I can understand photos of the flowers, photos of messages on them. Not to share online. Just to keep privately.
But there is absolutely no need for posed photos of people or photos of the funeral cars or coffin.
I know a woman who lost a young child. She posted photos and videos of her entire funeral on Facebook. The cars arriving, the journey, the service, the wake.
She had her other four children posing infront of the funeral flowers and infront of the coffin in the hearse.
They looked utterly bereft, pale, unwell, absolutely
grief stricken and clearly not wanting to be posing for photographs.
The photos of people at the wake, again, were horrific to see, grandparents and other relatives obviously in a lot of pain and not really wanting to be photographed. For example group photos stood infront of balloon garlands, blood shot eyes, tear stained faces.
She arranged for the wake to take place at a huge venue with decorative flowers, balloons, party bags, fireworks, it was like a wedding set up.
I wouldn't ever want to judge a mother who lost her child, and how she grieved her loss, but I did silently judge for putting her other children in that situation.
I admire her strength and determination to celebrate her child's life in a way she felt appropriate, it was beautifully done in a child's memory, but the photos were incredibly unpleasant and not necessary.
A few photos of the things she has arranged in memory, fine, but group shots and tearful children, no.
I've never attended a funeral where I have been in the head space to get my phone out and start snapping away. It's just not appropriate in my opinion.
There can be celebrations of life in time afterwards, parties, events, charity fundraising but to me the actual funeral is a sad and painful affair that would not want or need photos of.