AIBU to ask how I break up with my hairdresser?

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I mean I know ultimately I AM being unreasonable, I pay her to give me a service and if I am no longer happy with said service or can no longer justify the cost then I have every right to just not go back. My issue here is I always feel really bad about not re-booking (or cancelling an already made appointment) no matter the situation and my anxiety kicks in. I am friends with her on social media and she’s so lovely but didn’t do a great job on my DD’s hair recently (she’s 5 so I know it’s not easy!) and I’ve been contemplating moving to a mobile lady I know recently anyway. But how do I actually word the message to her to cancel my appointment?
and yes I am ready to be told to get a back bone etc etc I just genuinely would like some friendly suggestions :-/

You really dont need to word anything! Just dont make an appointment

Just ring the salon and ask to cancel your appointment and you'll be in touch to rearrange.

It's really hard! Luckily my hairdresser had a baby and had to give up some clients..😉

You're not the only one that feels like this. My lash tech has recently put her prices up and I've found a cheaper lady that seems just as good, but they always post client pics all over Instagram and my current lady follows all the local technicians so I'm too scared to go incase she sees it and thinks I've betrayed her

Just don't make another appointment.

Sorry just re read, Just say, hi, sorry but cant make appointment, will call to rebook.

Thank you!
@Beamur i said to my friend earlier that would be perfect (happened to her recently and she was relieved!)
@WhatIsNapTime it’s harder than it should be isn’t it! Glad I’m not the only one!

The last time I left a hairdresser, I said that I wouldn’t make a further appointment because I wanted to leave it for a while and would be in touch when I felt it needed a cut. If I cancel an appointment, I say I can’t make it and will call to rearrange.

Ohhh I had this. Except mine came to my house for about 5 years. She booked appointments months in advance so we always had the next 3-4 appointments booked in. I have highlights so that’s fine. I worked myself up how to tell her. I sent her the message and just said I wanted to start going out the house and to feel like I was going out for some me time. She was completely fine and said she understood. It was hard though.

It's awkward bc you're friends on sm so can't say you've moved or anything...I think you just have to not rebook if she's not doing a good job?

Just don't re-book. If asked say you wanted someone to re think your style.

I used to be a nail tech and I never minded if clients wanted to stop having nails or go elsewhere, honestly. But please be aware I always knew that when someone messaged to cancel and 'would call to rearrange' I knew I would never see them again 😂

If you've already got it booked I'd go to that one but not rebook again, you don't need to explain why but cost of living would be a reasonable explanation.

Just don’t go: it’s not your fault she’s not doing a good job.

How about a white lie, if you feel the need to give an explanation? Just tell her that you're feeling the pinch and you're going to give the mobile lady a go, to save a bit of money.

Why lie? Just say, I want to try some other hairdressers to try something new. Thanks for doing my hair for so long :)

Thank you all. Going to put my big girl pants on and message!

I think I’d tell my stylist I was moving away from the area. I don’t know him socially or anything.

I moved from hairdresser who was my friend to a mobile home one

It was tough
I just didn't book another appointment and went with new one. And then said oh yea, it's lovely coming to you but felt like a change/ DDs wanted to try the mobile one so they could chill out at home whilst waiting..

This.

Say you need to cancel existing one. If they ask you to rebook say you are not sure when you are available.

Meanwhile, go a bit easy on yourself. Think about how you would treat a friend, sibling or daughter, and treat yourself like that. You are doing well.

I'm a front of house manager at a hair salon and people cancel and don't rebook. Sometimes they do call back and sometimes they don't. It's quite normal and I don't think anything of it.

Please give enough notice so the slot could be filled. More than 48 hours is appreciated

I stopped going to my hairdresser of 15 years. I just stopped going and started going to a new one. I didn’t explain to her but I did feel a bit awkward for a while. My hair looks much better now so I’m glad I did it!

I just ghost them (after making sure there's no appts in the books). I've been to loads at this point and trust me they're fine. Its their job not their life.

At your penultimate appt say " just to let you know that my next appt will be my last for a while. I want to thank you for doing my hair for so long. My dd prefers to have her hair cut at home so I am going to try that for a while too". And then the very last time you go say goodbye and thx again and give her a bigger tip than usual. That's how I do it anyway unless they are completely awful in which case I just don't book with them again.

This one is easy to solve. Just let the new lash tech know that you don't want photos taken of your lashes. Then she has nothing to put on social media.