To ask people to stop talking about energy bills on AIBU?

[SickandTiredofHearingAboutEnergyBills]

Just a heads up - You are not unreasonable to be alarmed about your energy bill!

But I am sick and tired of hearing about it. I've done what I can to sort my bill out. And I don't want to be reminded every two bloody minutes! There is a cost of living board you can use. It will become busier and more helpful if you all went there to use it!

This winter is going to get harder and every second thread will be some complaint about energy bills at this rate.

Your need for high traffic to talk about YOUR bill does not trump everyone elses need from a space away from it!

And those who object to this kind of over-moderated approach, please go and make your feelings clear on that thread in site stuff too.

I will have a look at that. Thank you.

Sorry but this is a daft and massively selfish complaint. You’re worried about the misuse of AIBU?! The horrific new price cap was published YESTERDAY. We all know AIBU gets a lot of traffic.
it’s not that (for most people) they wouldn’t be thinking about the energy emergency all the time were it not for the nasty reminder by other selfish people whingeing on AIBU. Think yourself unbelievably lucky if you are in that position.

Its much more likely that in this absolutely financially devastating situation, people are genuinely and perfectly realistically bloody worried about themselves and their families freezing or starving to the point of illness or death.

So they are quite understandably so stressed that they are trying to reach out to others to talk about it or get ideas on how to prepare against these bills and freezing temperatures. MN is about support as well as entertainment.

Anyone coming on here and moaning about ‘misuse of AIBU’ should only allow yourself to be that selfish if you have already written to your MP to ask them what they are doing about this crisis that is going to be killing people and when the Tory government will be recalling Parliament to start to deal with it. Only they have the power to do that.

It's not over moderated. This is AIBU. Why it it that the right place to discuss your energy bill? Where is the AIBU bit in it? Everyone's bill is unreasonable!

This happened at the start of Coronavirus. Eventually Mumsnet HQ set up a dedicated board and started to move all the threads across to it. For every person who doesn't want it read about it, there is another who is worried and reassured to read that others are in the same boat.

But not everyone wants to see threads about mindless trivia either. Why should AIBU be sanitised so that it only includes topics that you want to talk about? If you want to focus on topics that you don't find upsetting or worrying or whatever, then go to the boards where the topics that interest you are being discussed. If enough people feel the same as you, then there should be plenty of traffic in those places. If those boards are quiet, then maybe people just don't want to talk about the same stuff that you do.

@DowningStreetParty

You haven't been paying attention if you think panic has only been increasing since yesterday!

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Hope this helps

Where did I say that?

It's the same every time there's a big topic. Lots of threads then eventually it dies down because people feel all talked out about it.

In the meantime, we get uptown threads telling people not to talk about whatever it is on the most popular boards.

Every bloody time!

But I am sick and tired of hearing about it. I've done what I can to sort my bill out. And I don't want to be reminded every two bloody minutes!

Me, me, me.

YABNU totally fed up with it. Beyond boring now.

Do the threads need a trigger warning?

But what is the issue?

The covid topic was the most frequented topic during the early pandemic, every single post in trending was from the covid topic, and the whole topic could be hidden.
This allowed those that rightly wanted to talk about it free reign to do and say as they please and those that just wanted vacuous chat were able to avoid it completely.

Over moderated would be deciding what people can post, I can't see how putting it in the correct topic (which MN are always on top of) is an issue.

People are worried though ,if you don't like it don't click on the threads ,I don't click on the endless Brexit threads as I find them tiresome and repetitive.

I’m up for threads to go in cost of living topic, will have a look

Yes it's boring AF

There are tons of threads in AIBU without a proper AIBU. It's obvious that people post for traffic.

If you want to push MNHQ to moderate threads where there isn't an AIBU, then go ahead. There is at least some logic to that. But you can't just tell people that certain topics are off limits on a general board. If they have an AIBU relating to energy, then they are free to post here. If they don't have an AIBU question, then they may still post here for traffic like so many other threads on this board. There is no more reason to moan about the energy ones than there is about all of the others. You're just annoyed because you don't find this particular topic very interesting, and lots of other people want to talk about it right now. Perhaps if you start a couple of scintillating threads yourself, you will find people who want to join you in talking about other things.

Can someone please explain to OP how not to click on a thread that they don’t want to read.

The entitlement of people is astonishing. The things that they will tell others not to do because it inconveniences/upsets them. It is batshit.

In this Martin Lewis video he sounds absolutely broken. He says, rightly this is a catastrophe.He says we must have government help, lives will be lost without it. Ordinary householders are out of options that he can recommend and they have been for a while.
Martin Lewis 'begging, praying' for more energy bills help
www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/uk-62685067

So whatever your views on the use of AIBU or how ‘bored’ you are by this crisis or how little this affects you personally, please just email your MP, Parliament must be recalled to begin to deal with this emergency.

Yanbu. I don't see how it's 'discussing the important stuff' as some smug PPs are saying, it's a bunch of identical threads stating the obvious that their bills have gone up. It's especially fun when it devolves into a classic MN class war where posters are berated for worrying about school fees or something, and posts are 50/50 split between 'my husband is a high earner BUT' and 'have you even thought about children who are going to DIE????'.

I still haven't seen a single thread actually discussing good ideas for how to tackle the energy crisis, and we don't need 5000 identical threads on tips to reduce your electricity bill, especially as MN isn't even the best place for lots of that advice.

Also laughing at the supposed gotcha of 'but you started a thread too!' absolutely fantastic debate skills on this site.

The dismissiveness of this is one of the worst things I've ever read on here. It's one thing not wanting to read energy threads because they're causing more anxiety. It's quite another declaring them "boring AF."

If you're one of the few people who isn't concerned about energy bills then count yourself lucky and fuck off the threads.

The issue is that many people want to be able to talk about what they want to talk about, particularly in high traffic general content forums like AIBU, without being censored or shouted at to move to another board.

If people were posting about energy issues in, say, Style and Beauty, I would absolutely understand people asking them to stop. People go to the topic boards to discuss specific issues that are of interest to them. AIBU isn't like that, and the appeal of it for me is the breadth of topics that it covers. If it is sanitised to the extent that we can't talk about anything that might upset someone, or that we can't discuss major issues of the day, then it just becomes a board for mindless trivia. That would be a real loss in my view.

Those who find certain issues upsetting have the option to steer clear of the general boards like chat/AIBU if they don't want to see the topics that lots of people clearly want to discuss. If you move those topics to a specific board, you then end up with the inevitable shouty behaviour from the self-appointed thread police, telling people to use the cost of living thread or whatever, when some poor uninitiated poster posts on AIBU because they're worried sick about their energy bills.

Those who find the energy threads boring need to start their own more interesting conversations and hope that others join them. Those who suffer from anxiety to the extent that they are triggered by the mere mention of energy on an Internet chat forum should probably take proactive steps to protect their mental health by sticking to "safe" topics on specific boards. Dictating to everyone else what they are allowed to talk about and where is not the answer.

YABU it's a major problem for many people, I think we should be allowed to discuss it. If you don't like it don't reply rorhe threads. If they get less traffic they might post less

This is exactly what I mean. I'm not finding any interesting debates/threads talking about the energy crisis either! Every time I see a thread talking about the energy crisis, it's just the same thing. And it is absolutely not unreasonable to be concerned about your bill, it just doesn't belong on AIBU.

The cost of living board should be used, and it will be become a busier and better place for everyone to access when they have something to talk about.