Dh is irritating me, it's the end of the school hols

[CuddlesAndChocolate]

So dh and I are both teachers with a toddler and and a baby and it's been a long 6 weeks!

Many of us have our neurotic ways but dh has a lot and normally I'd tolerate them but atm it's just plain annoying. Maybe we've just been in each other's company too much but things are starting to become more irritating, e.g

Dh has an obsession with opening all the windows around the house to let out plastic particles
He turns off the hot water even though we're on a combi boiler
He watches TV without any lights on in the evening.
He's always leaving stair gates open.
He's always looking at something on his phone

So how does your oh irritate you?

I hear you.

Mine works from home, but usually goes into the office once a week. (Twice would be so much better.)

I get DS down for his nap, clear the kitchen, put on the dishwasher, sit down for an hour and BOOM, he is THERE. Wanting to tell me the bin collection day has changed, or that he’s ordered something unimportant, or that I have a parcel and what is it.

When something needs doing, it can’t just wait for a convenient time. It has to be done now. This second. Ds and I are sitting in a stuffy car but no - he had to find a screwdriver.

He constantly makes unhelpful suggestions, turning oven hobs down (‘that’s a bit high mummy, I think the rice is done, mummy) why don’t we (meaning me and ds) go to soft play, the park, are we seeing X or Y. All ‘soft’ ways of saying ‘can you and ds go out and away from under my feet.’

i do love him but he is hard work here ALL of the time with no respite.

Blimey. You have the patience of a Saint.

He would be under the patio by now if he was mine 😀

He loads the dishwasher but doesn't turn it on. Drives me up the wall.

He sits around on his phone until 10 minutes before we need to leave then runs around the house shrieking at the kids to hurry up because we're going to be late. This is every day. If I go somewhere without him it's calm and we're on time. If he's involved we're late and it's stressful.

I always watch tv with the lights off 😂 why would I have them on 😂

When something needs doing, it can’t just wait for a convenient time. It has to be done now. This second. Ds and I are sitting in a stuffy car but no - he had to find a screwdriver.

This is mine too. An example, I asked him to set the table because dinner was ready. I come through carrying hot food and the chairs are all upside down on the table, he's tightening the legs with a screwdriver because he decided they were a bit wobbly.

My husband will decide we need something then say "I'll leave that with you to research and sort".

His latest is something to get rid of spiders (we have a lot living down the side of the house). I hate spiders so I said I'm not getting involved.

"Can you just look on Amazon at the reviews and order one?"

No I can-fucking-not.

Mine would do that too, @Oysterbabe

He also leaves dirty dishes in the sink when the dishwasher is THERE!

Ime be bloody grateful you are at home.
I have 2 nights in a tent left with dh...
<insert gritting teeth emoji here >

It's Bank Holiday Sunday and DH is away ALL day thanks to his old man hobby. I wouldn't mind but if I'm not around on a Sunday it due to having to work. He also used to be away a lot over BHs due to his work when DS was younger.

He's decided he'd rather spend the BH Sunday with a bunch of old men.

I am not happy, but then again I'm not happy with him and he won't be here so it's a bit of a double-edged sword. sigh.

@lilaccottagegarden

… he calls you mummy?? I would do more than poke him with a screw driver for that.

To turn the tables I think if the husbands/ partners were joining this they would say:

moans about pointless things
neurotic

Mine would say untidy and lazy. I don't claim to be perfect.

I’m not perfect at all.

But … I GO OUT!

he has RESPITE from whatever my annoying habits may be

sob

I love my DH but goodness me the window thing irritates me! Other way round for us; I open them for fresh air every day (not in minus temps obviously) and he goes around closing them, even when he’s had a shower.

You can have a healthy relationship and still be annoyed with someone. We all live in relatively confined spaces!

@Hellywel
yes, pretty sure DH is happy to be leaving us today, for the day. I am not perfect by a country mile, but for the past 20 yrs I've been a faithful, hardworking and supportive wife.
I'm fed up of it all, TBH. It makes me feel very sad.

This may take a while…

while lm cooking giving me “feedback” about what lm doing wrong. Then gets irritable when l dont follow it. I’m the more knowledgeable and experienced cook by the way
never puts anything away
asks what time Aldi opens, what time the last train is etc. I don’t know the answers to any of these questions and he like me, has google on his phone. This has become a lot worse lately and l need to nip it in the bud. I’m pregnant and if lm not careful l will be chief google person of the house
faffs around at the time we have negotiated to leave the house. I often leave without him

Mine is messy, obsessed with his electric bike. Said bike recently had a puncture, which he has repaired. It is currently lying in pieces while he frets about how to get the wheels back on (🤣🤣🤣) and all connected up properly to the motor. He won't take it to a bike shop though, where they could do it in minutes and he could learn from them. Oh no!!

He also frets about any dust particles that he sees swirling around in the air and doesn't seem to believe that they do also float in at open windows. He'll turn a vacuum cleaner on in his "study" (aka his shit hole of a man cave) and just leave it running with the nozzle propped up in the air to suck in these floating particles and leave the air in the shit hole man cave apparently clean and purified. 🙄🤣

Your comments about plastic particles floating around did therefore resonate with me. It's just the sort of bee in his bonnet that my DH would have, and it would buzz far too loudly. He'd probably also use his ridiculous vacuum cleaner for that and the stupid thing would never be turned off!!

I don't think I'll be mentioning the plastic particles to him.

Mine is not a teacher. Probably just as well, as I think school kids would probably make mincemeat of his idiosyncrasies once they became obvious (which wouldn't take long).

Thankfully he is normally just in his study shit hole man cave during the week, and for two days does go to the office.😃

Aw that’s a shame you feel this way ☹️.

Doesn't want to drive the morning after having a drink (fair enough) but is a proper back seat driver which really winds me up.

Especially as l have been driving nearly 30 years and have a clean sheet.

Mine gets heartburn In the night and chooses just when the baby has dropped back off to sit up, dramatically clutch his chest, burp several times, rub his face dramatically and then fling himself back down

Mine also hides keys they can’t be near the door they open due to some sort of burglar conspiracy fear so they reside in a cupboard miles away and make leaving the house a faff

Don't believe anything you read in the Daily Fail!

I think it is actually a light hearted type of thread. 😉

I don't claim to be perfect. DH and I can irritate the fuck out of each other. Mostly we just eyeroll and eventually laugh about it (when the dust has settled).

This!!

There's alot more on the list too. Thank god we don't often have weeks off work together, maybe 2 weeks at summer and 2 at Christmas and these are the times I dread the most 😐

Mine also hides keys they can’t be near the door they open due to some sort of burglar conspiracy fear so they reside in a cupboard miles away and make leaving the house a faff

Also makes it far more likely you'd all die if you had a house fire. Honestly that's so dangerous, it's not something I'd blithely accept as an unusual quirk!