of it. AIBU to be upset?

Don’t let him get away with that. Tell him what you want/expect.

So you didn't get nothing for your birthday @heforgot , a cold is an lovely present isn't it?

@DoubleGauze 😂

Happy belated birthday to you too!
Feeling unimportant on your birthday is just shit.
I'd like to say it didn't affect mine but it really did.
Why are some men so bloody clueless, it's beyond frustrating. Even if they are so self absorbed to not make the effort, I'd expect the women in their lives (mums/sisters) to give them a nudge in the right direction.

@birthdaygirl29 really?

All of this! ALOT of red flags here OP! How long have you been living with him?! You’re still getting to know him. This should be the honeymoon phase.

happy Birthday and I hope your day gets better xx

Definitely! If my brother was dating a girl and it was her birthday coming up I would tell him to make sure he at least got her a card/flowers. As I know he may not think of it!

Urgh, this is part of the problem. Other women like @birthdaygirl29 finding another woman to blame instead of placing the blame where it 100% lies - with OP's husband.

@birthdaygirl29 this kind of thing is exactly how women end up taking responsibility for Christmas and birthday gifts for their (male) partner's family. It's one step away from picking up a card because they can't be bothered.

Please let these men work it out for themselves. They're just as capable as we are. Honest.

@Meraas 100% definitely is the fault of the man that forgot

Has he tested for covid?

The main thing for me and many others I know who had it was the brain fuzz and forgetting/being confused.

Like you said he could have sorted it out beforehand but maybe he had a plan in his head and didn’t feel the need to plan anything too far in advance.

Update:

He did give me two nice gifts today.

He's definitely showing what he thinks of you. I would be seriously questioning the relationship if I was you.

What were they op?