If I disagree with the majority of posters on mumsnet?

[NotSettlingIn]

Am I the problem?

I'm experiencing cognitive dissonance! I've been all over the place, but relationships and AIBU are places I just don't agree with what most (over half of posters say!). I wasn't expecting that. I'm quite calm usually 😂

Light-hearted (But slightly serious)!

and Hello everyone!

@Riapia

Who's are they then?

They may be entirely opposite to those of the people posting them.

I am an outlier in real life and an outlier on MN too. I score very much at the liberal end on attitude surveys and I am a bit unusual in some choices in life, so I am used to people disagreeing with me.

There are some things I do not discuss on here because it will get a bad response for sure.

I find MN very conservative (small c) whilst not being very Conservative (big C) which I find interesting.

@Riapia

Could be

It depends what you are disagreeing with.

If you think your DP is ace and 100 posters are telling you he's abusive and LTB then maybe you should at least reflect on that.

If it's stuff like Brexit, rishi Vs Liz, red Vs blue, trans, scottish independence, the forum is quite divided and arguments get heated and nasty.

I stay out of them!

In relation to it being "skewed", it'll more than likely be "skewed" relative to your real-life environment. In most "home" scenarios, we either chose to be around people with similar or acceptable views on life as us, or at least know those who we don't share similar outlooks with. So if you started talking about any of the AIBU scenarios through with a partner / best friend / mum, you'd probably have a good idea of their view - and may well not even start the conversation because it's a topic you've maybe agreed to disagree on! But you start a thread here, and you have no idea who is next to pop on and give their opinion. And as mentioned earlier, if that first response sets the tone (one way or the other), you either feel immediately vindicated or completely isolated.

I rejoined just a few weeks ago under a new name. What I find interesting is the "warnings' at the top of some topics - basically reminding us that we've no idea who is posting, I could give you legal advice but MN reminds you I could be a random idiot who knows less about the law than I do molecular science. And that's the crux for me - useful to get a wider opinion sometimes, but I have no idea of the sincerity of that opinion, or the experience behind it.

I know what you're saying but to what end? If they are posting purely to be inflammatory then their original viewpoint is meaningless? And do they even know what their opinion is if making people feel bad is their aim. So say it's the rich and the poor, find ways to shame or anger either? That's crazy making behaviour. And past my pay grade to work through! I mean there's always new people through the door to wind up I suppose. It's like a bad takeaway in a hot tourist spot. There will always be customers.

I fell asleep earlier (medication), woke up to a delivery and half asleep said to my husband "Let him knock the door if he wants to". He just said "I did". I have mumsnet on the brain at the moment. Now that is me and my own crazy making behaviour!

The views of women in their late 20s early 30s is very different and I'm only in my 40s.

Things are more right wing, more benefit bashing, more anti sahm, more pro porn, more submissive in relationships etc.

@felulageller

I fund mn rabidly pro sahms.

Its about 15 to 20 years behind most sm in terms of attitudes to parenting/working mums.

How did you get to that conclusion

It's a known 'thing' the older you get the more likely you are to lean to the right

The only posters on here that are right wing are the older ones

Pro porn, anti SAHM are younger views on here but the others you've listed are definitely those more commonly found among the older posters

Same with the ott FWR views - those posters are definitely on the older side