To think that people that take pics and videos at funerals are disrespectful

[Kittycat37uk]

Hi
So I'm from the UK and have noticed lately on sm people going to funerals and taking pics and videos with their phones some of them actually posing with the peace sign and duck lips pouting at a funeral like seriously?
I don't know if this is me being old fashioned but I've been to numerous funerals and not once have I felt the need to get my phone out and start posing and posting pics and videos to sm because well I've been too upset at losing the person who's funeral I'm at.

Aibu to think that this is a sick and disrespectful trend that is now prevalent on sm?

Yes I think it can be very disrespectful. I have seen it recently on sm after we went to a funeral.
Someone put a great big post up who barely knew the person who died or the family. It caused a bit of upset because the family didn't put anything on.

A friend took photos of people arriving at our son's funeral. He told me he did it as he was sure we would have no memory of who came and for the most part he was right about that. We were grateful for the photos later.

But they were respectful photos, no posing and certainly no duckface.

I took photos of everything at my children's funeral as I knew I'd not remember most of it otherwise. Wouldn't put most of them on social media though.

I think it's disrespectful. Uncles wife went along with my uncle to the funeral home to pay respects to my grandad, decides whilst she is there to take a couple of video's of my grandad in his coffin along with a couple of selfies of her and my grandad ...😡

I actually regret not having taken any photos at a recent funeral.

The wake was really lovely, a rare coming together of friends and family, all in one place after separation through lockdowns and covid. It was a moving and special tribute to the person who died to see so many people make the effort to mark their loss.

I agree, that posing and pouting is inappropriate, but then I would never take those photos anyway. But I do think it would have been nice to take some unobtrusive shots of the flowers and people gathered together at the wake. There were lots of children running around and older relatives sharing photos and memories.

Some of my husband’s friends took a group photo at his funeral earlier this year, and shared on the WhatsApp group he had belonged too, and that I could view on his phone.
It felt very peculiar looking at the picture of them all smiling for the camera and commenting on the event. Although they were respectful and kind comments.

With regards to the child's funeral, if someone is a sharer of things on SM, they will share regardless of the occasion. That will have been the last time she ever has all her children in the same place, the last thing she ever organises for them.

I understand wanting to document and show, as unpatentable as some find it. It's not something I have shared from my babies' funerals, although I have photos of them both laid out and in their caskets.

Don't get me wrong got nothing against personal photos sharing with close friends and family members but to post it all on social media I find absolutely tasteless and tacky u can share photos with close ones privately without making a big circus out of a loved ones funeral for all of the social media world to see.

This is quite a common practice in America. I have seen Facebook posts of people smiling over the coffin of their loved one.
I don't like it personally but where funerals are concerned I think people should do what comforts them
Photographing the deceased person is a no no IMO.

@greyinganddecaying and @FidginSpinnins I'm so sorry for your losses. I can't imagine what loosing multiple children must be like.💐💐

That is vile.

I think there should be a no phones/cameras rule when visiting the deceased.

The poor soul has no say and shouldn't have anybody crowing around the coffin taking photos. It's a personal and private moment, not time for a photo shoot.

That is vile.

I think there should be a no phones/cameras rule when visiting the deceased.

The poor soul has no say and shouldn't have anybody crowing around the coffin taking photos. It's a personal and private moment, not time for a photo shoot.

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To add, I'm not referring to parents taking beautiful photos of their children. But distant relatives arriving at the chapel of rest for a nosy and a selfie with someone's grandad.

I do get that, and I think having some private photographs is fine if they feel that's needed.

I just can't get my head around someone taking photos of their grieving children posed infront of their siblings coffin then putting it on facebook. It's just a truly horrific time, and nobody needs a camera in their face at that moment when they are clearly sobbing while being asked to stand for a photo.

If my parents had done that and I discovered these photos online later in life I'd be very upset.

YABU never pass up an opportunity for clout.

Sorry, but "the corpse" has really cracked me up 🤣

I have always thought this OP, it's so tacky and disrespectful. It seems to be the younger generation especially that are doing it. Just shows how the world is changing and everything is now always plastered online for the world to see, no matter what the occasion.

Flower arrangements = ok
Selfies = not ok

I get that completely, and a lot of people feel the same way. I'd assume the person sharing those pictures would be the kind who potentially shares everything on SM like a lot of people do.

I regret not having taken my eldest to see his sibling and not having a picture of them together.

It is a horrific time, and once that time is gone, it can never be got back, which is probably why she'll have taken photos. You're also not thinking clearly when it's happening which may also account for the actions.