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AIBU to continue with my holiday?

67 replies

Rozes64 · 26/08/2022 19:34

I booked, ages ago, to go on a weeks cruise with a friend, who this week has fallen and badly broken her wrist.

She has said she still wants to come, but the medics are advising against it as they need to operate, after which she'll have her arm in a sling as well as a cast, to stop her hand moving.

Unfortunately her travel insurer have said she's not covered , so she's asked if I'd agree to move our booking to another date. The booking is in my name, it had to be one or the other.

I'm just selling my house right now, and was looking forward to a break before the actual move takes place. I've also booked and paid for parking, plus a deposit to kennel my dogs.

Its really not the right time for me to change it, her insurer has very damning reviews on Trustpilot, but in all honesty I don't see a good reason for me to lose money to compensate for her dilemma. I am really full on right now hosting house viewings, having spent three weeks decluttering the house. So either she comes against medical advice, and runs the risk of becoming more unwell, or doesn't come and loses her money, or I change the date and lose monies already committed to parking etc?

OP posts:
Lastqueenofscotland2 · 26/08/2022 21:49

It’s really not impossible you’re just being awkward.
Id reschedule…

With friends like these aye…

Ragwort · 26/08/2022 21:58

Do people actually bother to read the OP's updates? Hmm

TiredzzZZ · 26/08/2022 22:05

Sorry OP, but you sound quite mean :(

typeb · 26/08/2022 22:15

Ragwort · 26/08/2022 21:58

Do people actually bother to read the OP's updates? Hmm

I've read all of the OP's posts. What is it you want from people?

LIZS · 26/08/2022 22:22

If you cancel your friend's place only, you may end up paying more due to single supplements, which insurance will not cover.

worriedniece · 26/08/2022 23:19

Ask the insurers, if she goes with the broken wrist, will her travel insurance still be valid during the holiday eg if she fell again etc. if the insurance is no longer valid, she should not go. If it isn't valid, they should be refunding anyway

Rozes64 · 27/08/2022 05:22

typeb · 26/08/2022 21:38

Is she actually a friend or someone who it was convenient to go on holiday with (reduced a single supplement or similar).

It's just that you don't sound as though you give a shiny shit about her, her broken wrist, her not being able to go on holiday or anything.

I mean if you were just using her to get a cheap holiday then crack on and holiday without her and expect to lose the friendship.

If she's your friend then have a word with yourself. You're full of how none of this fits with your plans, do you think a broken wrist is convenient for her?

How rude.

Nothing like that at all I won't bother writing the full back story as I don't have to justify myself, suffice to say that it's all sorted now, thsnk goodness I've never met yoi!

OP posts:
Rozes64 · 27/08/2022 05:26

worriedniece · 26/08/2022 23:19

Ask the insurers, if she goes with the broken wrist, will her travel insurance still be valid during the holiday eg if she fell again etc. if the insurance is no longer valid, she should not go. If it isn't valid, they should be refunding anyway

That was absolutely the problem. She wanted to still go, but my concern was that her insurers may not honour a claim if she took.ill on holiday . In fact as her consultant has advised against going, she csn claim now, I rather think when she told me the other day they were refusing to cover a claim, it had all got very confused, and I was left just not knowing what was happening

OP posts:
Snog · 27/08/2022 05:38

Will you enjoy holidaying on your own though?

JackandSam · 27/08/2022 10:05

You sound like a shitty friend.

I'd have said I'll try and find someone else to go so they can pay you back and if not, we'll move the dates and I think you should fight the insurance company.

You could move it 12 months surely!

I guess it depends on how much you value the friendship.

fuckblippi · 27/08/2022 10:33

Its pretty impossible for me to book another date right now which I've set out Very clearly.

Yes you could. You just don't want to. 6 months, 8 months, 1 year. Just say you don't want to and own it.

amicissimma · 27/08/2022 12:52

I'm sorry you're getting a hard time, OP.

The friend is able to get the cost back on her insurance. It's really hard for the OP to change the date and she may incur some increased costs for being alone.

So why is the OP at fault? The friend's not lost out financially and the OP might a bit.

delayedTrain · 27/08/2022 13:04

Could you afford to go again in a few months? I understand that you need this break but I feel so sorry for your friend.

Clymene · 27/08/2022 13:11

fuckblippi · 27/08/2022 10:33

Its pretty impossible for me to book another date right now which I've set out Very clearly.

Yes you could. You just don't want to. 6 months, 8 months, 1 year. Just say you don't want to and own it.

She wants a holiday and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Honestly the guilt tripping on this thread is off the scale.

NoSquirrels · 27/08/2022 13:22

SkyLarkDescending · 26/08/2022 19:41

If I could afford a cheap, last minute break I'd book something so I could use the parking and kennels. Then I'd move the date of the holiday with my friend so we could go together.

Is that a possibility?

I’d do this. And ask her to help you out with 50% of new kennel fees.

Chickenwing2 · 27/08/2022 13:45

I feel so sorry for your friend.

allboysherebutme · 27/08/2022 14:47

I'd move the date or go again with her next year. X

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