To block one of my best friends on FB?

[TheLostNights]

Having a bit of a rough time. Money is tight, job is uncertain and DH and I are worried about the energy bills coming. We haven't been able to afford to go on holiday and like many, are really scrimping and saving.
One of my best friends though is having a great time. Both her and her partner earn well and now have adult kids so they have the time and money to go on mini breaks or events every weekend. She posts every weekend with them drinking lots of alcohol and having tons of fun. Life is one big party with no worries. I care for her but just feel so down that we can't do the same. I would give up FB but we don't live near family so want to keep it for contact purposes. Aibu to just block her?

You can snooze people for 30 day stretches, it's less noticeable. Definitely do that if it's making you feel bad.

Just hide her or snooze her, so you don’t see her on your feed anymore. I have all my in laws hidden so I don't have to see the latest drama. Don’t feel bad about it.

Yes I keep a few people permanently on snooze when their posts bring me down or irritate me. No big deal.

Here’s how to unfollow them but stay friends.

Hide her, I have had to do that in the past, I am the same in that I don't want to come off Facebook as my husband and I have lots of relatives in another country Facebook works well to keep in contact with eachother as there are so many of them.

I know it can make you feel so down, it's easy for people to say you shouldn't compare your lives with others but it is so hard watching everyone literally living their best life when you are having a crap time. You are only human!

If you go to her profile, click where it says "Friends". There will be a scroll down menu, click "take a break" and that lets you go to a page to click to hide her from your timeline unless tagged.
That way, no drama over unfriending or blocking, no more smug photos annoying you (I get it, same situation, we are flat broke and couldn't afford a holiday again this year, Covid destroyed my business and we are truly shit scared of the winter months right now).

I would give up FB but we don't live near family so want to keep it for contact purposes.

You know there are other ways of keeping in contact. But obviously just hide your friend from your newsfeed anyway.

I'm not quite sure what you're going to do about everyone else if you catch them having a good time.

I think snoozing her is a good option.

Can't you just be happy for her.

She's having a purple patch at the moment but your time will come,

Snooze or unfollow. Blocking seems a bit much.

I would snooze her for a while not fully block

I think you should do whatever is best for your mental health at the moment, so if that moves snooze her posts do so. That being said what are you doing to do when people share their holiday plans or weekend plans with you in real life? Will you turn your nose up or show disinterest? I haven't been abroad in 7 years (combination of having babies and doing home improvements) I can still respond to friends holiday snaps because I'm happy for them . My time will come.

In the short term snooze her posts, long term work on your resilience.

I think it's mean to block her just because she's having fun , surely life is ups and downs and she maybe enjoying an up time whilst you're having a down time . Won't always be like this and you could lose a good friend . I'd never block someone based on finances or how much fun they're having . And don't forget FB only shows the highs she could be having a shit time behind the photos

I'm on the fence with this one

On one hand I kinda wanna say can't you just be happy for her

But then On the other hand a lot of people are struggling financially so maybe it is a bit tone deaf people posting this sort of thing especially if it's constant

You can unfollow people without blocking or unfriending so they can still contact you and vice versa but their posts don't come up on your newsfeed. I've done this with most of my fb friends because I don't need a running commentary on their day

* only people that post constantly though

How can you know that? I have a couple of similar friends on facebook, children left home, good jobs etc, will my time also come, without me doing anything to change my life? I don't really understand what you mean as other than winning the lottery I'm not going to be in the same financial position ever

OP - of course you can block her, you absolutely don't need anyone's permission to run your facebook in the best way for you

I wasn't aware you could snooze people so will do that.

As I said in my OP, it's practically every weekend she posts and it just upsets me. We couldn't even justify going out for a meal at the moment yet they are having expensive dinners, constant drinking days, big holidays, concerts etc no worries about money. Do find the posts a bit smug and can't apologise for not wanting to see them.

Just snooze her. There are people I love and care for very much but their Fb usage does my head in but I often snooze them.

One of my best friends who is a lovely person posts every second of their lives on Fb down to photos of kids meals and kids sleeping. Bores the shit out of me. I always snooze so I don't have my feed clogged with her day to day minutiae.

She's lovely in person though.

It's a fact. Comparing yourself to people doing better than you brings you down. Also, facebook isn't real life. It's like a promotional brochure, you're only seeing the gloss and wonderful pictures. You don't know what goes on in their lives or their heads. You only see what they want you to see.

Absolutely this. Comparison really is the thief of joy. I have rich friend who is always doing amazing things, and it makes me feel like shit, I just snooze her loads.

Just get off Facebook, there are other ways to keep in contact with your other friends and family

I'd block her because she sounds a bore.

"....drinking lots of alcohol.." This is not most grownups idea of fun and sounds as if she has a problem.